It's this stupid little thing...

Kayalana99

This thread is getting a bit silly now..

I asked her twice...over the space of 5 days. I really don't consider that hounding?

& it isn't about the cake, it's the fact this person is supposed to be a really good friend to me but was blatantly ignoring me. As someone else said I AM more worried about the silence then the cake, but at the same time I feel bad that my family member had spent 3-4 hours on this cake and it wasn't appreciated.

I really don't understand how I am in the wrong ~ I gave her a gift I asked her if she liked it....she ignored me.

Pollycat

Kayalana99 wrote: »

This thread is getting a bit silly now.

Now?
IMHO, the thread was a 'bit silly' from the start.

Kayalana99 wrote: »

I asked her twice...over the space of 5 days. I really don't consider that hounding?

& it isn't about the cake, it's the fact this person is supposed to be a really good friend to me but was blatantly ignoring me. As someone else said I AM more worried about the silence then the cake, but at the same time I feel bad that my family member had spent 3-4 hours on this cake and it wasn't appreciated.

I really don't understand how I am in the wrong ~ I gave her a gift I asked her if she liked it....she ignored me.

Posters have given you their opinion based on what you've posted.

You clearly don't like or agree with what's been written.

You don't think you're in the wrong.

I guess that's the end of it then.

globetraveller

If you really were more worried about the silence then you would have done something about it by now. Pick up the phone and speak to her!!!



"It was my friends birthday on Monday last week and I had originally said I was going to make her a cake because she made me one ~ she wanted a white chocolate cake and I decided as I knew a really good cake maker I would ask her to do it. So I paid quite a bit out for a white chocolate cake + I also made some fairy cakes so that I had made her something as well."


that's a great relative you have- making you pay quite a bit. Hopefully if she does charge so much she will have tried and tested her cake herself.
On the face of it, it looks like she made you a cake, you didn't want to give her a homemade cake of yours back so went over the top with an expensive cake and then added fairy cakes. Look at me , I can do so much better than you. That is probably what she thought and so made a point of eating her brothers homemade cake instead. Now you want to rub her nose in it and insist she tells you how fantastic this expensive cake is.


That is probably nothing at all of what she is thinking and not really what I think( apart from your relative charging you so much and then hounding you). But it is probably what is going through your head just now. So for goodness sake- the answer is so simple- no texts, no posting on forums, just pick the phone up and talk!

Pollycat

globetraveller wrote: »

So for goodness sake- the answer is so simple- no texts, no posting on forums, just pick the phone up and talk!

Pretty much what I advised too - before the OP decided the thread was getting 'a bit silly'.

I'm sure people would find things a lot less hassle if they physically spoke more when things looked like going pear-shaped, instead of texting back and forth or posting stuff on Facebook.

CH27

Kayalana99 wrote: »

This thread is getting a bit silly now..

I asked her twice...over the space of 5 days. I really don't consider that hounding?

& it isn't about the cake, it's the fact this person is supposed to be a really good friend to me but was blatantly ignoring me. As someone else said I AM more worried about the silence then the cake, but at the same time I feel bad that my family member had spent 3-4 hours on this cake and it wasn't appreciated.

I really don't understand how I am in the wrong ~ I gave her a gift I asked her if she liked it....she ignored me.

Did you pay her?

I think you're over reacting too. If you're fazed by her silence ring her & talk to her as she is such a good friend.

hazyjo

I'd be a bit embarrassed in her shoes. If I made a mate a cake, fair enough. If she then said she'd make me one for my birthday, great. Maybe a nice little tradition.

BUT... if she then went out and bought some fancy cake (paying good money for it), I'd be having a conversation with my OH/friends saying 'I now feel she's trying to outdo me, or putting me in an awkward position whereby I'm expected to buy a cake for her next year, and it's all a bit keeping up with the Joneses. I only wanted a homemade bloody cake and now I just feel awkward cos she's making this big deal out of it and asking me if I liked it. I already told her I liked it when she gave it to me, but now I feel like she's looking for more praise over her cake. I don't remember her telling me how nice my cake was after she'd eaten it (after thanking me for it when I gave it)...'

See, you just don't know how it's been taken. I wouldn't really like to be asked. If you'd asked her relative to make you a cake for a party, wedding or whatever, yeah, I could understand that. But to give feedback re a gift? Hmm. Surely the cakemaker would have tried some/cooked a small bit for herself to test.

Jx
PS I seem to share similar views to globetraveller

Georgiegirl256

Kayalana99 wrote: »

& it isn't about the cake, it's the fact this person is supposed to be a really good friend to me but was blatantly ignoring me. As someone else said I AM more worried about the silence then the cake,

I really don't understand how I am in the wrong ~ I gave her a gift I asked her if she liked it....she ignored me.

Have you tried contacting her to ask her something else (not mentioning the cake) such as if she wants to meet for a coffee or just talk about the things you usually talk about? If she ignores you then even then that's when I'd start worrying why.

tea_lover

Anyone else thinking about that yule log?

Georgiegirl256

tea_lover wrote: »

Anyone else thinking about that yule log?

I wasn't, but I am now! That was an hilarious thread! :rotfl:

Pollycat

tea_lover wrote: »

Anyone else thinking about that yule log?

Just don't mention Subway meatballs. :eek: