Do Sick People WANT to Get Better?

Hermia

duchy wrote: »

Seems like a question that could only be asked by someone who has never suffered a debilitating ilness themselves or have someone close to them who has.

I don't agree. I have a chronic illness and think most people do want to get better, but I do think there are a small minority who don't (my mum was one of them). Not because they are spongers, but because they are getting a psychological benefit from being ill. I have a disabled neighbour and she is very resistant to helping herself. She could have a far more 'normal' life, but does everything she can to resist it. I think it is because she does get a lot of attention, help and friends from being disabled. She is quite a dull person and unassertive and is aware of this. I thinks she knows that she might not get people coming round, people helping her or chatting to her in the street if she didn't have this disability.

lostinrates

Hermia wrote: »

I don't agree. I have a chronic illness and think most people do want to get better, but I do think there are a small minority who don't (my mum was one of them). Not because they are spongers, but because they are getting a psychological benefit from being ill. I have a disabled neighbour and she is very resistant to helping herself. She could have a far more 'normal' life, but does everything she can to resist it. I think it is because she does get a lot of attention, help and friends from being disabled. She is quite a dull person and unassertive and is aware of this. I thinks she knows that she might not get people coming round, people helping her or chatting to her in the street if she didn't have this disability.

Yes, this is how I feel too.

I'd like nothing better than to be well, and have spent a lot of money and lifestyle changes chasing that end. But, I don't see it all the time in others, e,g. One of my parents has type two diabetes but cannot commit to the lifestyle and diet changes that would help this considerably. I also think of someone I know who has me which might not be directly impacted by but probably is not helped by smoking and poor diet choices. We cannot live perfectly all the time, I'm not suggesting that ( for a start advice changes) but we can try to live in a way that supports health care majority of the time.

Spirit_2

I have had acute episodes of illness and long term conditions.Until very recently I worked full time. I envisaged reducing to part-time would pay dividends and my health would improve. I would be more active, I would get fitter, my health would improve more. A real virtuous circle.

The reality is a long term condition and an acute problem have both flared up. Leaving me less well, less active, less fit and feeling worse with increasing medical input.

I want to be better, it is just not all within my control.

lostinrates

Spirit wrote: »

I have had acute episodes of illness and long term conditions.Until very recently I worked full time. I envisaged reducing to part-time would pay dividends and my health would improve. I would be more active, I would get fitter, my health would improve more. A real virtuous circle.

The reality is a long term condition and an acute problem have both flared up. Leaving me less well, less active, less fit and feeling worse with increasing medical input.

I want to be better, it is just not all within my control.

but you have time to cook fresh fish now.

anotheruser

duchy wrote: »

Seems like a question that could only be asked by someone who has never suffered a debilitating ilness themselves.

How so?
I have an illness that will never get better and while there are things I can take and do to halt the destruction is is causing, there is nothing I can do to reverse the affects.

As said in the example, many people seem to have ADHD these days. I would suggest it is a new term, come along witht he rise in technology. Whether is it down to the choices made by parents or something neurologically not deemed to be "normal" I don't know, but I have my strong suspicions...
However as the condition grows in number of cases, will it become accepted as normal in society... IE, in 100 years time, will nearly everyone have ADHD and therefore it would seem anyone who doesn't suffer from the condition abnormal?

This then leads to the question, do those that have ADHD (or other illnesses) want to get better or do they see their illness as normal? It's difficult to put in to words when someone is bound to take offence. Maybe it's just too difficult a topic for some people to answer without being offended.

Bluebell68

I would love to get better
I would love not to be in so much pain makes me cry
leave room when I can so don't upset my family seeing me like this

I hate my sons seeing me like this so I smile an say you no me daft old mum im fine
I smile when inside im falling apart

I had so many jobs I ran a golf course did all the bars kitchen work hired staff
I've worked as a playgroup leader
I have been a waitress
worked as a carer in old peoples home
I've worked in restaurants been dam good at it too
worked in a chippy
I done all these jobs to bring my sons up to show my boys hard work never killed anyone
im proud of everything I have managed to do in my life
I have 3 wonderful sons a hubby an mad dogs


im not one to sit on my backside doing nothing
walking hmmm no I wobble or waddle however it is seen
I can no longer see completely out one my eyes
I can no longer go for nice long walks I have spasms that can last for days twist n turn me its horrendous my toes n fingers cramp up when they feel like it
my legs n feet could just think one day nope not moving staying here
or I just fall over
I can no longer do the things I used to be able to do

I would love not to be like this I would love not to be in chronic pain every day an night
but these are the cards I have been dealt I have ro get on with it
no other choice