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  • codemonkey
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    whitewing wrote: »
    biscuit crumbs in bed aren't that comfortable anyway!

    Fun at the time though!
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  • Slight penguin, but so slight I'm going to put it in ordinary writing.


    I have been catching the Reith Lectures when I can, normally in the car on the way to work. The penguiny thing is that today's lecture was about end of life care, but you can read on safely. The very positive thing is that his conclusion was that (as I understand it, of course it is possible that I have got hold of the wrong end of the present illustrated in the post above :D) when doctors decided to give people the best quality of life possible, rather than worrying about trying to extend their life at any cost, people actually lived longer as well as being a hell of a lot happier! I couldn't help but draw the parallel with mental health. WaS's psychiatrist seems to have cracked it - actually involving her, and working with her, to agree what works best and will give her the most enjoyable life.


    I wouldn't recommend that anyone for whom death is a penguin listens to today's lecture, but the overall message of these lectures could revolutionise medicine if anyone is listening :D
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  • lostinrates
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    I've been Money Tipped!
    Brrrrrrrrrrr.

    Its cold at the wreck. The birds all went to bed early and the dogs don't want to play out doors.

    Its quite breezy and grey and so the dark trees in my garden are dancing against a blueish grey sky with the light quickly leaving it and the wreck it rattling and howling and creaking. I love my house on nights like this. It feels very different to being in a modern house or even a finished house. It feels solid in different ways, and yet fragile.
  • Popec5
    Popec5 Posts: 57 Forumite
    You don't have to eat to check out food shops if your 'home' cuisine is different, but you really should get help with your eating disorder for your health ( of all kinds) .

    Here is a possibility. If your eating disorder is reflected in your outward image, people might be scared for you which might make them fearful of becoming close to you. People are quite emotionally self protective, which seems very selfish, but then...I guess everybody feels full of their own issues.


    Re honesty.

    Some friends and I ( met via this forum btw) had lunch this weekend, and were talking about honesty and some of us were suggesting to one of our number that not giving all information was not necessarily not being dishonest, but infact might even be too much for the recipient to effectively process.


    I never tell someone an opinion I don't believe in, but I have learnt that my opinion is very often worthless to someone at the wrong time.

    Its not a rejection of me to reject my opinion, and telling people the truth as we see it at the wrong time can be a rejection of them. Sometimes silence or changing the subject is more useful! :)


    Any way, sometimes its just as well to just be friendly , rather than 'friends' with work mates. Keeps things running smoothly. :)


    Who else do you know outside work? Who did you lend you card to for example? :)


    OMGoodness, look at the time, I better think about some sleep!
    lostinrates, wow, you are very wise. What you wrote is so true.
    I was told I am dishonest as i did not get together my colleagues who act badly and tell them everything. And the reason was exactly what you mentioned. Thank you.
    No, I have noone outside work, only of course my sister.
    I lent the card to one of the colleague. I thought I help, it didn't occur to me I am not allowed to do it.
    The morning staff hate me, as I had run ins with 2 of them who never followed the rules, got away with everything. The bosses always covered for them, then denied it. And they were promoted to team leaders. It is a joke. I was told I am jealous as they are TL and not me. I told them I have no interest to be a TL, it is just they don't follow the rules and get more and that is very unfair. And the bosses say everything is my fault, I am unbearable as I am moody. But noone asks me why. I was told to change. I started by organizing a party from my own money for the new TLs promotion, tried to talk to a few of them, but they don't open up. They should change too, but since last week my boss, who knows how much problems I have started to ignore me and looking through me. And when I faced him with it he denied everything.
  • Hi everyone, Some of you might know Im on quite a lot of meds but feel really well on them, but try and come off them is really bad.

    But talking about Porridge I can get through 2 kg a week. The last couple of weeks I had it with original complan but I am now talking it with protien powder and a banana. I really enjoy the gym, qualified as an instructor in 2000. Was really low today but really perked up once I put on a new patch for back pain.

    Hope I am on the right track here, seems a great thread, well thought off.
  • Welcome lfw! Medication can be very hard to stop, the trick is to do it very slowly and taper it. You are correct that exercise can really help with ones mood, the natural endorphins released can make a huge difference. You are certainly doing the right thing for yourself, exercise can even help with medication withdrawals.
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  • Waves_and_Smiles
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    edited 9 December 2014 at 9:11PM
    That is exactly my psychiatrists view, JM. We work on maintenence to give me the most enjoyable life we can, the big difference to a lot of psychiatric care is it is an enjoyable life on my terms. For years psychiatrists had goals for me to try and work towards but after 20 years they began saying it was time to start accepting things as they were and making the best of the present. This was a huge relief for me! Honestly, everytime we had goals to aim for it made me worse to push myself, a condition would trigger which would cause a cascade of others to do the same and I was living on a rollercoaster.

    Now we say we aim to maintain stability and by doing that I have made progress because I have a solid ground to start from. It is far more successful for me to not to be pushed, I find once I feel stable I try tiny new things naturally without getting overwhelmed and have more success with them. Goal lists used to send me running for the hills and I didn't enjoy working towards them because I was so anxious all of the time and worried about failing and letting people down. The most important thing to me is having a say in my treatment, if I say to my psychiatrist that I am not ready to do something he accepts that and says he won't push me which ironically can make me more eager to try.

    I stopped being sick 6 hours ago and I think that I am going to live. No idea what that was but it seems to be going now.

    Errr, we just got a phone call from Milliefleur. She is being discharged from hospital right now. At 8pm at night. What?! WaSp is going to take her home and apparently her first carer will arrive at 8am tomorrow and her social worker is arriving at 10am. We are confused and so is poor Milliefleur, she usually goes to bed at this time! We just rang her sister to tell her she will be caring for her tonight and she was already asleep! Hopefully WaSp won't take too long to get there.
    Until one has loved an animal a part of one's soul remains unawakened - Anatole France

    If I knew that the world would end tomorrow, I would still plant apple trees today - Martin Luther King
  • What a bizarre time of night to discharge an elderly lady! (Especially one that has presumably had a SOVA review :( ) Honestly, the NHS these days...

    So glad the sickness has passed, WaS. I think you'll live, too :D
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  • whitewing
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    Have you heard any more from WaSp yet, WaS? How is millefleur?
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