What does he want? If anything

victory

Ash__ wrote: »

My ex partner who used to control me and my kids was sent to prison 3 years ago for dealing.dugs.

I have two kids and after events I share custody with my mum. I live with my best friend and this weekend I've had the kids over, He knows I am not exactly flush with money, so he doesnt take rent off me only take some for bills and food.

Today, he organised for the kids an easter egg hunt and he lets them do anything they want. such as get all their toys in the lounge and make a mess like kids do.

He makes sure I never go without in anything I need. I was in hospital for a few days, He picked me up when I was discharged and he came to see me every day.

Some have said he is a genuinely a nice guy (Everyone I know says he is except with a few people he has recently fell out with) others say he is after something. Theres been chances for him to try something and he didn't. the most he has ever done is hug me when I am down.

Do you think he could have some alteria motive?

Do you trust him? Has he said or done anything to you or your kids that would make you question his sincerity?

Ash__

jetplane wrote: »

How long have you known your 'best friend'? Do the kids live with your mum and what does your mum think?

My mum likes him. She thinks its good that he takes an interest.

I've known him about 6 years.

Hes never said anything or done anything thats made me question him or his motives. Hes always been a great person.

couponqueen123

Ash__ wrote: »

My mum likes him. She thinks its good that he takes an interest.

I've known him about 6 years.

Hes never said anything or done anything thats made me question him or his motives. Hes always been a great person.

hey hun , he sounds like a good friend to me , dose he have a gf, or date?

if he dose i would say hes just a great friend and lucky you

if he dosnt and you like him then ask if he likes you more than a mate ,

some times men need a kick up the bum , they think they showing you what they want but they wont come out and say it

and they say woman do riddles its men

if your not interested in that way then just carry on being friends and when you can return the kind offers do so even if its cook a mean some time?

one other thing if your having sex with him them thats also a reason for him to be nice to you as your at his house so on tap ? i dont think this but its just a thought

Indie_Kid

You've known him for 5 years. If he was really after something, I'm sure he would have done it by now.

FBaby

During these 6 years has he had a girlfriend (or boyfriend)? Does he ever talk about girls/boys, going out to meet someone? If he considers you like a friend, you could expect him to confine in you about who he likes or doesn't like etc...

Do you talk to him about someone you might like, or going out and meeting someone etc... how does he react? Does he encourages you to move on or does he appears annoyed/jealous when you mention it?

Ash__

Over the years he's had a few girlfriends, Recently split from one. (last few months) She is one of the people spreading that he is nasty Her reasoning is that he wouldn't let her spend his cash as if it was water and this makes him a real nasty person. Infact I get annoyed/jealous when he goes out on a date!

I talk to him about guys, I've dated a few, He has disliked a few after I told him what theyve done. but he is supportive and encourages me to go out.

In fact if I've been invited out and I am skint he would give me some cash so I can as he says "have fun"

marisco_2

Ash__ wrote: »

Over the years he's had a few girlfriends, Recently split from one. (last few months) She is one of the people spreading that he is nasty Her reasoning is that he wouldn't let her spend his cash as if it was water and this makes him a real nasty person.

More like it makes him really astute and not someone who can be easily taken advantage of.

sacha28

So you feel annoyed/jealous when he goes on a date? You're HOPING he has an ulterior motive, not suspicious of it!

Am I right??

Ash__

marisco wrote: »

More like it makes him really astute and not someone who can be easily taken advantage of.

I agree. but people are saying things like "He gave a DVD he got free from a newspaper as a gift" and that if you borrow money off him he is chasing for it back, but to me he is completely different. If I want a hug he will give me a hug. If I want to talk he will listen or if I fancy something from the shop he would go.

I can go as far as saying he's never raised his voice or anything whilst I've lived with him.

Ash__

sacha28 wrote: »

So you feel annoyed/jealous when he goes on a date? You're HOPING he has an ulterior motive, not suspicious of it!

Am I right??

I have to admit I do. I don't get your second part of the comment.