Separation - house rules???

paulineb_2

And dare I say it, someone kicking up a fuss about a new partner staying over, isnt just about niceties, its also about control as well.

If someone isnt living in their share of a house, as far as Im concerned they should have no input into whether the ex partner has a new partner stay over.

DaveTheMus

Jojo_the_Tightfisted wrote: »

They're anxious about the possible reaction of somebody who it really has nothing to do with in the first place.

The father has no say over whether a stranger stays under the same roof as his three young children.

I hope you're not this cavalier with your own children's safety.

What if this guy is a predator?

paulineb_2

DaveTheMus wrote: »

The father has no say over whether a stranger stays under the same roof as his three young children.

I hope you're not this cavalier with your own children's safety.

What if this guy is a predator?

What if the father has a girlfriend who stays over at his house.

Would the word predator be used in that instance?

The OP and her new partner could have been dating for months for all we know.

Is she supposed to never have a new partner just incase something might go wrong?

Person_one

DaveTheMus wrote: »

The father has no say over whether a stranger stays under the same roof as his three young children.

No.

They are separated, and the children live with her. She can have relationships, remarry, have friends to stay, even get a lodger or a live in au pair and none of it is anything to do with him unless there is actually a danger to the children rather than just imagined danger.

specialboy

I think eople need to realise the the OP isn't moving the bloke in, he's going to stay over which is a total different thing.

trollopscarletwoman

In my case length of time between relationships have little to do with it. My partner was widowed. We met on a holiday camp 2 months after.

Still together 13 years later. Wasn't easy for me in a small valleys town where everyone knew each other and their business. I even got called a toyboy because the mrs is 5 years older than me and that it wouldn't last.

We've showed them.

Touch wood!!

justme111

DaveTheMus wrote: »

The father has no say over whether a stranger stays under the same roof as his three young children.

I hope you're not this cavalier with your own children's safety.

What if this guy is a predator?

One of most bizarre posts. So no male people are allowed to sleep under the same roof as children do . May be female neither just in case ?
Op , I would say if your relationship with ex is such that he still has not let you go and may kick a fuss then it is probably a bit too early indeed. Depends on many details though

saving2704

I was in this position (my ex left me - I stayed in the house, no kids involved thou) but my new fella wouldn't come to the house at all, he thought it was strange, plus ex was still paying half so I thought it was inappropriate. I would of hit the roof if it had been the other way round