Splitting the bills? Is anything other than 50/50 unfair?

Tink2

Of course it should be 50/50, you will be using 50% of the amenities therefore should pay 50%of it

It's not his fault your job isnt as well paid as his why should he pay more

PenguinJim

jaylee3 wrote: »

And I'm sorry but women DO do most of the housework and childcare: always have, always will, and men will almost always be the higher earners. People can deny that if they like. It's still true.

Huh? I do all of the cooking and most of the cleaning and grocery shopping. My OH has to ask me what foods we have or how long they've been in the fridge. Yesterday I got home from work at 8pm, heated up and consumed some of the chilli I'd made on Sunday, and then got to work making a pineapple sponge and a mango sponge to use up some of our fresh fruit (all done by hand - can't waste money on an electric mixer! ). Naturally I then had to clean the kitchen and wash up all of the bowls and utensils.

I do all of the hoovering and mopping, and the vast majority of the washing-up, rubbish and recycling. Sometimes my partner will take a couple of hours on the weekend to do a deeper clean of the kitchen, or of her bathroom, but this is only about once a month. (Frankly, she should be cleaning up her studio, as it's an absolute pigsty! :eek: But she's... resistant to my gentle prodding on the subject)

I don't even like the terms "husband" and "wife", as having different names implies different responsibilities. My OH and I are partners. I do the cooking, and she does the eating!

We're aiming to have a baby at the end of September 2015, and it will entirely depend on our circumstances and how we can adjust our jobs as to who can take care of the baby during the daytime - not on what meat we happen to carry in our pants. Best place to carry corned beef, IMO. Gives it that "tang".

Do you mind if I ask how old you are? I'm 32, and your views seem extremely old-fashioned to me. Or it might not be a generational thing, and you're just incredibly sexist?

chucknorris

This thread has reminded me that I need to tackle my wife about how much she contributes, at the moment on the things that I think we should share (others like sports memberships are excluded) she pays just under £4k and I pay just over £10k a year. I am going to suggest that we set up a joint account and pay bills from that.

PenguinJim

Do you mind if I ask - what happens to her money that she isn't currently contributing? And what happens to your money that you aren't currently contributing?

Person_one

PenguinJim wrote: »

Huh?

Do you mind if I ask how old you are? I'm 32, and your views seem extremely old-fashioned to me. Or it might not be a generational thing, and you're just incredibly sexist?

She's right, research and stats show time and time again that women, in general, do the majority of the domestic chores when they live with men. Google it.

Why would you think your relationship is representative of every other?

Ragtimeplayer

Gloomendoom wrote: »

We have never discussed it. My wife moved in with me and I kept on paying the mortgage and the bills... apart from the grocery bill. She does the shopping now.

We both earn the same.

This is how we do it too. I moved in with my husband and he continued to pay the mortgage and all bills. I pay for the shopping and all holidays. I see my wage as ours to spend on the fun stuff.

chucknorris

PenguinJim wrote: »

Do you mind if I ask - what happens to her money that she isn't currently contributing? And what happens to your money that you aren't currently contributing?

Your post followed mine so I think you are asking me? If so, we save/invest it.

PenguinJim

Person_one wrote: »

She's right, research and stats show time and time again that women, in general, do the majority of the domestic chores when they live with men. Google it.

Why would you think your relationship is representative of every other?

I know that more than half of women in relationships do more than half of the housework. I was arguing against jaylee3's assumption that it's always the case.

You and (s)he are making the assumptions. I was just demonstrating that jaylee3's was wrong. I'll now demonstrate that yours is wrong by saying: I don't think my relationship is representative of every other. Quite the opposite, in fact.

Person_one

PenguinJim wrote: »

I know that more than half of women in relationships do more than half of the housework. I was arguing against jaylee3's assumption that it's always the case.

You and (s)he are making the assumptions. I was just demonstrating that jaylee3's was wrong. I'll now demonstrate that yours is wrong by saying: I don't think my relationship is representative of every other. Quite the opposite, in fact.

Then why did you describe your relationship as a way to counter the general trend? If you know you're an outlier, what was the point of bringing it up?

liney

chucknorris wrote: »

Your post followed mine so I think you are asking me? If so, we save/invest it.

So surely that is part of her 'contribution.'