Unprofessional?

daisiegg

I am also in the big boobs club (though don't consider them a curse - they are my best asset! Whether I will feel the same way later this year after breastfeeding wreaks its havoc, only time will tell...) and I don't think I would have been bothered or offended by her remark, but I suppose a lot depends on the context of the rest of the conversation and the tone.

sulphate

Can you elaborate further by putting this comment into context- was this comment out of the blue? What happened in the few minutes leading up to it?

PenguinOfDeath

Pinkdebster wrote: »

Similar situation that left me wondering the same thing - I have no stomach following surgery and am reliant on a feeding tube into my bowel for all nutrition. I am always underweight. On one occasion, one of the nurses said to me "I'd do anything to be as thin as you"............really??????

This ^^^ is uncalled for from anyone, but from a health professional even more so!

I read it as the radiologist was saying it in a helpful way ie potential back problems, but I guess the way it depends on the way it was said

Janepig

I agree with the other posters who have asked about the context - I think if she said it out of the blue then it's out of order, but if she said it as part of a conversation you were having to try and lighten the mood a bit then I wouldn't say it's as bad.

This is making me feel a bit better now after I had to have an x-ray a year ago, and there were signs up everywhere telling you to make it known to the staff if you are or might be pregnant. I wasn't, didn't think anything of it, but the radiographer (I assume that's what they're called) obviously needed to know so I was rather put out when, even though I'm <cough> early 40's and like to think I don't look it, she dashed all my hopes by not asking if I was pregnant but "are you still having periods"?!!!! Nice. "Yes I effing well am" was what I wanted to say!!

Jx

Tropez

Pretty much what lostinrates said.

If you made no comment or indicated in any way that your breast size was causing you discomfort then it was an unprofessional comment because quite clearly you were not there for such a discussion.

However, if the radiologist said what they said in response to something you did or said (even inadvertently) that indicated your breast size may be causing discomfort the comment would likely have been an expression of genuine concern.

She may have been thinking that prevention preferable to cure, so this radiologist may have thought that your size could cause you problems with your back down the line but as I say, if you hadn't actually given any indication that you were in discomfort then it was somewhat unprofessional of her to bring it up.

notanewuser

daisiegg wrote: »

I am also in the big boobs club (though don't consider them a curse - they are my best asset! Whether I will feel the same way later this year after breastfeeding wreaks its havoc, only time will tell...) and I don't think I would have been bothered or offended by her remark, but I suppose a lot depends on the context of the rest of the conversation and the tone.

Breastfeeding didn't wreck mine, but they've not gone back down since stopping 2.5 years ago!

System

Janepig wrote: »

... I was rather put out when, even though I'm <cough> early 40's and like to think I don't look it, she dashed all my hopes by not asking if I was pregnant but "are you still having periods"?!!!! Nice. "Yes I effing well am" was what I wanted to say!!

Jx

I was asked that by my doctor when I was 40. I suddenly felt quite old :rotfl: I think of the menopause as occurring in the 45-55 age group, but of course it can be earlier.

OP to answer your question, I think as others have said, it would depend on the context.

daisiegg

notanewuser wrote: »

Breastfeeding didn't wreck mine, but they've not gone back down since stopping 2.5 years ago!

I was always led to believe that pregnancy and breastfeeding will make them all saggy and they will never be the same again or is it just the years that does that?! At the moment I am lucky enough that despite being G/H they are pretty gravity defying. I know I won't enjoy that forever!

(Sorry for derailing thread )

lostinrates

Janepig wrote: »

I agree with the other posters who have asked about the context - I think if she said it out of the blue then it's out of order, but if she said it as part of a conversation you were having to try and lighten the mood a bit then I wouldn't say it's as bad.

This is making me feel a bit better now after I had to have an x-ray a year ago, and there were signs up everywhere telling you to make it known to the staff if you are or might be pregnant. I wasn't, didn't think anything of it, but the radiographer (I assume that's what they're called) obviously needed to know so I was rather put out when, even though I'm <cough> early 40's and like to think I don't look it, she dashed all my hopes by not asking if I was pregnant but "are you still having periods"?!!!! Nice. "Yes I effing well am" was what I wanted to say!!

Jx

I wouldn't worry abot this too much, I was twenty four I think when I first developed what turned out to be a life hanging chronic illness. I told the go I was seeing all the kind of stuff they must hear a lot like ' very, very tired, no energy, just cannot move' ( to put it in context I was working part time in a competitive sports role in two different sports, so really quite fit and was not underage looking, but regularly got ID' so didn't look ancient) . The wrong side of middle aged doctor told that twenty four ish year old me 'none of us are getting any younger'.:rotfl:

I still both laugh and shudder when I think how my energy was dismissed as the aging process...in my early/ mid twenties.

lostinrates

daisiegg wrote: »

I was always led to believe that pregnancy and breastfeeding will make them all saggy and they will never be the same again or is it just the years that does that?! At the moment I am lucky enough that despite being G/H they are pretty gravity defying. I know I won't enjoy that forever!

(Sorry for derailing thread )

I think its partly luck and shape. My mother's still look pretty great, they are huge , not pert, but a lovely shape, and she's old enough to be a great, great grandmother technically. :eek: Terrifying! I won't point that out to her Any time soon!