Separation - house rules???

GwylimT

Its some I personally wouldn't do.

I may be wrong as things don't always move like this, but as the house is still for sale it does seem like the relationship didn't end that long ago, if that is the case I wouldn't be having someone over while having children, and I certainly wouldn't do it in the family home. But you have to do what you think is best for your children and you.

Mojisola

GwylimT wrote: »

I may be wrong as things don't always move like this, but as the house is still for sale it does seem like the relationship didn't end that long ago, if that is the case I wouldn't be having someone over while having children, and I certainly wouldn't do it in the family home.

Agree with this -

While you do have the right to have visitors to your home, think of it from your ex's point of view - "I'm still paying towards the mortgage on that place and she's got a new man there, sleeping in what was my bed and while my children are there!"

paulineb_2

Been separated over a year, which I think is a pretty decent length of time to consider having another partner stay over.

Person_one

FatVonD wrote: »

Manners work both ways, while it would be rude of your ex to turn up unannounced when you have your new partner there I think it's equally rude of you to have your new partner in what is still half your ex's house.

Does your ex have a new partner?

It might still be half his house but its her home.

It can take years to sell a property these days, should she live in limbo, worrying about her ex coming round in a temper until she can move out?

jess1974

I'm in the same situation as the Op, my new man stays over once or twice a week, my children all like him, i really could'nt give a stuff if my ex does'nt like it x

74jax

Can you go to your new partners place instead. I know people may say you can do asyou like but I think if it was your husband home with you and he still owns half then it doesn't morally feel right, to me.

If you tell him and he is fine with it then there's no problems at all, so I would just mention it to him.

Before people ask, for me it would be the same answer whether the male or female was living in the house, it just seems a little strange to me when the ex still owns it, I would be up front.

74jax

paulineb wrote: »

Been separated over a year, which I think is a pretty decent length of time to consider having another partner stay over.

To some it is but others may not think so. I took a long time to introduce mynow husband to my daughter, well over a year, I think it's all individual.

msb5262

DKLS wrote: »

He may or may not react badly to a new man in his old cave but tread carefully, my ex was massively upset when she discovered I had moved on within a couple of days which resulted in her going full on bunny boiler and doing everything possible to avoid selling the house.

A couple of DAYS?

I'm not surprised! I wouldn't be best pleased either...

paulineb_2

74jax wrote: »

Can you go to your new partners place instead. I know people may say you can do asyou like but I think if it was your husband home with you and he still owns half then it doesn't morally feel right, to me.

If you tell him and he is fine with it then there's no problems at all, so I would just mention it to him.

Before people ask, for me it would be the same answer whether the male or female was living in the house, it just seems a little strange to me when the ex still owns it, I would be up front.

The ex doesnt still own it, they each own a half share.

paulineb_2

74jax wrote: »

To some it is but others may not think so. I took a long time to introduce mynow husband to my daughter, well over a year, I think it's all individual.

Of course, but there may well be a situation where a marriage could have been falling apart long before they split. I think a year is long enough and even though they jointly own the house, her ex isnt living there.

I really dont think someone should need to seek permission to ask someone to stay in a home that they are currently living in.

As the OP said, he has a temper, why on earth would anyone want to place yourself in a situation where you might just get bawled out.

The marriage is over. Her ex could be seeing/sleeping with other people, just because someone partly owns a home doesnt mean that their ex should need to ask permission to have a partner stay over.

If her ex was living there, totally different. Just my view.