My Ex Husband is wanting to sell a vehicle we owned.

Marsbar73

My husband has decided that we should seperate. There are many things I am not aware of.. & what to do.

We owned a vehicle I am on the log book, so am legal owner. I was made redundant 3 years ago & paid a large chunk of the vehicle with my redundancy money.

He has taken the vehicle & has said that he will sell it in order to get money so he can rent/live.

I must add he walked out of our mortgaged house. He has agreed to pay towards the house & our daughter, but only a proportion. He has stated he won't give me money from sale as he will be continuing to pay for house. There are outstanding debts against our mortgage of £1400 where we had to take time of payments due to him being out of work. We also have a joint account that has a £1700 overdraft. He keeps saying to me if I had a heart if let him take the van to sell so he had money to live.. I really don't know what to do.. He also has an unpaid tax bill that he keeps threatening me with as his outstanding bill accrued whilst I wasn't earning a lot whilst we were a team!!He tells me he can make me pay half of it if I don't let him have money from sale of vehicle.. But if I do that I am left with overdraft & outstanding mortgage amount & he will take tax bill..

Can he say or do any of this?? My heads all confused & a mess as I want things to be smooth & not difficult between us as I still care for him..

I have suggested the vehicle gets sold & he take 2/3s of the money I have the rest. But he doesn't think I'm being fair!!
Any advice please
Thanks

Savvy_Sue

Solicitor, as soon as you can.

wiogs

As above get a professional involved, but he cannot sell your vehicle for starters

Person_one

Only the registered keeper of a car can sell it legally.

I agree with savvy_sue though, this isn't going to be easily sorted, get to a solicitor asap! Have you got supportive friends and family?

Marsbar73

I have very supportive friends & family.. In scared if all the legal stuff as I really want to sort it nicely but he keeps saying he's being nice about things & im being awkward.. As he wanted me to sign vehicle over to him & I said no.. I suggested selling & taking a share of sale money.. I wouldn't even use it for my own / daughters benefit.. I'd be using money to pay off joint overdraft & money owed on mortgage!!

thorsoak

He is bullying you into giving him a free pass away from his responsibilities! As the others have said - see a solicitor. You could talk to Womens Aid as well - they will be able to give you some support too.

Marsbar73

I don't earn a lot.. I'm a TA at a primary school. I can't afford solicitors fees. I'm worried that if I do all of this as he suggests I'm left in even more of a crappy situation.. But he has also suggested that if I go down solicitor route I will never see him again.. & his only contact will be when he arranges to get my daughter but he'd want someone else there to give her to him.. This is so difficult I still love him.. The reason we are seperated is because I believed he was having an online affair.. Which I had proof off because I got into his phone & saw messages of love to & from a girl he played online games with.. !! He keeps saying the reason he's not here is because I drove him away.. He doesn't trust me as I got into his phone..

MrsAtobe

Marsbar73 wrote: »

I don't earn a lot.. I'm a TA at a primary school. I can't afford solicitors fees. I'm worried that if I do all of this as he suggests I'm left in even more of a crappy situation.. But he has also suggested that if I go down solicitor route I will never see him again.. & his only contact will be when he arranges to get my daughter but he'd want someone else there to give her to him.. This is so difficult I still love him.. The reason we are seperated is because I believed he was having an online affair.. Which I had proof off because I got into his phone & saw messages of love to & from a girl he played online games with.. !! He keeps saying the reason he's not here is because I drove him away.. He doesn't trust me as I got into his phone..

Apologies for being blunt when you are obviously suffering and in turmoil, but can you afford not to take legal advice? You will be left in a worse situation if you let him continue. I do appreciate that you want to keep things amicable between you, but it takes two to play that game, and from the little you've written, it doesn't sound like he is.

Mankysteve

I agree with other you need solicitors advice. It worth noting that just because your name is the log book doesn't mean the car is legally yours.

It will depend on who paid what and so on. Ie get solicitor

Marsbar73

Vehicle is in my name & I used all of my redundancy money £6000 to pay for it he added £1000. So I feel I have more than legal entitlement to it, but I'm willing to forgo 2/3s if the money to help him out so he can but furniture to put in a place when he rents.. Like I mentioned before I'd take 1/3 & pay 'our' joint debts.. I feel I'm being reasonable ..
I will take legal advice but the whole process is overwhelming & I fear I may not absorb all I need to know.. I never expected to deal with this after 17yrs (married for 12) of being together..

eskimo26

At the end of the day your over.

Has he moved out?

The car is yours so I don't even know why that is up for discussion, it's absurd, you don't need a lawyer to keep your car you just need a backbone. If he wants it he will need a lawyer.

Your relationship is over and it's not your responsibility to wipe his bottom or his dribbly nose or give him a little plaster and kiss his knee when he skins it or to buy his furniture.

For God's sake his an adult.

No contact or communication unless related to the children from now on. If you struggle with assertiveness insist you use e-mail only. [sign up for a new one just for the job or you might find your current one inundated with spam]. :rotfl:

I don't understand why people want to make their break ups as messy as possible.

If it was me I would go:
1. breaking up.
2. split all outstanding bills and shared debts 50/50.
3. Finding alternative accommodation
4. Take all their stuff with them to their new place within a week of moving.
5. No communication unless related to the children.
6. If he gets difficult with children's money go to the CSA and get assessed.

I'm a guy btw.

Also who needs £1000's to kit out a one person home! Cheeky little scammer. Emotional blackmail too what a sleaze.