It's this stupid little thing...

honeypop

Kayalana99 wrote: »

Problem stands is I love my friend to bits....but I am unsure what to do as I don't want to fall out with her but just feel like shes been really ungrateful and now shes blantly ignoring me?

Is she ignoring you completely, or just not responding to this last message?

Have you tried calling her rather than through messages?

Kayalana99

Well I guess that's me told then. I was under the impression she was being rude to ignore me after all the effort/money I went into getting her present / cake / fancy dress for the night out.

I know you shouldn't give a gift to expect something back but I didn't get a cake made for her for it to be chucked in the bin.

Don't really feel like I was hounding her at all, I asked her twice overall and the 2nd time was ignored...but I guess if everyone is agreeing to the same thing I must be over thinking it.

Thank you

Blackpool_Saver

She is being rude and evasive, it's crazy, she should answer the damn question already, this is not a friend, a friend would tell you she dropped it/it tasted bad/an elephant ran off with it, anything except this constant evasion

fireyfirenze

kayalana I don't think you are hounding her and I would be offended too! she is being really rude by ignoring the texts, if my best friend had gone to the trouble of buying me my favourite birthday cake I would be texting straight away to say how much I enjoyed it...even if I hadn't! x

Rachel83

Maybe shes miffed at your lack of effort in making one yourself after she made one for you. Therefore thinking her brothers efforts were better as he'd actually made one?
Maybe you've tried to outdo the effort shes made and now feels rubbish you've forked out for not only a cake but cupcakes too? seemingly gone over the top and now are going on and on about it?
No one knows until you have an actual conversation, minus texting and other things, too much can be read into a delivered/read and not replied to message!


No one knows but her!

Anatidaephobia

If I were you, I would get in touch with her as you normally would and chat about something non cake related for a bit. Send her a message with a funny story about your day, or something like that, to start a new conversation. Chat to her normally, to get things back on track - then, later, once things are back to normal, if you still wish to, you can bring up the subject of her birthday and casually ask about the cake.

Tiddlywinks

Kayalana99 wrote: »

Well I guess that's me told then. I was under the impression she was being rude to ignore me after all the effort/money I went into getting her present / cake / fancy dress for the night out.

I know you shouldn't give a gift to expect something back but I didn't get a cake made for her for it to be chucked in the bin.

It's HER cake now - she can do what she likes with it.

I can't believe you are so troubled by this that you came on here to tell everyone.

If you're really the type of friends that tell each other everything then you would have had a conversation (not just kept nagging by text) sooner than this.

No one wants to receive a gift and then get hounded about it... give it a rest.

cazziebo

This is bringing back memories of the "Cakegate" thread! (The Yule Log saga!)

Maybe she reacted to it and is unable to come to the phone due to a dose of the squits... maybe she's had some bad news and wanting some solitude... perhaps she has laryngitis... lost her phone...found a cockroach in the cake and too traumatised to speak. Maybe life is getting in the way of giving an immediate critique on a gift.

If it was my friend I'd be more worried about the silence than a cake..

wannabe_credit_free

I would'nt waste a cake on her in future, she should have responded, if even to spare your feelings...

Pollycat

You were 'piggy-in-the-middle' over this but it sounds like you've managed to upset 2 people, whilst trying to please both of them.

I would talk to your friend.
Really talk.
Not text 'talk' - which your posts sound like you've mostly done.

If it were me I'd say, 'I'm really sorry if I came across as pushy but my relative who made the cake was very keen to know if you liked it. If you didn't like it, please be honest.'
And I'd also say that I was sorry that I didn't make it myself but I wanted it to be really special so asked someone else to do it but wanted to make some effort so also did the fairly cakes for her.

I'd tell the relative (when you've sorted it out with your friend) the exact feedback she gave you.
I can't honestly see any point in telling her it was lovely if it was too sickly, too dense or whatever.
If you did that, she may make it for someone else based on your feedback.