Ready to leave hospital???

Counting_Pennies_2

I am so sorry to hear the sad news.


When the grieving is behind you, or during your grief if you find it cathartic, I would recommend using this post as a way of diarising what you have endured with the health service and forward them on to your GP, MP and the hospital manager.


You sound like you have had a dreadful time, and these individuals need to know how badly you and your relatives have been treated during this experience.

verynewmoneysaver

So sorry to hear this.

Ruby_woo

Thank you everyone. It physically hurts but when I get stronger I will document it all, and I'm very, very sad to say it's not happy reading. For now though I will do my best to get myself straight and in a better place emotionally.

I am grateful for your thoughts.
x

meritaten

Oh Ruby, I am so sorry. I do know how this feels as my MIL begged me to take her home to die, and I couldn't for various reasons. she died a couple of hours later. probably as we were on the way home as the phone was ringing when we came in. The grief was awful and the guilt was worse. and the anger, as things were co*ked up throughout her stay there.
all I can say is, forget about the 'issues' for now, and just try to grieve through the process of the funeral etc. your mum deserves your full attention and the family need to grieve together without the anger or guilt intruding. there will be time for that later. IYKWIM?
my heart goes out to you and your family.

pollypenny

Oh, Ruby, you poor thing!

You did your very best and ,hopefully, your mum is at peace.

C_Mababejive

Been there done that. It is sad that people at the end of their lives are treated and traded like some kind of a commodity. The Hospitals say, nothing more we can do,your a bed blocker,you need to leave. A favourite trick is to sign up a concerned family member as a carer without telling them and then fill in the paperworks as " discharged into the care of ..."

Its the usual postcode lottery. Some areas have great palliative care hospices..others ..well they just let you rot in a hospital ward. Welcome to Britain 2014.....my sympathies to the OP.

meritaten

C_Mababejive wrote: »

Been there done that. It is sad that people at the end of their lives are treated and traded like some kind of a commodity. The Hospitals say, nothing more we can do,your a bed blocker,you need to leave. A favourite trick is to sign up a concerned family member as a carer without telling them and then fill in the paperworks as " discharged into the care of ..."

Its the usual postcode lottery. Some areas have great palliative care hospices..others ..well they just let you rot in a hospital ward. Welcome to Britain 2014.....my sympathies to the OP.

its a harsh post - but, sadly its accurate.

hazyjo

Hugs. Tough times xx

growler834

I'm so sorry to hear about your mum Ruby. Please remember that you did your utmost best to get your mum the treatment she deserved - you couldn't have done more - your mum was lucky to have such a loving, caring daughter fighting her cause right up to the end. Please take care of yourself & try & push the anger away for the moment so you can grieve for your mum.

Love & strength to you & your family,

Angie x

Person_one

Ruby_woo wrote: »

Thank you everyone. It physically hurts but when I get stronger I will document it all, and I'm very, very sad to say it's not happy reading. For now though I will do my best to get myself straight and in a better place emotionally.

I am grateful for your thoughts.
x

I'm so sorry for your loss.

I think you're doing the right thing by focusing on your emotions and on saying goodbye to your mum for now, and when you feel ready to make a complaint about the hospital or about social services or both there are organisations that can help if you want some support.