How is a marriage supposed to be...

Buzzybee90

thorsoak wrote: »

I fail to understand why anyone would make a post like this unless they are trolls. What do you expect of us? Approval? Permission to drop your drawers whenever someone gives you the glad eye?

You say you are 31 and feel like 20 - well I'm 70, and still feel like 20 - but it don't mean that I look 20, nor can I still behave like a 20 year old. And it will be the same for you. Keep on seeking thrills and you will just become a sad, silly old woman who still behaves like a 20 year old, and is given a wide berth by everyone who is unfortunate enough to come into her company.

If you have no respect for yourself, then have some for the man you married - and leave now.

I think the OP is pretty insulting to 20 year olds...!

sulphate

Sounds like you don't even LIKE your husband. Why did you marry him? Probably because he is your best friend, loyal with a good work ethic - this is more important than the things you are getting from your new lover.

You've been with your husband 11 years and expected the butterflies to last forever, apparently. You're only bored with him because you have stopped making the effort.

Marriages are hard sometimes and take work, you get out of it what you put in. Sounds like you're not putting anything in so what do you expect? Of course it's much easier to have an affair, but if you don't address this "boredom" and choose to split up your family instead, the same issue will only resurface when you enter into your next long term relationship.

CRANKY40

How is a marriage supposed to be...... well mostly faithful I guess in that until the day my husband died he and I didn't look at a member of the opposite sex with a view to sh@gging their brains out as we had each other and we loved each other.

Bluebell68

maybe she doesn't wear pants?
would save her time
wouldn't have keep pulling them back up

Such a decent honest role model for her child.....NOT
grow up keep pants on
or have the decency to be honest with OH
if not sure what Honest means then look it up in a dictionary

duchy

How many affairs have you had in total (not just two presumably) ? How many previous affairs has your current extra had ?

If you discovered your husband was also having affairs -how would you feel about it ?

wapow

Yes, the OP is messed up in more ways than one.


But what does this say about the OP's OH?
What does it say about the men who get with the OP?

duchy

I'm sure if they posted- People would comment- but they aren't posting the OP is.

Bennifred

I demand the return of the rolling eyes smillie! :mad:

Northern_Princess

How is your marriage supposed to be? Faithful! That's what marriage is (well in my book anyway). I won't apologise for what I'm about to say, but your husband deserves much more than a cheating wife! If you don't love him then leave, but be honest about how you feel. I wonder how long the 'magic' will last if you leave your trusting, loyal husband for your bit on the side?

JIL

The grass is not always greener on the other side.
If you left your husband, what would be different if you were with the new man? Apart from he would still be with his wife and you would feel hard done to because you would have walked out on your marriage disrupting your sons life to be someone's bit on the side. Time to evaluate what you really want perhaps?