Just needed to be heard for a little while

haybel19

Sorry I have been quiet- bit stressed out and down - just a little blip but i have missed you all!

LIR you are quite right to complain- mistakes with medication can be very serious indeed- I was given intravenous drugs which i had a known allergy to and which could have killed me as a result at least one member of staff was reported to their governing body. Someone asked me once if i felt guillty for this. But why should I? Yes we all make mistakes but we all have to be accountable as well. I worried that if i had not complained one day i would open a newspaper and find someone else had suffered at their hands or worse died.

Maybe they have a record of the previous incidents/complaints? Im fairly certain they have to keep records of such things.

I am very glad you noticed and are ok.

I hope what I have written sounds ok- i am very anxious today and worried that I am not coming across as I mean to

whitewing

haybel, you have written exactly what I think.

elsien

Hi haybel, welcome back from lurkdom. :wave: You're coming across just fine.

lostinrates

Will come back to other kind posts, thanks.

Re pumpkins

I leave the flash on the pumpkin......it makes them sturdy, but hard to carve. The reason I do that is partly because big carving pumpkins don't taste that great. Its not what you'd get in tins of pumpkin for pie filling either. ( not that that says much)

For good pumpkin pie butter nut is a better filling, or the tastier squashes.

Pumpkin pie is delicious. One of my favourite things. I am so glad more people in uk are eating it now!

lostinrates

Haybel coming across fine, thank you!

elsien, although I knew that they were checked I don't think I'd really 'thought through' two people not one had erred.

I know they have to record mistakes, even if a name is spelt incorrectly apparently they have to record it, But mistakes like this only get recorded if Patient is pointing it out, so their records aren't accurate, because theoretically others could have it wrong and not know/mind/ notice.

Its the latter that bothers me. They can spell my name anyway they like, lol.

haybel19

In my case both a Dr and Nurse were accountable - it turns out that neither had even read my records or taken on board when I told them verbally. There can be no excuse for not failing to follow strict procedures nor for not carefully checking prescriptions when the potential consequences can be so serious.

Medical errors are something I am very passionate about possibly even obsessive about. The above along with a catalogue of serious errors over an 11 month period triggered PTSD which despite treatment I dont think I will ever fully recover from. Especially if we decide to have another baby as the errors were in my antenatal/labour care and subsequent surgeries which became necessary. Hopefully if I ever feel brave enough even if my PTSD does flare I will have you guys?

On a positive note little one swam half a width with just her armbands when we went swimming this week. She only turned 2 earlier in the month! She was very proud of herself- and I am incredibly proud of her.

Ohhh and her ballet shoes arrived- so cute. She has been practicing some of what she did at her lesson every so often she stops what she is doing and tiptoes or does rolly pollys bless her. Think she will be disappointed next week is half term!

Since I have been feeling a little under the weather I had a lovely snuggley nap with Max earlier. He loves cuddly sleeps nestles in as tight as he can and likes one arm under him and one arm round him. Then puts his face next to mine. He rarely fidgets or moves as he likes to ensure these naps last for as long as possible and worries if he jiffles I will wake and get up. Bless him. I hope he realises I love our snuggles just as much as he does. He especially likes winter when we have blankets on the sofa mind you inevitably i keep having to buy new ones as he steals them for his bed.

Whitewing how is little hetty? Is your daughter still enjoying hoovering? If so can you send her here please? :rotfl:

Elsien- Ive just read up on the bronze award. Sounds really interesting- I did obedicen trainer (clicker) with Max for a year before I had little one. We both loved it- and its somethign I would love to do more of.

Just a quick question- anyone have any ideas on how I can persuade Max to go for a walk if we are all not going? Or more specifically if little one not going. No little one No Walk as far as Max concerned. If her shoes are not on he hides and point blank refuses to go or move at all. He just won't budge. But if we all go he is fine enjoys his walk and walks nicely. Trouble is I cannot manage Max and little one on a walk on my own (one trots one dawdles) so I need someone with me and then it becomes a group exercise! lol Perhaps Max thinks he needs an entourage? :rotfl:

Pyxis

haybel19 wrote: »

Medical errors are something I am very passionate about possibly even obsessive about. The above along with a catalogue of serious errors over an 11 month period triggered PTSD which despite treatment I dont think I will ever fully recover from. Especially if we decide to have another baby as the errors were in my antenatal/labour care and subsequent surgeries which became necessary. Hopefully if I ever feel brave enough even if my PTSD does flare I will have you guys? ]l:

Of course you will have us, Haybel! That's what this thread is all about! :A

codemonkey

I really think we need to go back to the old style of a 'laying in' period for women who have just given birth. You know, back when the woman would stay in bed for a while following the birth and family or the community would take care of other children and housework. I guess that would be difficult now that people don't really know their neighbours and everyone works and people might be on bad terms with their families but I think its wrong that women give birth then the next day are released with little guidance except what is currently fashionable and constantly changing and left to with little support.

Also, I apologise for being a Debbie Downer lately. There are a lot of friends and family babies due around now (1 down, 4 to go) and its really difficult for me. When you are infertile people kind of expect to go 'oh well' and get over it immediately, like its a disapointment on the scale of the shop running out of a pair of shoes in your size. Or they decide you're clearly unhinged (because that's how tv shows it) and will turn into a child snatcher. They get uncomfortable when you talk about it so there's nowhere to turn except DH and he's useless at talking it over. I can sometimes get him to admit he's sad but that's it. Its really hard when new babies come into the world.

Anyway, slightly went off topic there. When all I meant to do was talk about support and tell haybel we'll look after you if you have another.

Waves_and_Smiles

Of course you will have us, haybel! There is no getting rid of us now!

I understand completely code. I used to find my friends giving birth incredibly hard and absolutely dread when they wanted me to meet the babies. Not because I didn't want to but because I was afraid that I would just burst into tears on the spot. It magnifies your own feelings so much. I did manage to come to terms with it but I can feel it getting worse again because I know menopause will be soon. I agreed with my doctors that it would be a huge risk for me and baby if I was ever pregnant, I knew that despite the best of my intentions a child would have a difficult life with me and didn't want to repeat even a tiny bit of my past and knew I was making the right choice. Now I will soon have the door slammed in my face permanently? Yep, still hurts.

You can always talk here no matter how you feeling, we are always interested and here to support you.

haybel19

codemonkey wrote: »

I really think we need to go back to the old style of a 'laying in' period for women who have just given birth. You know, back when the woman would stay in bed for a while following the birth and family or the community would take care of other children and housework. I guess that would be difficult now that people don't really know their neighbours and everyone works and people might be on bad terms with their families but I think its wrong that women give birth then the next day are released with little guidance except what is currently fashionable and constantly changing and left to with little support.

Also, I apologise for being a Debbie Downer lately. There are a lot of friends and family babies due around now (1 down, 4 to go) and its really difficult for me. When you are infertile people kind of expect to go 'oh well' and get over it immediately, like its a disapointment on the scale of the shop running out of a pair of shoes in your size. Or they decide you're clearly unhinged (because that's how tv shows it) and will turn into a child snatcher. They get uncomfortable when you talk about it so there's nowhere to turn except DH and he's useless at talking it over. I can sometimes get him to admit he's sad but that's it. Its really hard when new babies come into the world.

Anyway, slightly went off topic there. When all I meant to do was talk about support and tell haybel we'll look after you if you have another.

Aww thank you Codemonkey - sorry I hope I did not in anyway sound insensitive. Before I had my daughter I had two miscarriages and it took a long time to get my beautiful girl- I remember the sting when others tell you their news only too well- of course you happy for them but it still hurts. With my second miscarriage my close friend was a couple a months ahead of me and it really hurt when her little one was born but mine was lost. I was exceptional lucky to get my girl and remember that every single day. I am know our situations are different but I always have an ear and a shoulder should you wish.

I hope that sounded ok.