A disabled child being verbally abused by an employee

Vicky123

sax11 wrote: »

This bit 'Does anyone know of any clauses on the Disability Act, that I can use to pursue the matter?'

Is why i queried the blame part - what form of compensation are they seeking? An apology, a payout, a media campaign on how public service workers treat 'wierd' children

Most kids are diagnosed with something nowadays anyway - used to just be known as little !!!!!! when i was younger.

Mountain / molehill

No, your wrong here, little s**** don't get a diagnosis of autism, they generally just grow up and make ill informed statements on the internet.

sax11

I was never one when a child and certainly not now.

You seem to be the one who is making ill informed statements.

But thank you for the iinput.

Indie_Kid

sax11 wrote: »

I was never one when a child and certainly not now.

You seem to be the one who is making ill informed statements.

But thank you for the iinput.

Oh please. Autism isn't the same as being a little !!!!. You're the one making the ill formed statement.

tomtontom

stefano wrote: »

Only thing I was going to do, is talk to the guy, and demand an apology, in writing, directly to my son.
The context of this point is, my son is autistic, and he loves riding on the buses. This bus driver obviously does not understand that, and has called him a weirdo, which my son was extremely incensed by.
But I can see that in this post, some people are understanding, while some are just as ignorant as the person who showed no compassion towards my boy

Again, you need to do this through formal channels. Your plan is more likely to end in trouble for you.

marisco_2

Every child has the right to be treated with respect. An adult should be capable of reading social cues, and want to show a level of understanding and tolerance, whether they are in the presence of a child who has special needs or not. I am sorry to hear what happened to your son and how this has upset you both OP.

As a teacher I notice that young children are very accepting of, and wish to include those, who are different to themselves. They manage to do this in a very natural way and without question. Some adults could learn an awful lot from their approaches.

greenorange

If it were me, as you work in the same company, I'd go and have a chat with the adult in question, and just explain politely that your child has autism (give a brief description of what it is in case that person is unaware), and that you feel their comments were unwarranted and potentially offensive, and that you hope should they run into your son, or another person who they believe to be 'weird', that they refrain from insulting them and keep such comments to themselves.

From that, you should be able to determine whether they are genuinely sorry or not by their response. If the former, let it go and move on, if the latter, make an official complaint with the company.

While I'm not sticking up for the adult (I used to work with sen children), it's possible they were having a bad day, make a mistake, and already regret the comment made. People make mistakes, give them the opportunity to make it right.

Buick

sax11 wrote: »

Most kids are diagnosed with something nowadays anyway - used to just be known as little !!!!!! when i was younger.

This bit made me chuckle :rotfl:
Generally speaking, I think there's probably some truth in it, though I'm not saying this applies to the OP!


OP did you actually witness the name-calling or is it second-hand information?

Vicky123

sax11 wrote: »

I was never one when a child and certainly not now.

You seem to be the one who is making ill informed statements.

But thank you for the iinput.

I didn't say you were, just making the sweeping generalisation that little sh*** grow up and make ill informed statements on the internet, course if the cap fits....

Buick

fivetide wrote: »

OP hasn't given the context though or details of why the comment was made so tricky to speculate

Indeed. We don't even know if he was there or if this is just what he's been told. Bus drivers don't usually go calling people names. Did something provoke the situation? What actually happened? We don't know. And yet here are people getting outraged about it, without knowing what went on.


When you see these sorts of comments coming from the parents of autistic kids it hardly comes as a surprise that people aren't exactly on their side:

stefano wrote: »

The complication is that I work for the same company, and I just want to get hold of this person and scare the hell out of him, whilst tearing into him and giving him a very big piece of my mind. I would assume I would see him shrink.

marleyboy wrote: »

Speaking as a parent of a severely autistic Son myself, the only clause I can think of involves a clenched fist and some missing teeth.

raq

hi there

Our son has a few difficulties and it is very painful when you hear things about your child. ( believe me I have had many a day crying to myself ). In April alone we had 3 separate incidents and wanted to scream, yell and cry all at the same time . Just briefly one of them was a father at the park who said to his young boy, "Push him out of the way ". Well he didn,t see I was actually stood by the side and heard every word. My face said it all and he walked away. After a chat with my family when days like this does happen I feel better because it,s these people who have the problem.

Hope your okay today