Sharing/conflict resolution at nursery school?

moomoomama27

It sounds as though you are not happy with this nursery, as it doesn't fit in with your lifestyle?

I think you are going to find you need to massively adapt once your child is in state education. You will find she will have to take part, take turns and be disciplined. It may not fit I. With the way you do it, but it won't be cruel, but firm and fair.

If you find these rules hard, I assure you it's very standard practise, then you will struggle with state education. Perhaps home education is more suited?

notanewuser

thorsoak wrote: »

So, because "there is no other school" the school should change because it does not comply with your ideals? If the other parents are happy with the status quo, then it is up to you to find another school that you are happy with - whether or not it is in your area.

All schools in Wales have to do the daily act of Christian worship. So changing wouldn't make a difference.

I do t think other parents are "happy", per se, more "indifferent".

notanewuser

moomoomama27 wrote: »

It sounds as though you are not happy with this nursery, as it doesn't fit in with your lifestyle?

I think you are going to find you need to massively adapt once your child is in state education. You will find she will have to take part, take turns and be disciplined. It may not fit I. With the way you do it, but it won't be cruel, but firm and fair.

If you find these rules hard, I assure you it's very standard practise, then you will struggle with state education. Perhaps home education is more suited?

It is state education. It's in a school, and its full time. DD is 3.

We have chosen welsh medium education for DD as its the one thing we can't provide at home. We want DD to have a rounded education, not indoctrination. If it doesn't work out well for DD, then yes, we'll switch to homeschooling.

Person_one

thorsoak wrote: »

So, because "there is no other school" the school should change because it does not comply with your ideals? If the other parents are happy with the status quo, then it is up to you to find another school that you are happy with - whether or not it is in your area.

All schools should change, because its unethical for them to teach religion as fact, which is what 'worship' essentially is.

Schools should be secular, not just because the OP wants them to be but because that's how education should always be.

notanewuser

iammumtoone wrote: »

Are you sure?? I don't think ds does, might be something I will ask about.

EDIT: just been googling it :eek: ds has never mentioned anything about it, I will have to ask him now, he is probably not even aware of what he is doing!

And that's exactly the issue. They don't know what they're doing. They do it because they're told to/because everyone else is.

notanewuser

Person_one wrote: »

All schools should change, because its unethical for them to teach religion as fact, which is what 'worship' essentially is.

Schools should be secular, not just because the OP wants them to be but because that's how education should always be.

Exactly. If you want a religious education, there are faith schools. If you don't, there's no choice.

iammumtoone

notanewuser wrote: »

And that's exactly the issue. They don't know what they're doing. They do it because they're told to/because everyone else is.

We are in England so as per your above answer I don't think they practice this, for a start ds only has assembly once a week not every day. I am still going to ask him about it though.

Mojisola

notanewuser wrote: »

No, not a faith school. They have assembly every morning, which is conducted as "an act of Christian worship". Nursery children included even though its bot a statutory requirement. The head said quite clearly that children could be excluded from that if parents wished. Great, we thought.

When I asked the nursery teacher what DD would be doing if we excluded her she replied "I don't know. It's never happened. Plus we pray at lunchtime and at the end of the day too, so removing your daughter would be significant and would isolate her from others".

Speak to the head.". We did. He was understanding but felt his hands were tied.

I've never heard of a state school having prayer sessions during the day. Just what is tying the Head's hands?

notanewuser

iammumtoone wrote: »

We are in England so as per your above answer I don't think they practice this, for a start ds only has assembly once a week not every day. I am still going to ask him about it though.

One assembly a week with a bit of religion is quite different to 5 a week plus 5 lunchtime prayers, plus 5 home time ones. You get my concerns now?

notanewuser

Mojisola wrote: »

I've never heard of a state school having prayer sessions during the day. Just what is tying the Head's hands?

The nursery teacher, I expect! (I suspect he too is "of faith" so it suits him. The assembly thing he can't get out of - its Welsh Government dictat.)

Thing is, I'm torn between fighting (and I really would fight on principle) and not wanting DD labelled as "the one with the awkward mother"!!!