Am I doing this right?

peachyprice

We've save you £80 on the pressie already, maybe you could get away with a new top OR trousers? After all that saving you deserve to treat yourself to a night away

jellie

I agree with the others about the money gift - £20 is fine.

Do you really not have anything suitable to wear already? It doesn't have to be really smart, like it would if you were going to the service itself. What would you normally wear to a party/meal out?

savingmummy

Whoa I`d not want anyone to spend out!!
I`m sure you have something to wear suitable and accessorise - bags, shoes and jewellery can transform an outfit!


Do you have a relative or friend who can help with an outfit?


I will never forget DH coming home and saying to me `we are going to x`s wedding on Saturday AND his invited us to the reception in a posh place out in Herfordshire.
I was 28weeks pregnant, had spd and swollen ankles and was a mess LOL!
I ended up wearing black leggings and a loose tunic from my own wardrobe. Polished a pair of shoes I found in a cupboard.
I borrowed a clutch bag and some jewellery from my mum and when we got to the church everyone commented on how wonderful I looked - I didn't feel it beforehand :rotfl:
By the time we got to the reception no one even cared who was wearing what or why, I can`t even remember what the bride looked like - the day whizzed!!


We had already been told they had asked for no items as such and only a Debenhams or john lewis gift card IF we wanted too, so we did a £20 one.

Gingernutty

peachyprice wrote: »

We've save you £80 on the pressie already, maybe you could get away with a new top OR trousers? After all that saving you deserve to treat yourself to a night away

I'm getting a night away with an en-suite bathroom and breakfast!! :beer:

jellie wrote: »

I agree with the others about the money gift - £20 is fine.

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jellie wrote: »

Do you really not have anything suitable to wear already? It doesn't have to be really smart, like it would if you were going to the service itself. What would you normally wear to a party/meal out?

Nope. Just office casual. I don't go out much.

I've booked the hotel, bought the top and trousers already, the necklace is a charity shop bead and shell number - the shoes are a stumbling point.

building_with_lego

Nobody will notice you wearing 'office casual' shoes. Promise!

Lily-Rose_3

Gingernutty wrote: »

I've been invited to the evening 'do' of a former colleague's wedding.

It's the first time I've been invited to such a thing where family isn't involved and it's all totting up.

I have no really smart clothes so have to shop for stuff.

New top (£35), new trousers (£20), new shoes (trying not to despair), a couple of fifties to pop into the card, taxis, the 'do' is out in the sticks so I've had to book into a nearby hotel for the night.

It's expensive. I'm expecting to pay for drinks when I get there as well.

Is it meant to be this expensive? Am I doing this right?

My friend just last week got her ENTIRE wedding outfit: long summery dress, strappy shoes, some beads, and a hat, for a total of £17 from several charity shops in town. 2 X £50? Why? Nobody has to give that much, especially if it's only an ex colleague or whatever. I wouldn't even give a family member that much!

You say it's 'out in the sticks,' but did you look into if a taxi back may have been cheaper than a hotel for the night? Or if there was a travelodge nearby (like only 5-6 miles away...)

Once again, why are you giving her a HUNDRED QUID?! £20 is plenty!

I put £20 before I read ANY other posts! I see everyone else thinks the same!

Scrapaholic

I agree that £20 is enough . I wonder if there'll be food in the evening for the guests . A few weddings we've been to it's been a bacon sandwich and chips as the day guests will have eaten already . Just mentioning it in case you need to have dinner before the evening . Hope you have fun .

Gingernutty

I've looked into it - no a taxi simply isn't feasible.

You've all persuaded me that £20 is plenty.

Air_Cooled_75

I didn't think you had to give a 'gift' if you were only invited to the evening do??

Perhaps I'm just a stinge-bag

pinkshoes

For outfits, try eBay. You can pick up something for about £10.