How is a marriage supposed to be...

Nodding_Donkey

I think a bloke saying he will leave his wife when the kids are 18 ranks up with "The cheque is in the post"

PeacefulWaters

You prefer falling in love to being in a long term relationship.

Or you're a troll.

Either way, you're messed up and need to grow up.

rachiibell

OP giving you the benefit of the doubt that you are not a troll I think some of the posters have been a bit harsh. Yes a marriage should be faithful but there's no need to express opinions so judgementally. It sounds like you never really loved your husbandbut just continued with the relationship because you could see the qualities in him that most people want in a relationship. My advice end the affairs it'll only lead to heartache for everyone involved, take some time out to think about what it is you want. If you decide you want to try and make it work with your current husband you must confess what happened so you can have a fresh start but be prepared for him to not want the same. Good luck!

tea_lover

We need a 'troll or tramp' poll.

nickj_2

if your husband was your best friend and loyal , then as a rule , people don't betray their best friends , so it seems he might not be your best friend ,
do him a favour and let him go so he can find someone decent who's not going to cheat on him .
and don't be surprised when your new boyfriends kids turn 18 and he doesn't leave his wife

Mojisola

AlwaysUnsure wrote: »

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i have been with my OH 11 years and married for 8

If you were with him for four years before you married him, you must have know what he was like.

Why marry him if you wanted different things from life?

arbroath_lass

rachiibell wrote: »

OP giving you the benefit of the doubt that you are not a troll I think some of the posters have been a bit harsh.

You think this thread is harsh? Wait till her husband finds out.


But, as the OP hasn't been back since posting I don't think there's any need to give her the benefit of the doubt now. OP is a troll.

gt568

I'm amazed people waste time with these threads. Do make me lol though!

Confusedandneedhelp

Well let's hope this is a troll.

I can't stand people who have affairs, you made a commitment, if everything else has fallen apart then split up!

This is both sexes before anyone stereotypes. Anyone who breaks trust like that is the worst kind of person.

I have suffered with trust issues which were worsened by an ex, in turn these issues have caused me huge problems ( with other stuff too ) when I met the person I want to spend my life with. I have to really fight my problems now, going to therapy and making an effort to really change. I love this person and she never did anything that would've broken my trust, but I could never fully commit.

Frankly cheaters should be branded so the rest if us know where to tell them to go.

thx1138

T Roll. Shorthand for Tyrannosaurus Roll.