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Cheap Husband Alert

orlando32835
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My husband of 2 years makes well over $125K yearly but does not spend a dime on me and insists all household bills are split down the middle. I also have to pay for my own health insurance, car, cell, household food, gas, personal items etc. My yearly income is only $30k and I have 2 kids in college. Sometimes I feel more like a roommate, than a wife. I also have to cook, clean and make sure everyone is happy and well taken care of. Does anyone other than myself see anything wrong with this?
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Absolutely there's something wrong with that. Your husband shouldn't be keeping you in a cell, let alone making you pay for the cell.Q: What kind of discussions aren't allowed?
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From your message, I presume you live over the pond - am I correct?
Is this a second marriage - are your children the children of another marriage? Doesn't their father pay maintenance? And do they not have jobs? I know that this is the norm for students in USA.0 -
There is always something wrong when someone says that their income is ONLY 30k, some of us have to live on a lot less than that and would never say only.0
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There is always something wrong when someone says that their income is ONLY 30k, some of us have to live on a lot less than that and would never say only.
She is talking dollars though, I'm assuming American given her use of the word 'cel', which means she is on about £17K a year, so that is a low wage, especially compared to her hubby's £72K job.0 -
bagpussbear wrote: »She is talking dollars though, I'm assuming American given her use of the word 'cel', which means she is on about £17K a year, so that is a low wage, especially compared to her hubby's £72K job.0
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Ok, who else thought the thread title was some sort of "inexpensive males available" for the more spinster-y types on here? :-)0
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My income is only 10k a year.. I don't complain Although I'd love to have 30k a year.0
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By (in this example) the husband not gifting money to his wife, it suggests possible trust/relationship issues - for example, he does not 100% love her, is not sure he wants to grow old with her, believes she is bad with money, or another issue. Then again, perhaps he simply wants to invest the money himself to take care of both of them in retirement.
By (in this example) the wife assuming she is owed some/most of what the husband earns, it sounds like she married him for his money, at least partly.
orlando32835, on what is your husband spending his money? Wild parties full of teenage girls? Speedboats and sports cars? Long-term low-yield bonds?
Does he work longer hours than you? More days? Is his job more demanding and more stressful?
Do you have a history of being bad with money? I notice you didn't say you pay for rent or a mortgage - are you living in his house? Does he pay the mortgage, property taxes, etc? Did you expect he would start paying for tuition for your children?
And finally... HAVE YOU SPOKEN TO HIM ABOUT THIS?
I can see quite a few possibilities where your post is completely factual but your husband is doing nothing wrong. More information, please!Q: What kind of discussions aren't allowed?
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Who gives a crap about what currency it is, my take home pay last year was £3726 so anyone that says £17k is a low wage needs to get their head examined :mad:
But this thread isn't about you, I couldn't care less what you earnt or the fact you are obviously bitter about it. The fact of the matter is that there is a problem between the large discrepancy between the OP's wage and her husband's, and the feeling of unfairness here.0
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