Nice People Thread Number 11 - A Treasury of Nice People

silvercar

Bumble bees. To keep or to go?

Near the roof eves and too close to an air vent.

mystic_trev

silvercar wrote: »

Bumble bees. To keep or to go?

Near the roof eves and too close to an air vent.

Funily enough I've the same problem. I checked and mine appear to be Masonry Bees / Solitary Bees. They don't sting and I've been told to just leave them alone.Beekeepers won't removeBumble Bees, so I don't know the answer to your question I'm afraid.

http://www.bbka.org.uk/help/do_you_have_a_swarm.php

LydiaJ

SingleSue wrote: »

Oh for crying out loud! Youngest forgot his ID this morning, this ID needs to be shown to get food and drinks as it is a cashless school. I noticed at about 11 and drove to the school to drop it off....

Just picked youngest up and he has had nothing to eat or drink all day as they didn't give it to him! They know he will not verbalise when he has a problem yet were confused as to why he didn't say anything. ..to staff he doesn't know, in an area of the school he has been avoiding because it is too noisy and busy (and they are aware he won't go in there)

Grr!

What on earth were they doing with it all day if you delivered it at 11am? It's not difficult to send somebody to find the student and hand over the card, and I would expect them to do that, promptly and certainly in plenty of time for lunch, for any student, even if they didn't have any special needs.

This is very definitely a safeguarding problem in view of Youngest's needs. He is in mainstream education on the assumption that the school will make provision for his needs and not just expect him to be able to do everything everyone else can. An isolated mistake would be one thing, but this is far from isolated, as we all know. If you can possibly summon up the energy for the fight, I think you should complain, in writing, to the school, asking for their response, again in writing, of how they are going to ensure that this kind of unacceptable lack of care does not occur again, and that if you don't get a satisfactory response within 14 days then you will be writing to the LEA. Alternatively just complain to the LEA without warning them, detailing the entire catalogue of failure to make adequate provision for his needs, and send a copy to the school.

Doozergirl wrote: »

I'm back, thank you for thinking of me, spirit, sorry for being enigmatic and disappearing. Last week was hell, until Thursday. Wedding anniversary number 10, which we nearly didn't make it to, but we had a lovely time with my best friend and her partner at their home in the south of France.

It is impossible to maintain a marriage with no fun in it, I can say with some certainty. I am refusing to live my life the way it has been since we moved to this hole of a house and I've made that very clear. . It's fine though, we are okay and the house is running like it's powered by jet fuel this morning.

Have I missed much? No baby name, yet?

Well, glad you had a lovely time, although sad about the hell before it.

As for making it clear that things can't go on the way they are... you go girl! :T Living in a house that saps your energy and enjoyment is just miserable. What specific changes would make your life more bearable? And do you have any kind of timescale for moving?

As for what you've missed ... there's some stuff "elsewhere" that you might want to join in with. Chewy has exchanged. PN has bought a reclining garden chair despite having nowhere to put it yet and is debating whether to buy sand or nick it from the beach. Gen's Boy is finding life difficult at school because of worrying about Gen's cancer. Sue's Youngest continues to be have his needs woefully neglected by his school. Lir's trees are infected, and all but one of Spirit's chickens have been taken by a fox. Can't think of anything else off the top of my head, but I expect the others will fill in the gaps.

Spirit_2

Doozergirl wrote: »

I'm back, thank you for thinking of me, spirit, sorry for being enigmatic and disappearing. Last week was hell, until Thursday. Wedding anniversary number 10, which we nearly didn't make it to, but we had a lovely time with my best friend and her partner at their home in the south of France.

It is impossible to maintain a marriage with no fun in it, I can say with some certainty. I am refusing to live my life the way it has been since we moved to this hole of a house and I've made that very clear. . It's fine though, we are okay and the house is running like it's powered by jet fuel this morning.

Have I missed much? No baby name, yet?

Doozergirl glad you have reappeared:).

If there is never any fun then I think that would be true too, however if you are going through a 'fun drought' take heart that it will end.

FWIW you usually post about a pretty full and engaged life...the mile run, Posh frocks and balls, pride in your son and his sport, birthday suppers, lunches out with friends or by canals, holidays and weekends away. That all sounds good.

Spirit_2

We are going to go to a festival that is being held near here in the summer.

I have emailed around to about a dozen friends telling them about a certain act that is on and giving the link to tickets etc.

A few have come back and said they want to go and they will sort out their tickets.

One has come back and asked me to get a couple of tickets for them when I get ours. Fine, happy to do that it is only £70 and they will pay me back...not so fine. Last summer they asked us to cover the cost of an event for them, it was several hundred pounds, and they did not repay it. We thought it a genuine oversight ...a few months ago they said several times..I need to pay you for X. However they never have.

We do treat friends to things without begrudging anything, however on the basis I am writing this it tells me I am not sure about this. I think money is not that tight, but one of the couple (the one we know less well) is extremely careful with their money. What would other NP do?

lostinrates

Spirit wrote: »

We are going to go to a festival that is being held near here in the summer.

I have emailed around to about a dozen friends telling them about a certain act that is on and giving the link to tickets etc.

A few have come back and said they want to go and they will sort out their tickets.

One has come back and asked me to get a couple of tickets for them when I get ours. Fine, happy to do that it is only £70 and they will pay me back...not so fine. Last summer they asked us to cover the cost of an event for them, it was several hundred pounds, and they did not repay it. We thought it a genuine oversight ...a few months ago they said several times..I need to pay you for X. However they never have.

We do treat friends to things without begrudging anything, however on the basis I am writing this it tells me I am not sure about this. I think money is not that tight, but one of the couple (the one we know less well) is extremely careful with their money. What would other NP do?

'Sorry I bought ours just after sending you details. X and y and coming too, so do get tickets and join us.'

PasturesNew

Spirit wrote: »

What would other NP do?

Lie .... in a way to remind them of the previous debt and to extract the £70 up front too.

e.g. "We're a bit short .... gone part-time, car repairs.... XYZ other excuses ...."

Trouble is getting that to lead into the next bit about the other money

Could try "If you've got the money from last year then I can cover these tickets until the day of the event if you're struggling......"

They won't want you to think they're struggling, I bet ... and will cough up.

PasturesNew

lostinrates wrote: »

'Sorry I bought ours just after sending you details. X and y and coming too, so do get tickets and join us.'

LOL ... slick.

zagubov

lostinrates wrote: »

'Sorry I bought ours just after sending you details. X and y and coming too, so do get tickets and join us.'

Perfect!

You do get !!!!!!!!!!s. But just don't let them become repeat offenders.

Edit That was free loaders. Who knew that would be censored?

Doozergirl

PasturesNew wrote: »

LOL ... slick.

Very slick.

Iwas with you on using these cheaper tickets as bait for the more expensive item, however!

There's no need to wait for paying people when you see them, these days. I'd ask if they wanted my bank details as well.