Think my relationship is over 6 months before my wedding

Tiddlywinks

*SuzySue* wrote: »

Consumerism means lots of families require both parents to work full time (to buy stuff they don't really need).

What a judgemental post.

Couples may live in an area where family sized homes cost £350k but are in jobs which pay relatively low wages and so need two salaries.

*SuzySue*

Tiddlywinks wrote: »

What a judgemental post.

Couples may live in an area where family sized homes cost £350k but are in jobs which pay relatively low wages and so need two salaries.

Yes they might. The south east is a bit of an exception though. There are hundreds of thousands of properties around the country which would cost nowhere near £350k. Victorian terraces, for example, which at one time would have housed large families in 2 or 3 bedrooms. Now every child needs their own room, own games console, ipad, mobile phone, pocket money................

And let's not forget that those low income parents will be getting pretty significant income via tax credits etc.


I've read many posts on these forums and elsewhere where mum and dad are struggling for money but insist on spending £hundreds per child at xmas, have the top sky packages etc. It's all choice at the end of the day.

A.n.o.n

heartbreak_star wrote: »

Can you private rent?

HBS x

Already do

jenhug

could you consider postponing the wedding and using the money to move? Its lovely having a "big day" but its quickly forgotten and the money sounds like it could be put to better use.

ViolaLass

A.n.o.n wrote: »

Already do

But presumably can't afford a bigger place without the HA involved?

Person_one

*SuzySue* wrote: »

British children are the (or certainly one of the) unhappiest in the world. Most likely because they're expected to be independent pretty much from birth. Consumerism means lots of families require both parents to work full time (to buy stuff they don't really need). Before the victorian era it was common for children to stay in their parents' room. The Victorian view of children "being seen but not heard" has done a huge amount of damage to the children that have followed.

In other societies it's common to breastfeed and sleep with children for years, not months. Oddly enough they parent instinctively rather than by the rules of some nazi baby trainer.

You're right, its totally selfish of parents to go out and work to buy stuff they don't need like rent, and food, and electricity, and toys.

Ronaldo_Mconaldo

Our child has slept in her own room from the day she came back from the hospital and we've never had a problem.

*SuzySue*

Person_one wrote: »

You're right, its totally selfish of parents to go out and work to buy stuff they don't need like rent, and food, and electricity, and toys.

I thought I'd validated my comment sufficiently, but it seems not. Do you need me to highlight the posts that back up my statements?

In general, we all buy and waste far too much food. Children have toys in place of parental interaction. Parents aren't prepared to make sacrifices for their children anymore. And it's the children that suffer.

*SuzySue*

Ronaldo_Mconaldo wrote: »

Our child has slept in her own room from the day she came back from the hospital and we've never had a problem.

Must be okay then. Sack the scientists.

Person_one

*SuzySue* wrote: »

I thought I'd validated my comment sufficiently, but it seems not. Do you need me to highlight the posts that back up my statements?

In general, we all buy and waste far too much food. Children have toys in place of parental interaction. Parents aren't prepared to make sacrifices for their children anymore. And it's the children that suffer.

Children need both toys and interaction.