How many people don't like you?

Anatidaephobia

I used to care what people thought of me but now, for the most part, I don't care and I try to move on from the odd occasion that it does get to me. As long as someone doesn't treat me unfairly because they dislike me, I don't care. I have been bullied in work before (and to think, when I was a kid, I thought bullying was something that only happened at school!) presumably because they didn't like me for whatever reason and those experiences were horrible.

I don't know how many people dislike me but I think probably a lot because I'm a bit socially awkward. I'm not good at small talk and I'm not good at initiating conversation with people I don't know well. As a result, I know that people sometimes think I'm rude when I don't mean to be.

Tropez

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

I actually like the green ones!

This.... this.... no, this isn't right. This isn't right at all.

Something's wrong here, very wrong.

There's only one reasonable explanation for this. None of this is real. I've clearly been abducted by aliens and placed into some sort of bizarre holographic reality.

Oh they were good, I'll give them that. They almost had me fooled.

But what could they want from me? I hope it's not another probing....

Morglin

FattyBettyBoo wrote: »

I was talking to the OH yesterday about how many people don't like us individually ... him none, me quite a few.

We went on to discover that while he is quite short tempered and out spoken, he always acts like nothing happened after he made his point. He is also very forgiving when people have disrespected him.

As I get older I've found I care more what people think of me, but contrary to this, I still am very unforgiving. Once someone has done something to disrespected me I find it hard to move on. So there are a few people who I dislike and they dislike me back.

I also find myself telling people when they are annoying me, they get cross, we fall out, and I find it hard to move on. It never bothered me in past, but for some reason is starting to now.

I also cut a couple of extremely negative people out of my life as they kept bringing me down and the relationship was just them taking form me. But then I feel awkward when we have mutual friends or see each other.

Do people just lets other people's comments and behaviour wash over them? Do they go the extra mile that I won't to stay in people's good books?

Quite a few, I expect......:eek:

I can be abrasive, short tempered, and blunt, and am not one of life's appeasers, but, then again, I don't I go all "little flower" if other people are the same!

I am not nasty, or vindictive, but I don't suffer fools gladly, and there are always fools around... :whistle:

I would far sooner people say what they think, to me, than run around behind my back saying it to others.

But, as I have got older, I care less and less about what casual acquaintances/neighbours/strangers etc., think, I suppose because my friends are so long established, my family are used to me lol, and I couldn't give a toss what people I don't care about think about anything.

I don't hold grudges particularly, but if someone really hacks me off, I just blank them out of my life, and that's it.

No one can possibly be liked by everyone, so it's not worth worrying about, in my view.

Lin

Georgiegirl256

Tropez wrote: »

This.... this.... no, this isn't right. This isn't right at all.

Something's wrong here, very wrong.

There's only one reasonable explanation for this. None of this is real. I've clearly been abducted by aliens and placed into some sort of bizarre holographic reality.

Oh they were good, I'll give them that. They almost had me fooled.

But what could they want from me? I hope it's not another probing....

Don't worry. They'll feed you a green sweet of your choice first....you won't feel a thing!

catkins

I used to care a lot whether people liked me or not. I was very shy and very insecure. Now I don't really care.


I know my MIL doesn't like me but then she doesn't really like anyone except herself and her daughter (no she doesn't like her son, my OH). In my last job there was a guy who didn't like me and made it pretty obvious but, again, he didn't like many people and most people didn't like him.


I have a couple of neighbours that I don't think like me or OH but that's because they are nosy narrow minded busybodies. Oh and the guy across the road from me who I am pretty sure is a drug dealer glares at me as if he hates me. I think that is because I walk my dogs a lot and so often see him making his deals!


Just have to add that when it comes to sweets I only like yellow and green ones. All others I give to OH (particularly hate orange and black ones)

hgotsparkle

My OH is the same, he can shrug something off once its done with and as hes very matter of fact, then people still like him no matter how offensive he gets.

Me, I know I give off an air of snobbishness but I can't help it, my natural face is a bit of a frown and I do stare at people quite a bit, but I'm not being horrible, thats just something I do, and I know that puts a lot of people off me, but I really don't care if people like me or not. If people like me, then they're worth liking back. If they don't....well I'm not going to give them any sort of attention to try and change their opinion.

snowleopard61

Green, red, black, none of them hit the spot. The only sweets worth bothering with are either brown (chocolate) or white and pale pink (marshmallows).

I don’t feel a huge need to be liked, but I do try to avoid being actively disliked by anyone I have no choice but to come into contact with, e.g. at work, where I suppose I aim to be polite and unexceptionable [I put 'exceptionable' first time round!!]so people have no actual cause for complaint. I’m quite solitary and self-contained, so it really wouldn’t bother me if I never saw anyone socially apart from my family and my OH and his family; hence I tend not to get close enough to people for them to have strong feelings either way.

This hasn’t always been the case, but I’ve moved around (geographically) so much, through force of circumstances rather than choice, that it’s been easy to let friendships and acquaintanceships drop, and conversely quite hard to keep them going without a lot of effort, which I don’t particularly want to make as I’d be happier with a book or TV anyway! My ex-husband, although not the easiest of people to those close to him, is hugely sociable with a full address book and loves to keep in touch with scores of friends gathered from everywhere he’s lived, something I found hard to live with although I do think it’s quite admirable. (BTW I don’t think he dislikes me, though he certainly did around the time when we split up!) My current OH is very close to his family and doesn’t bother too much with friendships, which suits me much better.

Hang on, beige is good too (fudge. Mmmm.).

Alias_Omega

a) Do i care?
b) Should i care?