Problems with the In-Laws and Parking

momoyama

I suspect there's no answer to this but it's worth a few minutes of my time just in case I'm missing something or someone can advise on any legal recourse.


I'll try to keep it short.


Back in the summer of 2009 my fianc! was diagnosed with MS. Needless to say this changed our lives in many ways not least of which was the end of her career and the financial implications. We didn't know what path her illness would take at that stage. Her father's a builder and has a fair bit of land. On that land he built us a log cabin. The theory being that it's completely adaptable based should her health deteriorate and a wheelchair or anything else become necessary.


The geography: middle of nowhere. Next to a B-road. No streets. Wife's parents and wife's brother and his wife live on houses adjacent to the road, next to each other. There is a small layby opposite.


We used to park outside her brothers. Then one day we came from our respective activities and found that where we parked was now a garden, with a giant wooden plant pots. Lovely. This was a the demand of the brother's wife, who didn't want cars outside her window. To hell with anyone else and their needs. I have never in, the fourteen years that I've been with my wife, seen her so angry. We went and asked her family if they would consider undoing this as it means further for my wife to walk from the car to home. On a good day this doesn't matter. On a bad day this means added pain and fatigue. For me it's an inconvenience. I put it to them that it would affect her health and pain. They didn't care. Bare in mind that this thoughtless, callous, selfish individual that is my wife's brother's wife is a physiotherapist!


Some three years on, family relations are no better. I've had to involve the Police in regards my wife's father and threats from him to attacker her (another story) and him harassing.


But now what little parking there is is being used. Somedays, including yesterday morning at 06:30 when I got in from work I can't park at all. I'm not talking about having to park a street or three away, I actually can't park at all. So I have to call my wife, wake her or disturb her to move her car somewhere else that the family will ruefully accept so as I can park. I hate doing this but there's nothing else I can do. Diplomacy has failed.


Do I have any options? Any legal recourse? Any other practical advice? I've already downsized my car.


Grateful for any help here.

tea_lover

Move house. Who wants to be that close to unhelpful family??

Confusedandneedhelp

Google street view, as i cannot understand your situation at all re the parking accessibility?

E.g. could the council put in a dedicated disabled parking bay?

lovinituk

Move away is the obvious answer. Why would you want to remain living there with that relationship with the family?

slightlyconfused1

Can you not build a track and parking area next to your log cabin?

thorsoak

Move. Relationship with family is obviously irreconcileable - so why stay?

momoyama

Move away! Ah the obvious answer. Problems:
- No money. Debts. Working on it, slowly clearing loans etc
- On the housing list. (Relatively) low priority as we aren't homeless, wife isn't pregnant etc
- I've tried applying for charitable funds from occupation-related bodies. No-one can help.


This IS a track down to our log cabin. Owned by the wife's brother. The one time ever that I did park there purely because I was in a rush to get in from activity, change and out for work, I got blocked in just to make a point.

hazyjo

As above - the Council will probably add a disabled parking bay if asked. My friend had no probs for her elderly mother - unless you mean there's no parking... in which case how have you parked outside their house? How far is their house from the road? Or is it a sort of driveway or something? As above, it's a bit confusing!

I must admit I wouldn't like a car outside my house if I'd bought what I thought was a house on a street where I wouldn't get cars outside, but I would have been understanding if no other parking options and if family.

Jx

momoyama

hazyjo wrote: »

As above - the Council will probably add a disabled parking bay if asked. My friend had no probs for her elderly mother - unless you mean there's no parking... in which case how have you parked outside their house? How far is their house from the road? Or is it a sort of driveway or something? As above, it's a bit confusing!

Private land so I would imagine the council couldn't add a disabled bay. My wife does indeed have a blue badge.


The "drive" such that it is runs parallel to the house. The house is pretty much right on the road.

hazyjo wrote: »

I must admit I wouldn't like a car outside my house if I'd bought what I thought was a house on a street where I wouldn't get cars outside, but I would have been understanding if no other parking options and if family.

I don't like my wife being in pain and I hope that her family would think the same. The parking has always been used as a parking area.




I've created a .JPG file showing the geography. I just need to work out how to upload it.

Caroline_a

Buy a really old banger. Then if you get blocked in you can happily squeeze (scrape) past with no fear of losing any value from your car.

Seriously - scrimp and save like mad for a deposit on a rental somewhere else. Get out before it poisons your lives...

jobbingmusician

Uploading your JPG.

I had the very same problem today, and discussed it with my boss, a computer whizz. He didn't have any better solution than the rather poor one I eventually found, which was to dump the document in Paint (boss said photoshop is better), take a screenshot, and upload the ss to a file sharing site.....