talk me down please

tunathe_cat

mellymoo74 wrote: »

Thanks tuna
Hope your home and dry?
X

not yet..... testing Monday for asbestos in ceilings!!!!!!!!!

new front door friday so we be able to get out of house and be safe!

wannabe_sybil

Passing by to send hugs.

I'm going to ask a difficult question now, Melly. How are you looking after yourself?

You deserve fuss. Thank goodness you have a large supply of furry lurve machines!

I am recovering from a very minor ordeal compared to yours - I've just got bear's school shoes. It was only around 9:30 this morning and it was already like armegeddon. I wonder when and if I can leave bear to sort out his own school uniform. He's only nine now, but surely he'll be able to make sensible decisions before he finishes school?

No, I'm not convinced either.

You have got some good guard cats there. Never underestimated a guard cat.

Sending lots of hugs x

mellymoo74

I'm not

I did sleep till 1pm!!!!

Boo and the catlets were upset

Pickle and tomcat complained bitterly at the lack of food ty stayed on the bed lol.

Dogs have been walked
About to try and clean the kitchen
OH is still asleep so he was sat up all night.

Boo was on alert? Window was open in my room as I have dogs so early alarm system.
Curtains blew in
Boo and froo were up and at the window in seconds.

Bear as a male will always have interesting choice in clothing. Wearing interesting stuff is fun hough and how you develop your own style.

At least it's finally moving Tuna I'm pleased you must be thrilled.

I am veering towards if I can get PIP reinstated claiming carers allowance and having a work break my dad may have had a work ethic but he would be feeding me peppered steak we can't afford if he could see me.

mellymoo74

Oh and tigerbabies was hand fed pork chop last night as a thank you

Pickle wa's disgusted so stole half a chop and went off having a growl

mellymoo74

Ts got up
Its in a mood
Been nasty for a change
Refusing to go to PIP appeal

pollyanna_26

Melly the post you have just written isn't clear to me ( sorry ) are you talking about your husband ? Is he refusing to attend the appeal ?
I will stay online for a bit to see if you reply .
Hugs
polly x

mellymoo74

I am
He has got up in a foul mood

Had a temper tantrum

Refused to go to PIP appeal

I have told.him to stay away from me till he apologises
Oh
And that he has made me ill

I am having dog loves

pollyanna_26

OK Is he normally like this or do you think his mh condition is escalating ? I know exactly how these big meltdowns can make things impossible and you can't get through to the person inside . He will be in high anxiety mode but he will wreck all your efforts recently to sort everything and get some normality back in your lives . After these outbursts is it usually possible to get him to see sense ?
I hesitate to offer advice because you are the only person who truly knows the situation .
I would say ill or not he needs to be told you have pushed yourself beyond your limits to sort things and he needs to attend the appeal or he will find himself with his life crashing down around his ears .
A few years ago my daughter started to take overdoses ( not swallowing the meds but saving them . After a few of these events with paramedics and ambulances she did it again and I refused to call an ambulance in the end despite her phobias she phoned herself and as they were putting her in the ambulance I told them I would not be going with her . It was the worst night of my life and I spent the night crying and phoning the hospital but she never did it again .
We now have " the line you don't cross " seldom used but designed to stop enabling certain behaviour .
I keep meaning to mention something you said in the past few weeks about worrying your oh may take an overdose . Does he have access to his meds or do you give him them ? it could be a good idea not to have more than a few doses close at hand .
If he refuses to agree to the pip meeting then you must weigh up how to deal with things - I don't know if he is bad enough for you to speak to the crisis team or if he will calm down but he is not seeing the bigger picture here and is risking everything .
I am hoping you can calm him down . Who cares for the Carers !
Love and hugs
polly

mellymoo74

It's escalating I think.

This is a reaction to the break in and his fears about the PIP appeal.

He doesn't need to go so I have called his bluff.

pollyanna_26

Do you ever get to a point where he actually agrees that his behaviour is not helpful , it sounds as though he is locked into a negative way of thinking and you keep getting the fallout . If you get a chance to talk to him try to get him to see he is not helping you to do everything you can and would be better to when possible think before he opens his mouth . Easier said than done but you need to be able to stay on your feet and deal with next week .
Love polly x