Going over the same ground..

ameliarate

Can I just point out, as a woman, I do all the gardening and most of the decorating in our house.

Heffi1

My dad was terrible for bringing down his dirty socks and my mum got fed up of looking on the floor for them each day so she said to him, bring them down for the last time. He of course was not listening and she kept her word, one day he got up for work and no clean sock to be had in the drawer, so he said to her, where are my socks, she replied, where you left them and he looked and saw a pile of socks on the bedroom floor that she had deliberately left for him.

From that day on he brought down his socks and dirty washing, it was the only way he understood, that the housework fairy had gone on strike.

Not too much to ask really when she did everything else for him...

RuthnJasper

My mum does ALL of the "traditionally male" stuff - if she passes on before my dad; I'd give him about two weeks! He'd struggle to look after himself properly without her (finding his glasses being a key issue).

Personally, I'm rather sorry that these ladies haven't got anything more constructive and interesting to talk about...

victory

RuthnJasper wrote: »

Personally, I'm rather sorry that these ladies haven't got anything more constructive and interesting to talk about...

Well I'm sure they all have, that was just the topic of conversation at that moment:D

ska_lover

RuthnJasper wrote: »

Personally, I'm rather sorry that these ladies haven't got anything more constructive and interesting to talk about...

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Ironic

Faith177

I've always the kind of woman who just gets on and does it herself.

I was raised by my mum on her own after my dad died when she was 28 leaving her with a 5 year old and a 9 month old and she just got on with it with no help from anyone really and that rubbed off on me I think.

Think that's why me and my MIL don't get on other than normal housework duties she can't do anything for herself and it drives me mad :mad:

When my mum moved away I brought my house off of her and the relationships I have had since then including OH all the men worked long anti-social hours so I just got on with it

The two times I have asked OH to do something I ended up getting my friend who is good at DIY in to finish them as they were left half done for months on one occasion I had a MASSIVE hole in my wall in the hallway that went into the cupboard under the stairs! TBF to him though work kind of got in the way.

I've done it all in my house put a shed up on my own, bookcases together, re-wired light fittings and plugs, painted walls and wood work, did the garden, unblocked sinks and pipes you name it I think i've turned my hands to most thing.

I was the same when I had my car that was until OH made it catch fire when I was on holiday in Canada :eek: (think i've sussed why i don't ask him to do stuff any more:rotfl: )

If I have a daughter I hope to raise her the same no point waiting for someone else to do something and complaining when it takes them an age might as well get on and do it yourself

RuthnJasper

ska_lover wrote: »

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Ironic

Haha, no - even I'd draw the line at doing the ironing!

Lily-Rose_3

ska_lover wrote: »

Interesting thread Victory

I think somehow, as women, some make a rod for our own back with this...no no no, hear me out lol

We ask our man to do something, and he doesn't do it, so we nag at him. By doing this nagging, (he feels that) we are belittling his almighty ego and mother him, he is MAN grrr (thats just to emphasise the manliness) and wants to be seen to me making his descisions in his own sweet time - not being told what to do by anyone.

So, we treat him like a child, and then what do we do? Moan when he acts in the exact role we have placed him. No, he won't pick up his clothes, cos we treat him like a child....so they are fulfilling the role we are creating. Its psychology and nagging just creates and endless circle of unhappiness

I never ask mine to do anything - I would not be impressed if he asked me to do something, he is not the boss of me! - that is how I would feel lol - I would tell him to fek right off if he demanded I do a specific task within a specific time frame...

Try the power of suggestion - ''shall we do the lawn this weekend'' - and then back away from the situation.

If all else fails - There is nothing that makes a mans balls shrink faster than a woman about to handle a ''manly job'' - try it - pull out the lawnmower and he will appear by your side faster than you can imagine.

This post ^^^ :rotfl::T

When I planted some lovely bedding plants and neatened up the gravel and re-arranged some stuff in the garden, trimmed a dozen or so bushes, and re-arranged the inside of the garage; hubby was absolutely livid. He didn't say anything, but you could see it in his eyes. He did NOT like it at all. :rotfl:

The garden looked lovely, but he must have picked out half a dozen different critisisms. It really put his nose out of joint that I had done the 'man's' jobs.

I didn't give a sh*t though; I wanted to do it, and I know it all looked better after. Don't care what he thought. As much as I love him, I don't need his approval or affirmation for anything. What's more, it's MY garden and MY garage too.

Gloomendoom

Lily-Rose wrote: »

I didn't give a sh*t though; I wanted to do it, and I know it all looked better after. Don't care what he thought. As much as I love him, I don't need his approval or affirmation for anything. What's more, it's MY garden and MY garage too.

I doubt it was anything to do with you doing a man's job. He was probably p!ssed off because you didn't consult him first. After all, it's HIS garden and HIS garage too.