feeling trapped in my marriage

annamika88

VJsmum wrote: »

You know it's not right cos your dad never did it.

If you stay, your daughter might find herself in a similar relationship that she thinks is right cos her dad did do it.

yes i agree with you.. think about your daughter before breaking up..
you have to sacrifice then would be a good mom for ever

hazyjo

sunshine_shell wrote: »

No I don't think its acceptable in any way, shape or form!! I know what i have to do and i am trying my best to do it.

It is hard when you know (and i do, I've checked) that i'm not entitled to any help or support because i worked hard, own a house and have 'some' savings. My savings won't last me until October when i will get my first paycheck. So i'm trying to work out what to do.

He'll have to pay you something. I assume he works.

I don't get this fear of 'being alone'. You think everyone's gonna desert you and never contact you? Your friends and family are supporting you. You'll be able to leave the house with your DD when you like, and do what you like, when you like. Anyway, so what if you're sitting home alone with your DD for 7 night in a row one week. Ring friends/family. Chat on the net if you like. Is it really that much better being with you husband? What would change - just him not being there. I can't see why being with him is better than living apart.

So when he said "...i would destroy him and i would never be more than the person he would pick his DD up from." - AND? Don't get that either. He'll still be your DD's dad. So what if he's no more to you than an 'ex-husband'.

You get ONE LIFE. Sounds to me like you're wasting days, weeks, months, years...

Jx

sunshine_shell

I don't want to waste me life hazyjo, but it is frightening! You sound like my dad who just thinks i should leave and sort everything out afterwards. I've known this man for over half my life, i have a child with him so he will always be in my life in someway.

And yes my fear of being alone does sound crazy but it is how i feel. and over the last few years i have been regularly told that my feelings don't matter or aren't important. But they do and they are my feelings.

I'm trying to gather myself together and imagine a future where i'm happy and at the moment that is hard.