Realism Vs Idealism?

splishsplash

You sound most unhappy, OP, and not just about the TV.

What is the relevance of the amount of light coming into your lounge?

Why is it up to you to do half the housework, and why are you (pl) leaving it until the weekend if is stresses you so much?

Did you discuss parenting styles with your OH before the baby came? Is it that you came to a consensus about how much screen time you both considered healthy for a small child and he is now going back on your agreement? Is it the lack of interactive play that bothers you? Did you expect your OH to fall in with what you consider to be the ideal parenting style?

Why is the weekend time in front of the tv responsible for your son being addicted to it? Isn't he spending all week in front of it in your parents' care? TBH, sounds like you're less than happy with this arrangement?

Does your OH understand your fears for your son about history repeating itself? You know it reads like you resent your own mother and blame her for your weight. That must add frustration to your current childcare arrangements.

You sound incredibly tense, and I wonder what the atmosphere is like in your home? It sounds like it's not a happy place. I can't imagine the claustrophobia I would feel if I were your OH, with all the simmering emotions. I think it would probably sap me and leave me pretty flat.

I'm also not sure why you think it's reasonable for you to ask your husband to clear out of his 'home' to give you some space? How can that be right?

I would suggest using this weekend to decide if you're happy living with your OH and son. If you are, find your own place immediately and hang the deposit. It sounds like your relationship won't survive much longer at the rate you're going.

SailorSam

I think there must be lots of people have the Tv on all day, even when they're not in the room. First thing i do when i get up is switch the radio on, but it's usually not until around tea time and the evening news is on that i'll switch to Tv, tyhen later of a night after the late news i'll turn back to the radio.

mrcow

Fredula wrote: »

Is it just me that finds the idea of the TV being on from the moment someone wakes up to the moment they go to bed, the most frustrating thing ever?!

No it's not just you.

I'd even take it one step further to say that it's a form of the most laziest "parenting" methods ever. Switch the telly on, bung the kids in front of it and you don't have to do anything yourself. And yes you're right, it is one of the reasons that so many kids have weight issues these days. Some kids can't even sit calmly WITHOUT the tv on these days! They need it on to help them sit down and eat, or even to calm down before bed!

It would drive me nuts. If it was going on every day in my house, I'd probably just get some wire cutters and cut the cables. If my husband complained, I'd tell him to grow up and start behaving like a responsible parent.

angelsmomma

We don't watch TV at all. I hated the way my son would become still and zombie like when watching it as a toddler. I did some research on it and decided that I should get rid of the TV altogether. I can't say I miss it or even think about it until someone asks me if I saw something on TV and I say I don't have one to incredulous looks.

I am a single mum though so make all the decisions. I can't imagine having a partner who spent all his leisure time watching TV or playing computer games.

whodathunkit

Could you put a TV in your bedroom and encourage your OH to watch it there without the baby?

Mojisola

Fredula wrote: »

So my issue is that after working a 40 hour week, aside from me constantly asking OH to take kiddo out for an hour or two on the weekend so I can get on with our half of the housework - he doesn't.

But not only does he not (so I have to try and clean round them, etc) but the television is on from the moment he gets up, to the moment he goes to bed.

His Dad is more concerned about watching the television than playing with him.

But when I'm not in the room and OH is watching him (e.g, I might be preparing tea), OH is either watching TV not paying attention to our son or he's reading his kindle.

It sounds as if you have one toddler and one teenager to look after.

It's time for a serious discussion about whether your child's father is going to act like a father or not. If not, life would a lot less stressful without him around.

Gillyx

I'm another one who hate the TV. I don't mind it being on for a specific programme that someone wants to watch, but I hate when it's just on blaring in the background, does my head in.

I'm a SAHM, and used to be very guilty of the put the tv on to keep toddler amused, however I started to realise how much he wanted it on, so I hit the nail on the head. It goes on now at 1.45 after lunch (if we're in that is) and he watches Something Special, while I do the dishes up from lunch, then he watches In the night Garden after dinner, before he goes for his bath.

My OH is also a tv fiend. So much so he prefers to sleep at night with it on :eek: if it's on and he isn't watching a particular programme I just turn it off, as A, if it's on my toddler wants kids tv and B, he isn't paying attention so why waste electricity.

egoode

whodathunkit wrote: »

Could you put a TV in your bedroom and encourage your OH to watch it there without the baby?

This could be an even worse idea. I love watching the TV and constantly have it on, I'm not always watching it but I like it as background noise as I live on my own. However I've purposely decided to not have a TV in my bedroom as it would be on all night if I did. So if her husband is as addicted to TV as I am then a TV in the bedroom would make the issue even worse.

Fredula

We've got a TV in the bedroom which he plays his Xbox on. He's very much a bedtime routine kinda guy (gets grumpy if he stays up later than 10:20) so I wouldn't need to worry about it being on all night up there.

pinkduvetdiva

mountainofdebt wrote: »

OP I have to ask what's OBEM?

One Born Every Minute.