Neighbours throwing food over fence!

ska_lover

I can't believe this dull boring thread is still droning on.

I think they probably threw the stuff over the fence because the OP comes across as highly argumentative and aggressive .... Makes you wonder what he would be like to live next door to...

andygb

ska_lover wrote: »

I can't believe this dull boring thread is still droning on.

I think they probably threw the stuff over the fence because the OP comes across as highly argumentative and aggressive .... Makes you wonder what he would be like to live next door to...

We have constantly helped the NEW neighbours out since they arrived, picking up parcels for them when they were out, topping up their bird feeders for a week when they were on holiday, having the odd chat, and maintained perfectly cordial relations with them.

WE HAVE NEVER ARGUED WITH WITH OUR NEIGHBOURS

Sorry for shouting but maybe it would make you listen - possibly.

It is their offspring who I have a problem with, because we topped up their bird feeders, because the offspring could not be trusted to do so (their words not mine).

I had a word with one of their offspring today (Iconfronted him in a non violent manner), when I mentioned the food thrown over the garden - he asked what it was, and when I told him, he went back inside the house and shut the door.

The neighbours are back on Thursday - so what do I do?

Ska Lover - you should really stop letting your imagination run wild;)

ska_lover

The fact you even feel the need to use the phrase ''non violent manner'' speaks volumes.

andygb

ska_lover wrote: »

The fact you even feel the need to use the phrase ''non violent manner'' speaks volumes.

Well, I have never been violent my entire life, and went through intense bullying at school, so what I said was to reassure folks on here that I would remain calm (even if I feel the need to vent my anger on a keyboard).
I do feel however, that certain people look on older, more chilled out folks such as myself (and of course my wife) as "easy touches", people who they can take advantage of, people who are a little "soft", who will not say "boo to a goose", and will let others take advantage.
Well, that will not happen in this case.

ska_lover

Maybe the bullying you experienced at school has been a big decider in your ''take no cra'p'' attitude. I can understand that.

I think you do have a point about the way you may be being viewed, as a soft touch - and believe you may well not be the hard nut you do come across on here in some of your posts, but you are angry and definately better that you vent on here rather than shouting at next doors or something

Neighbourly issues are difficult - most people will steer well clear as can cause massive issues that as neighbours , we cannot escape from.

You have attempted to speak to the youngster, and sounds like they didn't know it had happened, and aren't that interested. They are young, and quite likely think you are a moaning old fart - but their attitude just reflects their age - and is not personal to you and I am sure if anyone approached them with this issue they would likely not take much notice. When you are young, a lot of people do not think through the consequences of their actions, nor the effect they can have on folk. They haven't yet had to work for a living nor understand the pride you take in a house and home once you are working hard to pay it all off. They aren't clueless morans, they are just thoughtless and niave

I think you need to speak to the parents. I am sure they would give their off spring a kick up the jacksy and get them round to tidy up their mess - which is, what i am sure most decent neighbours would do. To be honest, if it were me, I probably wouldn't speak to them about this - but seeing how het up you are - I think you do need to say something to get this feeling of having being 'mugged off' out of your head , if you see what i mean

I think quite honestly, you are taking this too personally though, as a dig at YOU personally - and I don't think it is about you. It is just young people being insensitive. We were all young and daft once

andygb

ska_lover wrote: »

I think you need to speak to the parents. I am sure they would give their off spring a kick up the jacksy and get them round to tidy up their mess - which is, what i am sure most decent neighbours would do. To be honest, if it were me, I probably wouldn't speak to them about this - but seeing how het up you are - I think you do need to say something to get this feeling of having being 'mugged off' out of your head , if you see what i mean

I think quite honestly, you are taking this too personally though, as a dig at YOU personally - and I don't think it is about you. It is just young people being insensitive. We were all young and daft once

I totally agree with most of your post, particul;arly where my attitude and reaction to bullying has been influenced by my earlier life - I have no problems with that.
I don't take their behaviour as a personal dig at myself, because they do not know me - even their parents do not know me, because we have only had a few friendly conversations.
However, I will be having a perfectly civil conversation with the parents when they return.

Georgiegirl256

ska_lover wrote: »

young, and quite likely think you are a moaning old fart - but their attitude just reflects their age - and is not personal to you and I am sure if anyone approached them with this issue they would likely not take much notice. When you are young, a lot of people do not think through the consequences of their actions, nor the effect they can have on folk. They haven't yet had to work for a living nor understand the pride you take in a house and home once you are working hard to pay it all off. They aren't clueless morans, they are just thoughtless and niave

It is just young people being insensitive. We were all young and daft once

Yeah, but most of us didn't go round throwing food in other people's gardens.

I think it all depends on the young person in question. Some are brought up with impeccable manners, and some it seems are just dragged up. I don't think you can put it purely down to their age, after all, at that age you should know the difference between right and wrong.

ska_lover

Good, I hope you get a resolve

Sometimes neighbours don't have to know you at all to start trouble though, I had problems with mine, on moving in day! All sorted now, but I did have to assert myself greatly

Good luck with it all

ska_lover

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

Yeah, but most of us didn't go round throwing food in other people's gardens.

I think it all depends on the young person in question. Some are brought up with impeccable manners, and some it seems are just dragged up. I don't think you can put it purely down to their age, after all, at that age you should know the difference between right and wrong.

You certainly should. Maybe they forgot their impeccable manners due to being drunk

Georgiegirl256

ska_lover wrote: »

You certainly should. Maybe they forgot their impeccable manners due to being drunk

Or they never had them in the first place. I personally have never felt the urge to damage or mess up someone else's property or possessions whilst drunk.