Nice People Thread Number 11 - A Treasury of Nice People

lostinrates

LydiaJ wrote: »

I am so glad that you don't feel alone.
But ... you have fir. Most people do not have a fir. They have nobody closer than siblings who all have their own lives and responsibilities (like PN) or they have sombody close who loves them but who's already overwhelmed with their own struggles and doesn't have many spare spoons to share (like Gen), or people who are close and love them but are children or very old or disabled or whatever... etc.

I suppose what I mean is that it's not surprising that you don't feel as alone as PN does - because you aren't as alone as PN is.

mmm, that's kind of what I was trying to say to gen, I, or he, have it much luckier than some others would in same circumstances.

Yes, knowing you are loved is different from knowing that you aren't. But when you are in a hard place, knowing you are loved by someone who can take turns helping you when you are down and being helped by you when they are down is quite different from only being loved by those whose need to receive help from you is clearly going to exceed their capability to give help to you for the foreseeable future. You still have the feeling of "the buck stops with me" that truly alone people have.
if this is true then it can only mean for my circumstance that I would be in a position to contribute nothing to my relationship.


Yes, much.

At uni, if you just get on with your usual life, and go to your usual places and do your usual things, you are surrounded by lots of single people of about your own age & stage of life. When you are older, you aren't.

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I think I might not have typed clearly. My distinction was meant to be clearly drawn between what I could do if I had to and what I am glad I don't have to.

I made it because I am well aware in some shoes people here will have to face things at some time alone, and it IS possible. But for now Gen and I can count our blessings, But gen is also entitled to vent.

Similarly, if fir and I get old, we won't have people like PN to check we have our interests catered for. Shrug. Its the way the cookie crumbled. Hopefully fir won't need help, or, never know....might be step children in his future :D. Otherwise, like , say PN, he'll be on his tod.

tomterm8

Today I have started the annual scytheathon.

PasturesNew

tomterm8 wrote: »

Today I have started the annual scytheathon.

I do hope the word "started" means "I've realised I can't avoid it any longer.... so one day, soonish, I'll get round to thinking about it..."

I do hope it doesn't mean "I got up and did something, some manual work, some energy was expended".

I do hate physical effort

tomterm8

PasturesNew wrote: »

I do hope the word "started" means "I've realised I can't avoid it any longer.... so one day, soonish, I'll get round to thinking about it..."

I do hope it doesn't mean "I got up and did something, some manual work, some energy was expended".

I do hate physical effort

It means, "Oh g-d, I ache, I ache"

PasturesNew

tomterm8 wrote: »

It means, "Oh g-d, I ache, I ache"

Make your fortune.... pay a little man to do it

lostinrates

tomterm8 wrote: »

It means, "Oh g-d, I ache, I ache"

Do you l
Ok kind of strong and farmer sexy doing it though?



I cannot get anyone to cut our hay. Its getting stupid now.

tomterm8

lostinrates wrote: »

Ok kind of strong and farmer sexy doing it though?

Er... no... I've lost around 3 1/2 stone since before christmas, but I'll need to lose two or three more stone before I don't wobble as I scythe:D

PasturesNew wrote: »

Make your fortune.... pay a little man to do it

I don't really want a fortune. Just enough to buy hot and cold running servants...

Nikkster

tomterm8 wrote: »

Er... no... I've lost around 3 1/2 stone since before christmas, but I'll need to lose two or three more sone before I don't wobble as I scythe

That's brilliant tomterm. Well done! At this rate I'll have put on 3.5 stone by Christmas :eek:

PasturesNew

lostinrates wrote: »

I cannot get anyone to cut our hay. Its getting stupid now.

I can lend you my lawnmower ...... it'll be good for the first 200 yards.... after that you'll need a goat or 300.

Last hope ... will that fella that cut it and took it away the other year be up for profiting from your lack of luck again?

Nikkster

I've never heard any family 'tales from the war', but this is definitely my favourite story of the day:
http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-sussex-27735086

What a chap.