Have I right to ask the ex to meet the girlfriend 30 April 2014 at 7:58PM edited 30 November -1 at 1:00AM in Marriage, Relationships & Families 121 replies 10K views

welshone1

My ex has my son every other weekend with his girlfriend he wants to take our son abroad with the girlfriend for a week. My son as never been away from me for more the 1 night every fortnight. I have asked to meet this girlfriend but my ex says I have no right. Foes anybody know where I stand with this request to am. Being unreasonable .

balletshoes

why do you want to meet her?

peachyprice

I don't think you're being unreasonable in wanting to meet someone your child is going to be spending a week abroad with.

Georgiegirl256

How old is your son? Do you trust your ex?

lilmissreading

No you are not being unreasonable. I wouldn't want my child spending a week with someone I'd never met. Think it's entirely reasonable and why is he saying no?!

suejb2

Just offering a spin on things here,would you let your ex husband meet your new partner if the situation arose.What do you want from this meeting?What if you don't like what you see?

iammumtoone

In law no you do not the right right to meet his girlfriend. Morally however I do feel this is a reasonable request.

However I do believe (someone correct me if I am wrong) that he DOES have to obtain your permission before taking him out of the country so therefore you do have the right in law to say your son can't go!

Maybe explaining the above to him (if I am correct) might persuade him that it is a good idea for you to meet the girlfriend

welshone1

suejb2 wrote: »

Just offering a spin on things here,would you let your ex husband meet your new partner if the situation arose.What do you want from this meeting?What if you don't like what you see?

He as had Christmas dinner with my partner and me and he meet him cause it's the right thing to do as parents

welshone1

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

How old is your son? Do you trust your ex?

My son is 7 and don't trust my ex at all we divorced because of his behaviour. I don't think it's wright that I would allow my son on holiday with someone that I don't know.

welshone1

lilmissreading wrote: »

No you are not being unreasonable. I wouldn't want my child spending a week with someone I'd never met. Think it's entirely reasonable and why is he saying no?!

He doesn't want me meeting her just in case she finds out the truth about him but I don't care about that.

Grumpygit

No, you're not being unreasonable - it's natural that you would want to meet the people who he will be away with.

You obviously have issues with your ex due to how he was when you were married, but has he changed now? What don't you trust him on?

How many times does he have him overnight and has your son met the girlfriend and what does he say about her?