Nice People 12: Nice in Nice

ukmaggie45

Masomnia wrote: »

Thanks Maggie I'm just a bit up and down. Keep switching between utter despair thinking 'how did it come to this?' to feeling all hopeful and optimistic and looking forward to a new start.

Just applied for a job that's absolutely perfect for me, and it's based in inner Herts! The dream is not dead.

Sending you the job vibes from Liverpool! Finding a job is a bit like finding a house it seems to me - you search and search, see something you want, it doesn't work out, but you have to keep trying. Eventually something clicks and you find the home (or job) of your dreams... Or at least the best that you can find at this moment in time. While you're still young there's always the option to change - job or house, sometimes both happen together if move needed. Really hope you get this job!

But if worst happens and you don't, the next one to come may be even better. We nearly bought a house and I was constantly saying "well we can live here for a couple of years while we do old home up and move back there if we don't like it"... Vendor was a PIA so we withdrew offer, and about 2 days later the home we are living in now came back on the market. In the road we tried to buy a home in around 20 years ago. Just to say that sometimes life synchronises and it all works. I'm convinced you *will* get the job of your hopes and dreams in time. Hugs.

lostinrates wrote: »

Have so enjoyed last few days. Really going to miss solitude.

Have to buy milk and stuff tomorrow.

Oh dear LiR. Trying to send you some strengthening and encouraging vibes.

I rarely have solitude, and struggle to cope when I do. Though I did enjoy my couple of days alone at the caravan when OH came home to sort out the lottie. But they very carefully planned for with easy cook food etc for me. Used to stay there alone often when OH was still working full time, but I was still driving back then. And still capable of doing some simple proper cooking too. When I think back to then I realise how much capability I've lost. But I also realise that I am learning new ways of living with it, and planning better. If that makes sense?

PasturesNew

lostinrates wrote: »

Have to buy milk and stuff tomorrow.

That's over-rated... I tried to buy milk earlier, Lidl's had run out of 2 pints and could only offer 4, so I am still milkless. Milk lasts about 10 days, but I've not got through the last 2 pints and it's 2 days after it's BBE date.

Generali

zagubov wrote: »

I'm more worried by the wafer-thin gap between the three parties' policies. I gather in Ireland their main parties are so similar the public call them Coke and Pepsi.;)

Politics here is strange for a Pom. Aussies basically don't do politics so even the pooiticians try to be apolitical.

Ideology is rarely if ever discussed and debate, such that it is, is generally framed around operational competence rather than policy. Instead, Aussie politicians will go for grand commissions of enquiry and then introduce their proposals over the next 20 years in a bi-partisan, piecemeal way.

I think it's what leaves Aus open to populists f...tards like Hansen and Jacqui Lambi. It's quite positive in some ways as you don't have the ridiculous situation where a Government will introduce sweeping changes and the next one changes it all back again.

The quality of debate is risible however and the treatment of Aboriginals and Torres Strait Islanders is a disgrace.

zagubov

ukmaggie45 wrote: »

Sending you the job vibes from Liverpool! Finding a job is a bit like finding a house it seems to me - you search and search, see something you want, it doesn't work out, but you have to keep trying. Eventually something clicks and you find the home (or job) of your dreams... Or at least the best that you can find at this moment in time. While you're still young there's always the option to change - job or house, sometimes both happen together if move needed. Really hope you get this job!

But if worst happens and you don't, the next one to come may be even better. We nearly bought a house and I was constantly saying "well we can live here for a couple of years while we do old home up and move back there if we don't like it"... Vendor was a PIA so we withdrew offer, and about 2 days later the home we are living in now came back on the market. In the road we tried to buy a home in around 20 years ago. Just to say that sometimes life synchronises and it all works. I'm convinced you *will* get the job of your hopes and dreams in time. Hugs.



Oh dear LiR. Trying to send you some strengthening and encouraging vibes.

I rarely have solitude, and struggle to cope when I do. Though I did enjoy my couple of days alone at the caravan when OH came home to sort out the lottie. But they very carefully planned for with easy cook food etc for me. Used to stay there alone often when OH was still working full time, but I was still driving back then. And still capable of doing some simple proper cooking too. When I think back to then I realise how much capability I've lost. But I also realise that I am learning new ways of living with it, and planning better. If that makes sense?

At least in your area there's good houses! In London, a crumbling shack would get called a house where anywhere else it would be regarded as work for a bulldozer.

A friend showed me his house and confessed they'd viewed over a hundred by the time they realised this was the one worth buying. It was identical to our house (four bed semi, looks like nowt on the outside but a bit TARDIS-y on the inside) but had a driveway you could park a car on. It was on a traffic-free side street that kids could play on.

Cracking state grammar school area. Next to the Thames, a park, and a few minutes walk from a fantastically well-laid-out town centre with all mod cons. Jammy git!

GDB2222

zagubov wrote: »

At least in your area there's good houses! In London, a crumbling shack would get called a house where anywhere else it would be regarded as work for a bulldozer.

A friend showed me his house and confessed they'd viewed over a hundred by the time they realised this was the one worth buying. It was identical to our house (four bed semi, looks like nowt on the outside but a bit TARDIS-y on the inside) but had a driveway you could park a car on. It was on a traffic-free side street that kids could play on.

Cracking state grammar school area. Next to the Thames, a park, and a few minutes walk from a fantastically well-laid-out town centre with all mod cons. Jammy git!

The harder he worked at it, the jammier he got.

GDB2222

ukmaggie45 wrote: »

I rarely have solitude, and struggle to cope when I do. Though I did enjoy my couple of days alone at the caravan when OH came home to sort out the lottie. But they very carefully planned for with easy cook food etc for me. Used to stay there alone often when OH was still working full time, but I was still driving back then. And still capable of doing some simple proper cooking too. When I think back to then I realise how much capability I've lost. But I also realise that I am learning new ways of living with it, and planning better. If that makes sense?

I don't cope very well with solitude. I think I will, but the reality is that I very quickly become rather aimless.

I'm sorry, Maggie, that you are having to cope with your illness. However, the way you are coping with it so cheerfully is something I admire tremendously. You really are wonderful.

Plus the photos are lovely. Please keep posting them.

PasturesNew

I ended up staying up all night. Spotted yesterday that Lidl still have some of those solar/LED spotlights in stock (£30) and decided to get one as it'll serve a purpose until I get to the stage where I've got a proper/electric system set up. Back garden's pitch black, there's no lighting whatsoever in the parking area, so, as the evenings are drawing in, it'll get to the point where I'm arriving back in the pitch dark, to then have to come up the garden in the pitch dark, to find the door in the pitch dark ... etc. So for £30 it's a solution that I can "install" myself ... even if that means sticking it on the windowsill indoors until I get round to working out where best to mount it

lostinrates

ukmaggie45 wrote: »

Oh dear LiR. Trying to send you some strengthening and encouraging vibes.

I rarely have solitude, and struggle to cope when I do. Though I did enjoy my couple of days alone at the caravan when OH came home to sort out the lottie. But they very carefully planned for with easy cook food etc for me. Used to stay there alone often when OH was still working full time, but I was still driving back then. And still capable of doing some simple proper cooking too. When I think back to then I realise how much capability I've lost. But I also realise that I am learning new ways of living with it, and planning better. If that makes sense?

Yes, it makes sense. .

I've fought back from 'nothing' once and I'm really not willing to do it again so I'm really pushing boundaries now:D. I'm really. Really hopeful about surgery. Its not going to happen this year what ever now, gosh, when you think it looked all go ahead quickly in the beginning of summer . Funding also looks like its going to be an issue. But, we'll have to find it.

I can cook and feed dogs etc most days for which I am grateful because I know what its like not t0.

But my brain power is gone, huge tracts of mental ability. Some of the skills that made me 'me' are gone. Physically....pffft. As you know, I try not to give up, some days its harder some easier.

Its been a really improved summer physically and I am grateful. . Long may it continue.

LydiaJ

lostinrates wrote: »

I have a letter from last weeks consultant.

He has gone so far as to suggest a surgeon who might be interested :j

Sounds promising. Do I take it the :j means you are pleased about this, or are your feelings more complicated than that?

SingleSue wrote: »

OT has been, lovely woman. She has said I need various rails around the house, a working shower and the extra step plus rails outside.

Wonders of wonders, she arrived early...but before I was able to do my washing up, mortified!

So glad it went well. If the washing up was the only thing you hadn't done, then I'm sure she was thinking how tidy and beautiful your house is.

lostinrates wrote: »

Dunno, but we've had as close, and think of those 'kitchens in a cupboards' ideal for a tiny pied a terre where some one might barely actually cook at all, but reheat food sometimes, make a hot drink.....they are closer, and , IMO, more likely for accident as everything is so compact. .

Cookers are designed to be completely safe if water from a saucepan sloshes all over them. A sink at that distance is no problem at all.

PasturesNew

LydiaJ wrote: »

Cookers are designed to be completely safe if water from a saucepan sloshes all over them. A sink at that distance is no problem at all.

I was thinking about getting a shock if you're in the middle of washing up - and reach to turn the knob as something's about to boil over ... and if it's not earthed properly .... can't you fry?

The ability to be touching electrical stuff, while up to your elbows in water. I've no sockets whatsoever on the water side of the kitchen ... but I think that's skimping/poor developer design, rather than any safety considerations.