son broke up with gf she is suicidal

Morglin

Most of those that shout loudest about killing themselves are doing it to get attention, or trying to get their own way, and if she has been assessed, then they obviously think she's not at risk.

And, to be honest, it's not your son's problem, and her family should be dealing with it.

Lin

Mojisola

NatMast wrote: »

It does sound like the stereotypical cry for attention in the harshest, most blunt way possible.

I have to say I don't fully understand why her parents wouldn't rush home to see if she's okay or worry and contact her or her half brother to ensure her safety. I find that completely irresponsible regardless of anything else. If I even found out a friend was in that situation I would drop everything and come back, let alone a daughter!

My reaction was this but, on second thoughts, maybe they have spoken to her brother; maybe this is just the most recent time their daughter has used the suicide threat and they are fed up of having to react when there is no real danger of her harming herself and they are fed up of rushing to her side when it's all just drama.

Big_Tree

ignore it......it's emotional blackmail...........I would cut all ties with her, not your problem.

egoode

As others have said you son has done everything he can for her and he now needs to leave her alone and both of them need to move on in their lives. He shouldn't contact her, her family or friends any more otherwise she may misinterpret his actions and think he wants to be with her again.

FatVonD

They must have mutual friends, could you contact one of those and spell out the situation and ask them to keep a close eye on her?

geminilady

Mojisola wrote: »

My reaction was this but, on second thoughts, maybe they have spoken to her brother; maybe this is just the most recent time their daughter has used the suicide threat and they are fed up of having to react when there is no real danger of her harming herself and they are fed up of rushing to her side when it's all just drama.

Maybe you are right,don't think they are rushing home,the girl has text my son and said they want her out,maybe for wrecking their house, maybe as you say they don't believe she will do anything.I do think that is a bit harsh but I know i don't know what else they have had to deal with.My son is going to see her and is taking his brother with him .I have told him I think it is a bad ides but he says he promised her.I think it would be best to cut all contact but because her family are away he does not feel he can do it.

RedFraggle

AnnieO1234 wrote: »

Generally someone who actually is going to commit suicide will just do it, they won't tell anyone about it, often leaving loved ones struggling to understand why it's happened. On the same note, someone threatening to commit suicide is generally seeking attention.

That's a very outdated view such that its actually on the "myths" page of the Samaritans website http://www.samaritans.org/how-we-can-help-you/myths-about-suicide.

At the end of the day, this isn't your son's fault. You could try alerting the crisis team in her area but again they are usually underesourced..

Mojisola

geminilady wrote: »

Maybe you are right,don't think they are rushing home,the girl has text my son and said they want her out,maybe for wrecking their house, maybe as you say they don't believe she will do anything.I do think that is a bit harsh but I know i don't know what else they have had to deal with.My son is going to see her and is taking his brother with him .I have told him I think it is a bad ides but he says he promised her.I think it would be best to cut all contact but because her family are away he does not feel he can do it.

And that's what she's relying on.

I hope you can get him to back off once her parents come home.

itsanne

Mojisola wrote: »

maybe they have spoken to her brother; maybe this is just the most recent time their daughter has used the suicide threat and they are fed up of having to react when there is no real danger of her harming herself and they are fed up of rushing to her side when it's all just drama.

^^^ This. As the parent of someone with mental health difficulties, there comes a point when your own life, the only one you have, cannot be constantly on hold.

anotheruser

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BigJockKnew wrote: »

ignore it......it's emotional blackmail...........I would cut all ties with her, not your problem.