Saying goodbye

beachbeth

I think you can disagree with someone here without resorting to abuse. It is very cowardly to do it online because you are never likely to meet people you are conversing with. I have occasionally posted something only to have someone have a go at me. Its completely unwarranted. To do it by PM so that others don't know how nasty you are is very cowardly too.

Please don't let people like this put you off. They are not worth it. As everyone has said, just report the abuse and block them and then carry on as normal. It is a sad fact of life that there will always be people like this online. We need more nice people in order to outnumber them!

Queenie

I'm on my way out of the door (or should be!) but I can't go out and not respond to this thread.

((((csarina)))) Please do not leave - take a break if you feel you need to, but do not leave!!

Whoever sent you that PM cannot, surely, be an important person in your life. Do not empower them by making their comments important! Do not empower them by dignifying their remarks. Report, report, report!!!!!!!

I've had nasty PM's - hey, I've had some very, very, nasty comments posted on here about me when they thought *I* was an AE (which I wasn't/am not). Yes, it can be hurtful - but do not let it override all the *positive* things people say to and about you.

Take a breather, by all means; but don't let this affect your coming back.

I really do have to run ... do stay ((((((hugs)))))

mrs_mix

Csarina
don't go report it to abuse put them on ignore and stay I will miss you if you don't post anymore
(((((hugs)))))
pam xx

taplady

csarina - please dont leave! dont let the sad individual who PMd you win!

Nicki

Reading this thread has certainly made me feel a lot better, and I hope you too Csarina. On the occasions I've had nasty PMs and posts, I've taken it very personally and felt it as a reflection upon myself. Reading that it has happened to a lot of others too, and particularly to Gingham Ribbon and to Queenie whose posts I always look out for and regard very highly, makes me see that it really isn't a reflection on me, but instead a reflection on the people who choose to do this.

It may be though that the person who PM'd you was having a very bad day themselves and madly over-reacted to something. Perhaps they were quite new to MSE or to Old Style and still finding their way, and getting to know the styles of other posters. It may well not at all be a reflection on you, simply them venting on a stranger?

Hope you will come back, at least to read this thread, and know that you are valued and that you have a lot of support

joannasmum

Csarina

I really shouldnt be posting at work but just wanted to reiterate what everybody else has said and send you a ((hug)).

Chipps

Csarina - please don't leave just because of one petty minded individual. I always enjoy reading your posts on the daily thread & would miss you.

Poppycat

I have also had a few nasty PM's I just block the users for then on, If I dont like to read what some person says I also block [ignore] them in the settings.

About 6 months ago I had someone follow me around and deliberately start threads with nasty comments about me to cause a reaction, I rarely added to that thread and just reported them, they didnt get banned but they did leave me alone and I left it at that.

Dont let them bully on, I suffered bullying many years ago and I lost my long term job because of them, it took me years to get over it, bullys are cowards, and sadly too often they make out its them who is the victim.

Best of luck and hope you stay

If you wary of PM's just turn PM's off, and report the person to abuse

Smashing

Sad as it is, people seem to grow imaginary balls when in front of a computer.

As horrible as something like that is, leaving does nothing but encourage people like that who think they can run people they don't like off the forums.

Think of all the helpful and friendly interactions you've had here and compare that to the one isolated incidence here. Don't cut your nose off despite your face and write a whole forum off because of one sad lowlife.

There's always going to be people like that in the world - you can't control it, but you can control your reaction to it.

csarina

Thank you for all the support, the person concerned knows who they are and I hope they feel ashamed of themselves. This is not the first time this has happened..........some people cannot take advice however well meant it is without taking offence.......I try to accept what is pertanant to me and ignore the rest, but this I cannot .............

All I have ever tried to do on this forum is pass on advice as to what I do, whether the other contributers take that advice is up to them. As a person who belongs to the third age, our income is fixed, I abhore waste of any kind and am always looking to reduce our wastage, and for more thrifty ways of doing things, I have often taken up some of the really good tips one finds on the OS thread. My experience is born out of being brought up in the war, and also being on a very tight budget when I was first married. As time went by and our children married our disposable income went up and for a while I did fall off the wagon, but had to climb back on very rapidly when OH was forced to take early retirement and we were faced with having to pay two loans. Thankfully we are coming to the end of them now and believe me the cash will be going into a savings pot so we can once again enjoy a holiday or buy something we need without having to think more than twice about where the money is coming from.

One thing the OP accused me of was telling lies, as it was not possible to eat healthily for less than £25 a week....I know a great many of you would take issue with that comment.

I am going to take a break from posting, although I may well read the board from time to time.............

so adios for now.......................and thank you....................