Cant cope with lazy partner!!

PlymouthMaid

Did your partner agree that he would fit this kitchen when it was ordered? Is he capable of doing it as DIY is not everybody's thing? I agree that it is a very long time to be washing up in the bath and I do have some sympathy as my OH is a DIY slug but thinking about applying for a council house seems a bit strange if you own your own home. As he works such long hours, surely there most be some money about to pay a workman to finish the job.

Morglin

WelshPaul wrote: »

I had a carpenter in a wheelchair with no legs who was also left paralysed after a motorcycle crash fit my kitchen counters single handed and he did a fantastic job. :T

If the op can bend over a bath and do the washing and carry a load into a laundrette I'm sure they can hold a screwdriver or a paint brush.

Going by their username they are fit enough to have a child, so I'm sorry if my comments come across as rude but if you can do those things you can help out with other physical things like some basic diy.

Of course you did......:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Was he hearing and vision impaired as well?:T:T

Lin

Fishingtime

A good kitchen takes much planning

Errata

What are my rights to find council housing as I cannot put up any more without ammenities?

People aren't given social housing because they have a lazy OH. If only.:rotfl:

WelshPaul

Morglin wrote: »

Of course you did......:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Was he hearing and vision impaired as well?:T:T

Lin

I did, I'm not making it up.

Everything from the waste up worked just fine as far as I'm aware. He didn't fit out my entire kitchen granted, just replaced two work tops and fitted the cupboards underneath. like I said he did a good job. So having a disability does not mean you can't do some DIY.

Indie_Kid

WelshPaul wrote: »

I did, I'm not making it up.

Everything from the waste up worked just fine as far as I'm aware. He didn't fit out my entire kitchen granted, just replaced two work tops and fitted the cupboards underneath. like I said he did a good job. So having a disability does not mean you can't do some DIY.

Being in a wheelchair is completely different to the OPs disabilities though.

WelshPaul

Yea Tiglath pointed out her disabilities above. I'm not going to get into an argument over it, I'm sure her partner is depressed working all hours, going home to a house that needs so much work doing to it and on top of that getting called all the names under the sun by his partner. Yet he's just branded as lazy so and so while the poor old op who is also depressed get's an aww.

pmlindyloo

I suggest that all you good people look at the OP's 'history' and that of Spellkaster's (who appears to be the same person).

Something very strange going on - lots of discrepancies.

malebolge

WelshPaul wrote: »

Yea Tiglath pointed out her disabilities above. I'm not going to get into an argument over it, I'm sure her partner is depressed working all hours, going home to a house that needs so much work doing to it and on top of that getting called all the names under the sun by his partner. Yet he's just branded as lazy so and so while the poor old op who is also depressed get's an aww.

In a way, you've raised a very valid point about partners in general - often they do have to do more than would normally expected and must feel bloody frustrated at times, but keep it in.
I take a very chilled attitude to my house. If it don't get done, it don't get done. I'm in a wheelchair, and have very limited use of my arms now, but I do love to garden and poke about around the house (using some interestingly adapted gadgets) and do what I can. My husband does the bulk of things, but I'm very aware that he needs to have a life that isn't totally revolved around housework and working full time.
That's why the cans of paint that we bought to redecorate the lounge have been unopened for 4 years... there's bags full of dry clothes that need ironing.... washing up can be in the sink for a few days and no one could ever say the house is tidy. Happy, yes. tidy - hell no. I'm sat with a pile of detritus around me as I type. And tbh, I don't give a damn. There's better things to be doing.
I do understand though, how it would be frustrating not to have a working kitchen. I went without a cooker for 8 months and used to swear at the microwave/oven regularly.
One thing I've done is to encourage friends & family to give their time, rather than gifts for birthdays & Christmas. We don't really need smellies or chocolate - so instead people do some ironing/ tidying/cooking etc. Perhaps that's an idea that could be used.
Something that I used only once, but it worked a treat, was a birthday party. I had half a kitchen floor laid for nearly 2 years. So.... I got in some plonk, cupcakes, asked a few people round - and had a 'Happy Birthday, Half-a-Floor' party. We all had a laugh, got drunk, and my floor was done within a couple of weeks.
From the sounds of it, your partner just can't do everything by himself. With all the goodwill in the world, if he's working long hours he's probably knackered by the weekend. It might be just too big a job for him, and he can't admit it. Perhaps rallying more support, in a good natured way, from family & friends might get things done - bit like the house decorating parties I used to go to years ago when I was in my teens & 20s.

northerntwo1

pmlindyloo wrote: »

I suggest that all you good people look at the OP's 'history' and that of Spellkaster's (who appears to be the same person).

Something very strange going on - lots of discrepancies.

I wasn't going to comment as got bit during yet another ID of theirs. I even asked a GP at work as was scared for her. Then found out it was all a joke.