Cheap Husband Alert

SailorSam

geerex wrote: »

Ok, who else thought the thread title was some sort of "inexpensive males available" for the more spinster-y types on here? :-)

I'm with you there Geerex. As soon as i saw the title of the thread i thought ......... what a good idea and i was just about the start a second thread in search of a cheap woman.

System

xcarlyx wrote: »

My income is only 10k a year.. I don't complain Although I'd love to have 30k a year.

That's not the point that she's making though is it? She's making a point about the equality of splitting the bills.

Don't take the thread off topic.

Mojisola

orlando32835 wrote: »

My husband of 2 years makes well over $125K yearly but does not spend a dime on me and insists all household bills are split down the middle. I also have to pay for my own health insurance, car, cell, household food, gas, personal items etc. My yearly income is only $30k and I have 2 kids in college. Sometimes I feel more like a roommate, than a wife. I also have to cook, clean and make sure everyone is happy and well taken care of. Does anyone other than myself see anything wrong with this?

Why are you still living with this man?

BucksLady

OP, If I were in your situation, there would be a few choice words spoken. By treating you in this way, he's clearly making you feel unhappy and unloved - have you tried speaking with him?

peachyprice

OP, at least you're already self-sufficient so you'll be able to cope easily when you pack your bags and leave him.

VestanPance

There is no right or wrong way on how couples decide to contribute to finances. Some will pool all resources together and some will stick with a what's mine is mine and what's yours is yours, but they must both agree on the method they use.

It sounds to me like you never had that discussion before moving in together or getting married, which is truly dumbfounding. Either that or you just assumed he'd change his mind after a period of time.

In this situation I think the OP is just as liable for blame as the husband. These things need to be discussed up front, not years later.

Gigervamp

torbrex wrote: »

Who gives a crap about what currency it is, my take home pay last year was £3726 so anyone that says £17k is a low wage needs to get their head examined :mad:

But you get free healthcare and possibly benefits. OP is in the States and will have to pay for healthcare insurance which is horribly expensive.

As has been pointed out previously, you're not comparing like for like.

Anyway, OP was asking about the disparity between her and her husband's earnings and that he insists on a 50/50 split of the bills.

Goldiegirl

VestanPance wrote: »

In this situation I think the OP is just as liable for blame as the husband. These things need to be discussed up front, not years later.

I tend to agree.


it would be fairer if the husband paid the household expenses on a pro-rata basis according to his income, or for all household income to be pooled.


But the OP is culpable too for allowing this situation to arise and to continue.


Surely, before they married, the OP must have noticed the husbands to be's attitudes towards money, and would have talked about how it would work after marriage?


If this discussion did happen, and it's not working as planned, has she talked to the husband since?


I think the OP needs to have a serious talk with her husband, and if he's not willing to change, maybe it's time to leave the marriage behind

TopQuark

torbrex wrote: »

Who gives a crap about what currency it is, my take home pay last year was £3726 so anyone that says £17k is a low wage needs to get their head examined :mad:

What's your point exactly? 1.3 billion people live on >> 10 times less than you, so anyone who says 3,726 GBP/Yr is a low wage needs their head examined.

See how irrelevant your post was?

SavingPennies_2

torbrex wrote: »

Who gives a crap about what currency it is, my take home pay last year was £3726 so anyone that says £17k is a low wage needs to get their head examined :mad:

Well I'm assuming you don't work 35 hours a week, every week, to earn that wage. I'd I'll also guess you get working tax credits or whatever they are called and the rest of the benefits if you have children. So what is your point?..