Change of Names after Wedding

suki1964

I changed my name to my husbands is everything other then passport and my own personal bank account. All bills etc said mr and mrs s. driving license says mrs s. passport is still miss p

Works for us.

graemecomp

peachyprice wrote: »

It really isn't a big problem, certainly not one to stop your fiancee taking your name. I've taken my children all over the world, never been stopped, anywhere, most people never are.

Where have you read these requirements?

Sites like mumsnet and immigration sites for US/Canada initially but also other European country official sites.

All make mention of notorised letter from father (especially Canadian site) which also looks for travel details / accommodation / nature of trip details - which would mean a new letter for each trip.

PintAndAPie

I have this situation with my son, it has been mentioned a couple of times when going through immigration controls but has never been a problem.

Flugelhorn

I am married and never changed my name - kids have my husband's name -never had any problem with passport control

GobbledyGook

The issue of the surname and the issue of permission from the father to take the children abroad are two totally separate things. No matter what she calls herself there are still countries who will look for permission from the other parent if they are not travelling.

The surname thing is not a big drama. It's something one newspaper and one website has picked on and something that a few people who object to being asked to prove their link to a child they are taking out the country have decided is newsworthy when it's not. It doesn't happen that often and when it does most people just deal with it and get on with your trip, in the same way that sometimes your entire bag is tipped out and sometimes they have a quick look and wave you on.

There are some cultures where it's incredibly common for children not to have the same name as their mother so it's something immigration officers are used too.

LittleMrsThrifty

I sense there are two issues here and one is being used to mask the other.

1. Travelling with a different name to her children. - This can be resolved.
2. Living with a different name to her children. - I expect this is what she is really concerned about.

ali-t

graemecomp wrote: »

Sites like mumsnet and immigration sites for US/Canada initially but also other European country official sites.

All make mention of notorised letter from father (especially Canadian site) which also looks for travel details / accommodation / nature of trip details - which would mean a new letter for each trip.

How often do you travel to US / canada as a family? If it's never or rarely, this shouldn't be given much weight when deciding on names.

Person_one

graemecomp wrote: »

We were both keen to have the change - what I meant was when we thought that her keeping part of his name and double barrelling it with mine was a possibility, then I felt quite strongly that I didn't want his name to be part of her future name.

It may sound a little petty, but that's how it made me feel when we talked about it.

Whatever her name is, its her name now, wherever she originally got it from. Unless you think only men actually own their names and women just borrow men's.

It does sound petty, yes.

FBaby

My kids have a different surname to me and although it has at time slowed down going through customs with a few more questions, it has never caused problems.

Saying that, last year when my kids' passports were renewed, a 'given name' was added which included their dad's name and mine double barrelled. That allows for the legal link between us without changing their official name. It's a foreign passport though so don't know if British passports allow for the same flexibility.

I got married last year and changed my name, but had had to renew my passport the previous year, so will continue to travel with my previous name for some time.

Personally, I don't understand mothers who keep their ex's surname for the sake of the kids when they have separated from them. I certainly would not have wanted to be called by my ex's surname, it would have been very odd.

Morglin

I couldn't wait to get rid of my ex's surname, as it was a reminder of him every time a letter came!

Passport controls are well aware that many children have different names to their parents, just take some documentation either you.

Lin