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Selfish or not?
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Why doesn't his ex like you? She's obviously keeping the child away from you for a reason... however misguided it might be.This is a system account and does not represent a real person. To contact the Forum Team email forumteam@moneysavingexpert.com0
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Make it clear to him that you don't have an issue with him seeing her, not even with you not being involved, that what you have an issue is with him going over to her house without seeming to make any plans for her to start coming over to yours.0
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Because he married me and we had a son. Xxx she always thought he would go back to her,Dont forget that little Thanks button , only takes a sec0
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‘The kid’?! surely you mean ‘his child’?!
It sounds as if you resent his first child as he/she now wants to get to know their dad. It is also not his childs fault that your child doesn’t know they have a sibling – this is down to you and your husband.
Giving you husband an ultimatum is not going to do you any favours. His first child doesn’t know you and 2 months is quite soon to start demanding that he brings the child to your house. Child and dad need to get their own relationship going first.
Maybe it is frustrating seeing your husband making an effort to look clean, tidy and respectable for his ex but do you really think that she would want her child to go out somewhere if he looked a mess?
I think you should sit down with your husband and ask why he no longer makes an effort for you and your child.0 -
His first child has known me for 9.5 years !!!!!! She came round here for 7 years !!! Don't say I don't his child !!! I was a second mum to **** until the ex didn't like the fact we got married and had a son !!!!Dont forget that little Thanks button , only takes a sec0
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Has your husband told his child about your son yet?0
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**** knows about me I have known ****for 9.5 years was **** 2nd mum for 7 years, our son was 18 months when she stopped coming, so yes **** knows me, yes **** knows our sonDont forget that little Thanks button , only takes a sec0
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But you said your son knows nothing about his half sister...?0
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So why doesn't the child want to see too again?0
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Our son was 18 months old, he doesn't remember a girl who came here, I have sat down and talked to him today he is only just 4 so it's confusing for him. He knows as he also hast older 3 children who have a different dad so he knows that his daddy is not his elder siblings dadDont forget that little Thanks button , only takes a sec0
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