Marks & Spencer cafe: breast-feeding mother asked to leave & feed baby in toilets:OK?

gik

Doc_N wrote: »

This will be the very last feeding time for the trolls, but I really don't care whether you believe it or not. It happened, M&S will be made aware of it, and there will be consequences for the store. I'm very confident that this particular store will not repeat the incident.

But that's between my wife and the store in question - not for general publication here for the reasons already given. Giving the name of the store will not help you accept or reject what I've said in any way - simply because you have no way of checking it. But it will be checked very shortly, and I'm confident that the person responsible will be identified and retrained.

So, trolls, no more food for you now. You've had your fill. Try somewhere else for your fun. :rotfl:

Neither you or your wife by your own admission witnessed what happened. You are only retelling to us what your wife told you she heard in the lav. Doesn't mean it is actually is real or true does it?

flossy_splodge

I realise it will not be a popular view but I'm afraid I object STRONGLY to a female breast feeding in public.
I never found the need to do so in my own turn, some years ago and certainly do NOT want to witness someone else doing so.
I appreciate modesty has gone out of the window these days but I would be the one complaining if forced to witness this when trying to have a peaceful cuppa.
(stands back and waits for the righteously indignant to deny me the right to MY opinion).

Pollycat

flossy_splodge wrote: »

I realise it will not be a popular view but I'm afraid I object STRONGLY to a female breast feeding in public.
I never found the need to do so in my own turn, some years ago and certainly do NOT want to witness someone else doing so.
I appreciate modesty has gone out of the window these days but I would be the one complaining if forced to witness this when trying to have a peaceful cuppa.
(stands back and waits for the righteously indignant to deny me the right to MY opinion).

Object STRONGLY?

WOW!

TBH, I don't care one way or another.

I don't think it's a case of 'modesty going out of the window' at all.
I can't remember what my contemporaries did (40 or so years ago) but if they did breastfeed in public it obviously didn't bother me enough to object STRONGLY.

"forced to witness this"?
Really? :rotfl:

For the record, I'm not 'righteously indignant' and I'm not denying you 'the right to YOUR opinion'. :rotfl:

peachyprice

flossy_splodge wrote: »

I realise it will not be a popular view but I'm afraid I object STRONGLY to a female breast feeding in public.
I never found the need to do so in my own turn, some years ago and certainly do NOT want to witness someone else doing so.
I appreciate modesty has gone out of the window these days but I would be the one complaining if forced to witness this when trying to have a peaceful cuppa.
(stands back and waits for the righteously indignant to deny me the right to MY opinion).

Stop staring then.

antrobus

Azari wrote: »

....I still feel that one of the least believable aspects of this story is that a mother would be forced to feed her baby in a lavatory after suffering the embarrassment of being turfed out of a cafe and yet go back and put herself in exactly the same position again..e.

Pollycat wrote: »

I can't argue with the above.

Whilst it is, of course, entirely possible, that the mother in question came up with the 'I was thrown out of the cafe' story simply as a means of fobbing off what she regarded as a nosy old woman who might otherwise have given her a lecture on why a lavatory wasn't a suitable place to breast feed a child.

antrobus

flossy_splodge wrote: »

I realise it will not be a popular view but I'm afraid I object STRONGLY to a female breast feeding in public.....

You're right, it will not be a popular view.

flossy_splodge wrote: »

...I appreciate modesty has gone out of the window these days but I would be the one complaining if forced to witness this when trying to have a peaceful cuppa.....

You're perfectly entitled to your opinion, but please be advised that if you were in a cafe and started complaining about a fellow patron who was breastfeeding her child, you would likely be the one that was asked to leave.

robatwork

I just get this feeling that this thread is going to run and run.....hopefully not to hpuse proportions however.

Would be good to see an M&S Representative on here clarify their policy.

Crabapple

robatwork wrote: »

Would be good to see an M&S Representative on here clarify their policy.

Their policy is going to be the law - that breastfeeding mothers can do so anywhere they are entitled to be. Unfortunately there are always going to be some individuals who are not aware of this and tell mothers to move/leave. Not aimed at m&s here, there's plenty of cases that arise in various places and make the news.

Azari

robatwork wrote: »

I just get this feeling that this thread is going to run and run.....hopefully not to hpuse proportions however.

Amen to that.

Would be good to see an M&S Representative on here clarify their policy.

M&S don't really have an option on their policy.

The law is that you are not allowed to discriminate against a mother for feeding her child.

If ever an event like this happens it means that something has gone wrong. It's not unknown for staff of any company to not fully understand their obligations under various anti discrimination statutes (there is a lot of it and it's not all completely straight forward), so, although any half decent company will ensure that its staff are properly trained, mistakes will happen from time to time.

Crabapple

flossy_splodge wrote: »

I realise it will not be a popular view but I'm afraid I object STRONGLY to a female breast feeding in public.
I never found the need to do so in my own turn, some years ago and certainly do NOT want to witness someone else doing so.
I appreciate modesty has gone out of the window these days but I would be the one complaining if forced to witness this when trying to have a peaceful cuppa.
(stands back and waits for the righteously indignant to deny me the right to MY opinion).

Wow! :rotfl:

One thing I never understand when breastfeeding debates start on forums or news sites, is the number of people who start going on about having to see such a sight and how mothers should be discreet.

I've never once seen one of the women who wap their baps out at every opportunity! I have however seen plenty where you really couldn't tell. As a breastfeeder I don't mind if people are aware I am feeding my baby but I they won't be seeing anything else (and that's without using covers).

I'm also pretty sure people can look somewhere else!