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  • System
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    Meds have been attained :)

    May also have bough beau another xmas present...i couldn't resist...i think (i hope!) he's going to love it :D
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  • lostinrates
    lostinrates Posts: 55,283 Forumite
    I've been Money Tipped!
    Wonder how WaS got on.........
  • Am wondering about WaS too. Hope she is OK.

    Thinking of you and Big Dog too LiR, enjoy lots of cosy snuggles and treats together. I still miss the last dog we lost and that was 18 months ago :(

    Had a rubbish afternoon, don't want to explain it all but ended up so miserable after it so have overdosed on chocolate ice cream :o

    This has made me think, there's been a few mentions on here of using food, alcohol, self harm and maybe other stuff when we feel miserable. There must be some good healthy ways to cheer oneself up when feeling awful but I racked my brains and can't think of anything ...... :o

    Exercise is one but won't work for me due to painful joints .
    S3x is lovely but doesn't happen in this house , cuddles are a secondrate substitute but will grab some when Husband appears after being 'away' :(
    Dog hugs :D

    Any other ideas ?
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  • elsien
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    Hoping all are well and Was day wasn't too traumatic.

    LiR, at least big dog is happy and waggy for now, even though things are getting a bit closer. Big dog will let you know when it's time and in some ways semi planned is better.
    I'm not generally a Kipling fan, but his power of the dog poem says it all for me.

    Am having a bit if an urgh couple of days for no obvious reason, so I've just blown the budget and booked a spa day. Decided I needed a treat. I hate winter.
    All shall be well, and all shall be well, and all manner of things shall be well.

    Pedant alert - it's could have, not could of.
  • lostinrates
    lostinrates Posts: 55,283 Forumite
    I've been Money Tipped!
    . There must be some good healthy ways to cheer oneself up when feeling awful but I racked my brains and can't think of anything ...... :o

    Exercise is one but won't work for me due to painful joints .
    S3x is lovely but doesn't happen in this house , cuddles are a secondrate substitute but will grab some when Husband appears after being 'away' :(
    Dog hugs :D

    Any other ideas ?

    Hot scented baths. Strong believer in self pampering, plus helps aches and pains. Nice smells help soul.


    Pampering ......just the act of properly cleansing, massaging face , moisturising, that act of self touch and care....rather than scrubbing with a facecloth....or ignoring face entirely.


    I believe too much vanity isn't great, or hiding behind a mask can say something else. But the act of caring for our selves , pampering ourselves can be important, loving and heartening. And the improvements in appearance from little steps built on.....maybe stating to file nails....., whatever, can make us Feel eventually that the improvements are tangible or visible. Make us a little socially more confident.
  • System
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    Baths (with bath bombs! i treated myself to one from Lush earlier) and reading in the bath are a good one personally. I find i can switch off.

    I could really do with some positive coping mechanisms, i did have a huge list of ones to do when the urge to SH strikes, but i can't find it :o

    Hope WaS is doing ok, she's had a busy day
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  • elsien
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    General question to throw out there for people to comment or ignore as they wish.

    Many of the issues people are dealing with are outside of my experience. So I often can't offer much in the way of empathy or constructive suggestions, and I don't want to put my foot in it by saying something really crass. But neither do I want to ignore or hide from people, e who may be looking for a bit of support.

    So without making it too personal, and I realise people may have different coping strategies, what is useful from the people around you when there is a bit of a blip going on? People who aren't your nearest and dearest, but who might want to offer an ear or a helping hand.
    All shall be well, and all shall be well, and all manner of things shall be well.

    Pedant alert - it's could have, not could of.
  • Waves_and_Smiles
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    edited 11 November 2014 at 10:39PM
    I'm here! I had to sleep for a while after my appointments, knackered wasn't the word. It wasn't too bad thanks to the anti-psychotic mountain yesterday!

    The psychiatrist went well. We have decided to increase my anti-psychotics for the morning and evening dose. This is an experiment because last time I turned into a zombie and got very bad side effects but he wants to try to see if we can get a bit more chemical stability. I can drop it back down if I end up sleeping all day or dribbling (I wish I was joking about dribbling) or the TD becomes severe.

    Now the endocrinologist...Anyone ever had a bone marrow aspiration? Eeeeeeek! My white blood cells are still through the roof, I should have a severe infection to be producing this many. I also shouldn't be bruising as easily which hints again at a bone marrow problem. There are some autoimmune disorders that can do this but the only way to tell is to have a look at my bone marrow. I am already panicking by the fact he said it will be fine but take my full pain medication dose beforehand! Dr Google says it hurts! So an appointment will be in the post for this before I next see him. He feels that this might be the undiscovered 'thing' that may be stopping my thyroid stabilising, he said think of it as dominoes and when one falls over so do the rest. We need to stop this domino falling.

    Dreading it already...

    I forgot to say for the first time ever he also mentioned that ME is a consideration considering the white blood cells, my tiredness, my headaches, the muscle weakness and pain and the bruising but we will discuss that more after the aspiration. Not sure what I think about that really.
    Until one has loved an animal a part of one's soul remains unawakened - Anatole France

    If I knew that the world would end tomorrow, I would still plant apple trees today - Martin Luther King
  • In my case, elsien I just need validation. There are few cures and solutions for me so a simple, "I understand, that must be hard, I am thinking of you" makes me grin from ear to ear. Just to know that someone is thinking of me and wishes me well means so much to me. Advice and suggestions are also always welcome but I don't expect people to always be able to offer something constructive. A lot of the difficulties I have had involve being to afraid to share what I am going through, I have been laughed at and avoided in the past in real life-schizophrenia is a great one for making people cross to the other side of the road when they see you. The fact people here don;t do that means the world to me and a lot of the time is all I need. How sweet of you to think of your responses, thank you.
    Until one has loved an animal a part of one's soul remains unawakened - Anatole France

    If I knew that the world would end tomorrow, I would still plant apple trees today - Martin Luther King
  • elsien
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    Not really, I was just thinking there must be a lot of me's out there in the real world. Interested, not scared of the misconceptions, just a bit clueless and worried about making things worse if we do say something daft. So I thought I'd ask in case anyone else following the thread is wondering similar things.
    All shall be well, and all shall be well, and all manner of things shall be well.

    Pedant alert - it's could have, not could of.
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