Neighbours throwing food over fence!

andygb

Well, not exactly the neighbours but their grown up offspring.
The neighbours are away, and last night, one of their sons had a party in the back garden which was noisy and went on late - both things which I can excuse, because I have done it in the past.
However, today we found remnants of their discarded food - looks like subway rolls in our garden next to the fence, and also in the shared passage which gives access to the rear of the properties.
The neighbours are still away, and the young, ignorant oafs are nowhere to be seen.
The neighbours are fairly new, but do say hello and the like, so what do I actually say to them about this when they return, because I find this sort of behaviour pretty disgusting:mad:

nuttywoman

Take pics then whiz it back in theirs !

fivetide

Say nothing to them on their return - assuming you ask their offspring to tidy up the mess from their party and they actually do it.

If not, mention it then. If they were somewhat under the influence I doubt a spot of cleaning was first on the list of priorities before going to bed or even on getting up.

azzabazza

I would approach them to say you have no objection to the odd gathering, the music etc as you were young once yourself. However I would also say that you do object to the discarded food as it may attract vermin and is not very neighbourly. Take the photos as have been suggested.

lika_86

There's every chance your neighbours haven't realised if the food throwing was done by their guests and not by them. So when you see them just mention it to them and ask them to clean up the passageway and say that you also found food in your garden. If they want to keep this quiet from their parents and think there's a risk you'll raise it with their parents then they're likely to be quite sheepish and offer to do the decent thing (if they weren't going to offer anyway).

Alikay

It may have been one of their guests rather than your neighbours' son, but still the same unpleasant outcome for you unfortunately. I must admit to being shocked a couple of times at how some young people behave in other people's homes: It's usually just one or two individuals, but it often happens - it did at my teenage parties in the 70's and it happened a couple of times at my teens parties in recent years: That is precisely why most parents choose to stay on the premises and ban the "Parents On Holiday" parties .

Personally, seeing as no damage has been done and it's a one-off, I wouldn't take it any further but I might lightheartedly mention to the sons that I'd appreciate it if next time they cleaned up after their friends.

suejb2

Bag it up and take it round.At this time of the day they should be getting the munchies and in need of sustenance after all the booze they drank last night!

belfastgirl23

I would gather it up and leave it in a bag on their doorstep with a note saying that you figured they'd rather deal with it before their parents get back. And see what they do - hopefully you'll get an apology.

I wouldn't be inclined to make too much of a fuss about it though, certainly not for a first offence. Just a quick shot over the bows at this stage...

Beckyy

When they get back I would politely mention to them that you had quite a lot of waste food thrown over the fence, that it wasn't a massive problem but you'd be grateful if they could have a word with their children and make sure that it doesn't happen again at their next party.

lika_86

Beckyy wrote: »

When they get back I would politely mention to them that you had quite a lot of waste food thrown over the fence, that it wasn't a massive problem but you'd be grateful if they could have a word with their children and make sure that it doesn't happen again at their next party.

Bit harsh for a first offence. I'm sure we've all had parties that have annoyed others one way or another. Better to give the children a chance to make things right before going nuclear with it.

fivetide

lika_86 wrote: »

Bit harsh for a first offence. I'm sure we've all had parties that have annoyed others one way or another. Better to give the children a chance to make things right before going nuclear with it.

This. Same issue with the passive aggressive note too. Just ask them politely to tidy up, their response determines the next move.