Selfish or not?

nikkit72

I've no idea Fbaby, he said it's best he goes there

newcook

daisiegg wrote: »

But you said your son knows nothing about his half sister...?

I think OP said their son was only 4 so probably would have forgotten about half sister as not seen her for nearly 2 years

peachyprice

I would be very suspicious, it unusual for a girl of that age to not want to meet her little brother, unless her parents have given her a good reason why she can't i.e mummy and daddy are getting back together.

thorsoak

Right, now we have established why you referred to "the kid" perhaps you could clear up another couple of points.

(1) How old is this child now? You say you've known her for 91/2 years - had your OH lived in a relationship with her mother, or did he just have visitation/access rights?

(2) Has your OH made any efforts during your marriage to get access ?

It may well be that his daughter (because that it what she is) is of an age when she doesn't want to hear what her mother has to say about her father and wants to find out for herself what sort of person he is. Does she know about her half-brother?

It would seem that your OH has a lot of sorting out to do - a child is not a commodity that you can put down and pick up when it suits you - let's face it, if he can behave like this to his daughter, he could behave equally badly towards his son

McKneff

Get dolled up and go with him.....

POPPYOSCAR

No you are not being selfish.

His first child should be a part of all your lives.

What he is doing is not acceptable and you are right making that clear to him.

Does he not see that he is damaging his marriage?

FBaby

nikkit72 wrote: »

I've no idea Fbaby, he said it's best he goes there

But such a response should follow with a...because....

nikkit72

Mckneff the ex hates me, she would slam door into face,
Child is 12, we had contact upto when we got married, the ex then turned the child against us we had nasty emails from the ex, no we did not go to court for access as we are on a budget. But he did go round the house any a times but no one would answer door.
He decided to stop the upset for him and **** he would send letters birthday cards Christmas cards, we even opened a bank account and have been putting in money for ****
Yes *** knows about our son, *** came round until he was 18 months, so he would not rememeber her now.

daisiegg

It does seem very strange for him to only see her at her mum's house. Also surely boring for a twelve year old?! Why doesn't he take her out? He doesn't have to bring her to your house but could take her somewhere and you and your son could meet them?

nikkit72

I've told him to take **** out to park and we will meet them, he's response was, they(him and ex) have agreed for him to go just to the house..