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barahs
barahs Posts: 119 Forumite
in Marriage, relationships & families
ok, after many a rocky road and trials i seem to have found mr right. Someone I've known for 4 years ish. We have now been a couple for a year. He wants to marry me..... My son ((14) has given his blessing. I've previously been anti marriage which he knows. However my view has changed. I've told him yes but I'm not sure he took me seriously.
any thoughts on letting him know subtly i am serious?
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  • Bangton
    Bangton Posts: 1,053 Forumite
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    If he wants to marry you love, why be subtle?
  • browneyedbazzi
    browneyedbazzi Posts: 3,405 Forumite
    I've been Money Tipped!
    Tell him!

    Or talk about what sort of wedding you want and try to narrow it down to a date so you can start planning. It'll be pretty apparent that you're serious then!
    Common sense?...There's nothing common about sense!
  • claire16c
    claire16c Posts: 7,074 Forumite
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    Sorry but if you have to ask other people how to talk to your own other half!? Why would you need to be subtle? Cant you just come out with it?
  • barahs
    barahs Posts: 119 Forumite
    because l feel stupid at 43 wanting to do it. I'd like it to be special for us without the fuss. And due to family hassles it would only be us,my son,his son (27) and my dad and step mum.
    tempted to just say gretna green!!!!
    still feel stupid though
  • HPoirot
    HPoirot Posts: 1,022 Forumite
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    What is there to be self conscious about? Are you sure you are in love??
  • barahs
    barahs Posts: 119 Forumite
    and after never being married ever i am fiercely independent. im relinquishing some traits but still you know......
  • barahs
    barahs Posts: 119 Forumite
    HPoirot wrote: »
    What is there to be self conscious about? Are you sure you are in love??
    absolutely! It feels so right to tell him that. We are just totally in sync with each other
  • Mojisola
    Mojisola Posts: 35,574 Forumite
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    barahs wrote: »
    and after never being married ever i am fiercely independent. im relinquishing some traits but still you know......

    What part of your independence do you think you'll be giving up when you get married?
  • claire16c
    claire16c Posts: 7,074 Forumite
    Part of the Furniture Combo Breaker
    barahs wrote: »
    because l feel stupid at 43 wanting to do it. I'd like it to be special for us without the fuss. And due to family hassles it would only be us,my son,his son (27) and my dad and step mum.
    tempted to just say gretna green!!!!
    still feel stupid though

    Plenty of people get married in their 40s. He wouldnt have asked you if he thought it was stupid!
  • HPoirot
    HPoirot Posts: 1,022 Forumite
    Part of the Furniture Combo Breaker Stoptober Survivor
    barahs wrote: »
    absolutely! It feels so right to tell him that. We are just totally in sync with each other

    Then just tell him outright. Hanging on to bits and pieces of your independence in this regard would just feel like mind games IMO.
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