Giving Money To Family Members

Mojisola

PennySaving wrote: »

My step-son has lived abroad for roughly 7 years during which time he has lead a very hedonistic lifestyle. At one point he was very wealthly but either gambled or drank it all away.

PennySaving wrote: »

The £2K really is just a slush fund for him to use probably for the next couple of weeks until he gets paid.

I do know that he also borrows from other family members and friends who live here in the UK whilst he is overseas.

Could you get your husband to look at his son's request as a need to help him change his life and manage his money?

Giving alcohol to an alcoholic isn't a good idea - giving more money to a spender isn't going to solve any of his problems, it's just enabling the bad life style.

Gigglepig

OP can you reach a compromise with your OH - rather than give this one child 2k, that you might not be able to match for the others, give 500 to each of your 4 children?

Mojisola

Why not spend the money on yourselves if you've got it to spare? You've had years of penny-pinching, start to enjoy what you've got rather than give it away.

moneysaymoneydo

The son has lived abroad for 7 years and rarely visited so maybe your husband feels slightly guilty for lack of prezzy's or days out with first child and all his weekends with younger 3 kids I know first child 17 but still maybe he sees it as a way to help first child change who knows but if it was one of your kids abroad wanting it would you also say no to them I wonder? I appreciate you have struggled but you accepted his first child when you married him.

fivetide

I agree with the above the issue is hubby handing over the cash rather than the son asking.

Another vote for "if he gets £2k then you need to do the same for all of the kids"

That puts it in context.