Do your family 'approve' of your partner?

System

My parents have always been ok with bfs, even my ex who treated me like !!!! (though I hid from them a lot of what went on so I can't fault them for thinking he was ok), they've not met my current bf, but as far as they are concerned as long as he makes me happy then that's good enough for them.

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

DD likes my boyfriend. She willingly talks to him, which, for a frequently uncommunicative teenager, is quite remarkable. And she's told DD1 about him, which again means there's something about him that's worth mentioning, even when there's the possibility of watching more TV or playing an Xbox game.

I'd be interested in the appearance of her boyfriends. She's started dating a lad now and I asked 'what does he look like?'. His skin colour would be part of his appearance - not that any variation is preferable, but just as being part of a brief description.


More importantly, compared to the rest of my relations I don't have any contact with, so can't have an opinion, my mates approve of him. They never said anything about my ex until we broke up, then they were incredibly supportive. And very glad I started seeing my fella.

Mrs_Ryan

My Mum didn't like my OH at first as he has mental health problems so he's quiet and looks vacant sometimes. Now she thinks he can do no wrong..

jillyjacks

my family weren't keen on my OH as he is 25 years younger than me and younger than one of my kids.......but a year and half later we are still together so they are beginning to come round :j

System

Jojo_the_Tightfisted wrote: »

More importantly, compared to the rest of my relations I don't have any contact with, so can't have an opinion, my mates approve of him. They never said anything about my ex until we broke up, then they were incredibly supportive. And very glad I started seeing my fella.

My friends are the same, namely my best friend. When I was with my ex he never said a bad word against him, and when we split he was there for me 100% but did confess he had never liked him, namely because he hated seeing me so unhappy, I asked him why he never said anything and he told me "you were in love with him, and you wouldn't have listened, I felt it more important to be there for you instead". He's met my current bf and likes him and has commented on the fact I am so much happier these days! He said it's like having the "old me back"

Oh dear this thread has made me think about the fact that although I've met my bfs parents (and touch wood they seem to like me-they keep inviting me up to see them) they don't technically know how old I am it's never chilly come up in conversation but I'm still wary of them finding out I'm 27, when I'm dating their son who is 23 I think we didn't ell them as I wanted them to get to know me first rather than possibly jump to conclusions I was some mad older woman stealing their son I actually don't think they'd care that much (my parents don't) but bf worries about it.

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I don't know if my parents were that keen when I first brought him home but 10 years on I think they like him more than they like me! To be fair he didn't have much in the way of prospects, had just left school with OK-ish qualifications and no ambition, and I let him move in with me after 6 months at the age of 17 so I think they'd have been justfied in being a bit concerned! He graduates uni this year though so was just a late starter

My gran (who has never met him) didn't understand why I have stuck with the same person from my teenage years and advised me to be more like she was in her day and "put it about a bit more!" :eek: :rotfl:

onlyroz

My parents were extremely dubious about my husband because there is a large age gap - but they came round fairly quickly when they realised that he could provide free IT support

double_mummy

my mum refused to talk to me for years because of my OH she told me he would knock me up and leave me - well he knocked me up and married me lol she had met him once for about 3 minutes at this point

Blue264

My best friend is a guy and he took an exceptional dislike to one of my previous boyfriends but kept quiet about it. That was until one night when we were in our local pub and he decided to tell me his feelings and why.

Moments later, my boyfriend turned up and my mate went to the bar for us. My boyfriend decided that we shouldn't see each other anymore and that he didn't want me to tell anyone that we had been seeing each other because he had mutual friends with my ex husband. All the time, my mate was standing behind him listening in, and took it upon himself to escort they guy off the premises

When a bloke tells you another bloke is bad news, they're usually right.