Bed wetting

sooty&sweep

You say that she won't get up even if she needs a wee which means she's aware but chooses not to get up so to be honest this sounds like a psychological rather than physical problem.
Have you tried a reward chart ?
My daughter is a bed wetter and things that the Doctor told me that make it worse are caffeine which is in chocolate and coca cola and also dark coloured drinks such as blackcurrant or vimto.
Jen

kezzygirl

Heres my advice; her mother needs to get her the medication and make sure she takes it!

ahomemadetouch

there have also been links between aspartame and bedwetting - which might be worth doing

i think at 12 she might need to start taking ownership as well maybe getting her to put the sheets in the wash herself rather than you washing them

Heffi1

I noticed in your signature, that you are expecting, do you think this might have something to do with it, the thought that she will be replaced by a baby and she needs to be grown up, so is regressing.

Obviously this might not be the case, and she may not be aware of it either, but it is something to think about.

Octobergirl

I'm just starting out this journey with 5 year old son, he sleeps through and waiting for an alarm. 8 year old daughter just become dry. We were advised to put her in knickers, then the libero pull ups (larger size, organised by continence nurse) over the top. That way, she felt the wet but it saved the sheets. I also put brolly sheets on the bed to reduce the washing. Could you put towels/ waterproof sheet on the hall carpet between her bedroom and bathroom to save the carpets?

JoanneC_2

Everyone here is trying to be helpful but you'll note that a lot of the replies are just guesses and suggestions. Some are helpful and some have the potential to be harmful. This is an important issue and, as you have already alluded to, it affects the whole family. I would urge you to contact ERIC - www.eric.org.uk - they are a fantastic charity who help families and children with continence issues. Have a look at their website and give their helpline a call. They are fantastic and will offer all of you lots of advice.

monty-doggy

JoanneC wrote: »

Everyone here is trying to be helpful but you'll note that a lot of the replies are just guesses and suggestions. Some are helpful and some have the potential to be harmful. This is an important issue and, as you have already alluded to, it affects the whole family. I would urge you to contact ERIC - www.eric.org.uk - they are a fantastic charity who help families and children with continence issues. Have a look at their website and give their helpline a call. They are fantastic and will offer all of you lots of advice.

That's brilliant, thank you!

clairev36

This is something I went through with my daughter. I asked to be referred to the school nurse in the end.

I would second checking out ERIC.

We had already tried cutting down on fluids in the late afternoon, waking her to take to toilet, pyjama pants.

Initially we had to fill in fluid intake charts and bed wetting charts. She's was wet every night without fail and as you describe soaked up to her shoulders usually.

We were told not to restrict her fluid intake at all. In fact the school nurse team felt she might not be drinking enough during the day hence her bladder was not being stretched to the full capacity.

Fizzy drinks and caffeine irritate the bladder and told to avoid.

We did get a bed alarm as well but didn't get on with it that well as it would make her quite sweaty and then the alarm would go off.

We used to make a draw sheet on the bed out of a single sheet folded with a waterproof mat underneath.

There is some thought that it may be hereditary. I was a terrible bed wetter well past the age of 12. Her younger sister has been dry at night from the age of 3.

I think in the end it was a combination of bladder stretching and the alarm and maybe just all the effort we eventually cracked it and touch wood :T haven't looked back.


I think a consistent approach is the best but not easy when she's only with you for part of the week.

It's so hard with the mountains of washing from constant wet beds and very difficult not to show your frustration but having been there myself and knowing how mortified I used to feel I always tried to supportive.
Good luck, you'll get there in the end

monty-doggy

Thanks for the good advice, I feel much better now.

I'm going to talk to her mum about consistency of the tablets and making sure she drinks enough in the day, which I think might be part of the problem.

I'm also going to suggest back to the gp.

Thanks again.

couponqueen123

op dont take this the wrong way but are u the right person to chat to mum,

i know she needs to listen but "the other woman" even if u wernt involved in the break up wouldnt come across the best to most

ask dad to have a word

if on the other hand u get along im sorry for my post