How many people don't like you?

Snakey

Loads, probably. You only have to hang out on an internet forum for a few days to see what random prejudices people have and the weirdest of reasons for deciding that whole swathes of the population aren't worth even bothering to get to know. And that's before anybody gets to experience my scintillating personality.

I was about to say I care less as I get older, but actually that's not quite correct. I never cared, it's just that when you're younger you are at the mercy of the consequences of unpopularity because you have a smaller social circle which you cannot get away from, and so in a very real sense you are forced to be concerned about what people think of you. Now I'm older, most people who dislike me can do very little about it beyond letting me know that they dislike me.

TBH it's more a case that people seem to disapprove of me, rather than actively dislike me. I'd be a total liar if I made myself out to be some sort of unconventional free spirit, but I am definitely not on the same life path as the people around me tend to be and it does make me a bit of an outsider (in the non-cool sense of the word).

I'm quite partial to those bags of Sports Mix, they are tougher to chew than standard wine gum types, and I like that.

ManofLeisure_2

Don't really know as I'm not clairvoyant

FattyBettyBoo

The people who I know don't like me (and vice versa) are:

1. The woman that stole my wheelbarrow, then posted a photo on the internet with puppies in it. Went round to get it with the photo in hand and she just laugh at me.

2. the mutual friend that bad mouthed every other friend. I said "don't talk to me if you've nothing nice to say", so she doesn't

3. The friend that was seeing my boyfriend behind my back for 3 months

4. and the passive aggressive 'over-reactor' that replied to everything with "what's that supposed to mean?". One of those you can't say anything too without them taking it the wrong way.

It seems a lot compared to most people. Living in while a small town and mixing in similar social circles does mean you bump into these people though, which is awkward.

DFlights

Might be my paranoia, but for the past couple of years or so, I've had the distinct impression that many of my friends really only have me around either because they just like my partner (he and I usually go places together), or because they feel the need to have someone to look down on. I wouldn't care so much except that their partners are also friends of ours (really nice ones) who we like to see, and also because I don't like being made to feel stupid or small.

I think a lot of them just need to have someone to put down all the time, and muggins here falls into that category because my life is different (no kids, still renting, still on lowish wage, arts degree instead of MSc, that sort of thing). Seems to be some form of snobbery from them, but I can't figure it out. It definitely isn't jealousy, I just think some of them like being patronising gits.

22cuddles

I'm sure there are some that dislike me, just as there's some that I dislike/find them harder to get on with. There's one in my social circle. I don't dislike her as such but I find her very hard going so can only tolerate her in small doses. I think it's because we've got quite different interests and outlooks on life. In fact, most of my friends probably think I'm quite boring as I'm not as interested in going out and getting blind drunk as they are but it doesn't bother me too much, we're just at different stages in life.

fairy_lights

I suffer from social anxiety and worry constantly what people think of me. Sometimes I avoid social situations because I get so stressed by the thought of making a bad impression on people, and convince myself that no one could ever like me. I'm in a long term relationship and I worry about people disliking my oh too


As for how many people truly dislike me, I couldn't say. I always convince myself that nobody likes me but I know that is because the anxiety is warping my thinking.


I always have to stop and remind myself to stop being so egotistical...people have got much better things to do with their time than that sit around all day disliking me

ScarletRibbons

I'm now old enough to cope with the fact that not everyone will like me. I don't like everyone that I know, so it's pretty certain that not everyone will like me!

DKLS

Don't know and certainly don't care, some people will like me and some won't, I can't control what they think so its a waste of my time and energy to be concerned in any way.

However some of the best and most successful working relationships I have had is where we have had a mutual hatred of each other. I worked with a women for 3 years and we despised each other and wouldn't have piddled on each other if one of us was on fire, yet together on a project we were awesome and unstoppable and we would laugh at the directors targets as we could blow the yearly targets out of the water in 3 months.

She still send me bile filled emails to this day and I return the favour, thinking back we really should have had sex, I bet it would have been wild.

Georgiegirl256

Tropez wrote: »

Yeah, mostly, providing you're not just leaving them the green ones. The green ones are always the least liked.

In some cultures, offering someone a Maynard's Wine Gum and presenting a bag containing only green ones is considered poorer etiquette than turning up drunk on their doorstep at five in the morning with a demented monkey who proceeds to throw his leavings at the occupant's mother.

I actually like the green ones!

System

I'd say my ex, his whole family and his gf hate me with a passion

Judging by the amount of verbal anise I was given last time I had the misfortune of having to speak to him. Thankfully since then I've moved house and changed my number so I don't have to have any contact.

Life is much better without him in it!