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edinburgher

Advice sought.

Due to start paternity leave a week today. If Mrs E has shown no signs of having the baby by the end of the bank holiday, does it make sense to come back into the office? On one hand, I've mentally signed off. On the other hand, I want to maximise the time off with new baby. I have a mammoth 37 days planned, if I need to come back into the office this would become a block of 4 days and then a smaller block later on.

Tilly_MFW_in_6_YRS

Morning, go back to work

You'll both want the time with little Toots and although you may have checked out, I am certain you would have regrets once she's born if you didn't maximise your time with her.

Looking forward to reading that she's arrived :j. You never know, she may be early

Tilly x x x

edinburgher

Thanks Tilly, I think I knew the answer to that one, will try and pull head out of bahookie for a little while longer

Firegirl

Awwwwwww brand new baby on the way!!!! Very exciting times. Go back to work but don't work to hard lol. With my first child my hubby was off for 2 weeks and I was ready for him to go back because I needed to see I could go it alone! Everyone's different though!

gallygirl

Of course you could compromise - say you need to do a few mornings work, at clients, so need to take the car. Drive to secluded spot and have a kip for a few hours . I know someone who did this :rotfl:.

edinburgher

Haha - my equivalent would be working from home - on the couch in my PJs

AlexLK

edinburgher wrote: »

Did your parents ever tell you how to look after a large sum of money Alex?

No, I think they just presumed I'd not waste it.

edinburgher wrote: »

Advice sought.

Due to start paternity leave a week today. If Mrs E has shown no signs of having the baby by the end of the bank holiday, does it make sense to come back into the office? On one hand, I've mentally signed off. On the other hand, I want to maximise the time off with new baby. I have a mammoth 37 days planned, if I need to come back into the office this would become a block of 4 days and then a smaller block later on.

If your wife is OK, go back to work and spend as long as you can off work when the baby arrives. If you've not spent much time around young children it's quite the shock.

Both my wife and I spent 6 months away from work. We still found it difficult and four years on Mrs K has not so far taken to being a mother.

edinburgher

6 months? I'm very jealous, 5 weeks feels like unprecedented luxury!

Four years on Mrs K has not so far taken to being a mother.

Funnily enough, I was discussing this with Mrs E last night, I don't think everyone likes being a parent. As with most things, I think that there are three degrees: those who know they'll love being parents, those who are unsure and those who avoid it like the plague. The transition from the middle to the 'bottom' of the scale is probably quite quick

Spent some time looking at houses today, good Lord it's depressing! :eek: Struggling to find much below £200k in a reasonable area.

Mrs E's sister has a very thrifty/canny husband. He frequently makes vague prognostications that sound somewhat specific, along the lines of 'we can't move for at least 2-4 years'. I find this funny, as it essentially provides carte blanche to avoid ever having to move

Unfortunately we are far more into specific dates, will need to keep saving and hopefully bring them closer.

AlexLK

edinburgher wrote: »

6 months? I'm very jealous, 5 weeks feels like unprecedented luxury!

I wouldn't be jealous, I was in no fit state to be running my business, we had no money and my parents were paying our mortgage.

It caused a lot of problems for my wife and she ended up leaving her previous company because they didn't believe she was committed to her work and a promotion that was promised to her upon her senior's retirement ended up being promised to somebody else.

edinburgher wrote: »

Funnily enough, I was discussing this with Mrs E last night, I don't think everyone likes being a parent. As with most things, I think that there are three degrees: those who know they'll love being parents, those who are unsure and those who avoid it like the plague. The transition from the middle to the 'bottom' of the scale is probably quite quick

I'd agree that not everyone likes being a parent. I love seeing my son learn all about things we take for granted.

My wife was unsure and I think has made the transition to the bottom of the scale as she has become much more interested in working away.

edinburgher wrote: »

Spent some time looking at houses today, good Lord it's depressing! :eek: Struggling to find much below £200k in a reasonable area.

Mrs E's sister has a very thrifty/canny husband. He frequently makes vague prognostications that sound somewhat specific, along the lines of 'we can't move for at least 2-4 years'. I find this funny, as it essentially provides carte blanche to avoid ever having to move

Unfortunately we are far more into specific dates, will need to keep saving and hopefully bring them closer.

What sort of house are you looking at?

Secret_Saving_Squirrel

One of my children frittered away a lot of money given by myself and his grandparents. I have got over it but wish we hadn't given it to him. But the other two were sensible. You can never tell.

Very excited about your baby. You are so lucky. I would do it all over again if I could.

Love from Squirrel x