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Nice People Thread Number 11 - A Treasury of Nice People
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PasturesNew wrote: »I've just been watching several programmes on the Yesterday channel, some of those Who Do You Think You Are ones:
Amanda Redman - fascinating story of her mother's older brother that left home at an early age and was never heard of again, some time after that he'd been having an affair with a married woman and had a child with her and he had a 2nd woman on the go with a child. Programme interviewed the woman he'd had an affair with, the child had died just 6 years earlier and the child of the 2nd woman had no idea of any of this, nor of her newly found family.
Alan Carr - his ancestor was a WW1 deserter who'd used an alias to hide and when he'd first run away he'd lived in a house just yards from a house AC had lived in. He met his grandfather's sister, the only one of that family still alive - and had a full family reunion with her and her downline. She'd not seen him since he was about 2 and he had no idea she even existed/was still alive. She'd known there was another name being bandied about, but not why ...
Robin Gibb - his G-GM had been a midwife and had been reported for some misdemeanour, but the records weren't open until 2013. He applied for the information anyway and got the transcripts (minus the baby's name) and found out the story. She'd then died 2 years later, 3 days before she was due to retire... but he met two old ladies who had known her and been delivered by her. One of them was inspired by her and became a midwife herself.
LOVE these things where they're more "recent history" stories. Those that follow somebody's spurious/dull line back 8 generations to try to find some titled kn0b aren't as interesting.
If you go far enough back there's bound to be someone interesting just by weight of numbers.0 -
If you go far enough back there's bound to be someone interesting just by weight of numbers.
What I liked about these three were they involved finding living people and bringing them into the story. Finding bunches of dead people without any story is dull .... but finding, say, that the G-Grandparents had had 12 kids (or so) and the grandfather was long dead so "see if any of them are alive" and you sit and watch and think "pfft, as if" - and then there IS one - and they're fully compus mentus and meet up with more information's what it's all about.0 -
Glad you and he are managing so far, Sue.
Are you going to have a problem affording all the petrol? Because if so I'll chip in to help, and maybe some other NP will too.
Aww thanks, doing ok at the moment thank goodness as although I wasn't quite expecting to be doing this running around, I have managed to move things around enough to cover the extra fuel.We made it! All three boys have graduated, it's been hard work but it shows there is a possibility of a chance of normal (ish) life after a diagnosis (or two) of ASD. It's not been the easiest route but I am so glad I ignored everything and everyone and did my own therapies with them.
Eldests' EDS diagnosis 4.5.10, mine 13.1.11 eekk - now having fun and games as a wheelchair user.0 -
But presumably less than if he were alive and you were working part time and he was paying maintenance?
Actually not. Pensions + WPA = more than maintenance. What I get now is less than if we were still together and he was earning and being part of the household, of course, though, which is the situation envisaged by the people who decide what the pension and WPA levels ought to be.
Although if he were alive and having DS&DD every Tuesday night and every other weekend, then I'd still be working two part time jobs adding up to about 75% of full time, whereas as things stand I can only cope with one and do about 50% of full time, although that varies with each year's timetable. I would also be able to have much more of a life, and I wouldn't have to watch my kids suffering through their bereavement process.I'm also guessing that if the decree absolute had been granted, you would still have got the same amount less the initial £11,800?
Again, being married makes a colossal difference. I'd still have got the pension lump sum (because him naming me to get it was part of the divorce settlement) and the life insurance (which was my policy on his life so I paid the premiums and it was nothing to do with him). However, compensation would have been a small fraction of what it actually is - I could have claimed on behalf of the children but not for myself as his dependant, I gather, despite the maintenance, which seems very unfair to me. And I'd only get pensions for the children until they grow up and not for myself for the rest of my life, which is what I'm actually getting. And no WPA, of course.
Basically, having been still married when he died makes me a lot better off financially than if we'd been divorced, and even a lot better off financially than when he was alive. But his death makes me a lot worse off practically. It's quite hard to describe quite how huge the difference is between single parenting with a conscientious and involved NRP and single parenting when it's just you 24/7, but believe me it's in a totally different league. I would say single parenting alone 24/7 is about as much harder than single parenting with an involved and dutiful NRP as single parenting with an involved and dutiful NRP is harder than parenting as part of a couple.
It's different, of course, if you can have family who can help out, but I haven't. My dad comes and stays and looks after my kids for 3 Saturdays a year, and apart from that the help I get from my family is emotional and occasionally financial, but not practical. (And he's having them while I'm at the inquest too, but that's a one-off, natch.)Would maintenance have been included in means testing?
One would think so, but no. CTC/WTC is calculated without considering maintenance in order to avoid penalising those divorced/separated parents whose ex-partners are supposed to pay maintenance but actually don't, or don't always. I am not sure what the deal is going to be on UC with that one, though. The whole system will be completely different because UC will be means tested in real time on a weekly basis, whereas CTC/WTC is only means tested annually on last year's taxable income.Not in a bad mood. but maybe just a worried one.
Not sure what to say, Miroslav, but sending dodgy hugs: :grouphug:Do you know anyone who's bereaved? Point them to https://www.AtaLoss.org which does for bereavement support what MSE does for financial services, providing links to support organisations relevant to the circumstances of the loss & the local area. (Link permitted by forum team)
Tyre performance in the wet deteriorates rapidly below about 3mm tread - change yours when they get dangerous, not just when they are nearly illegal (1.6mm).
Oh, and wear your seatbelt. My kids are only alive because they were wearing theirs when somebody else was driving in wet weather with worn tyres.0 -
I think the Polish popular vote relates to the number of Polish immigrants spread thru Europe (especially UK, Ireland and Sweden), in Spain it is Romanians and in Germany, The Turks (when they qualify). I think immigrants are more likely to vote for their home country in these pointless contests. Almost a census of who moved where.Just checked back. The last time Poland were in the final was 2008 they only scored 14 points, a gold star for anyone who can guess which two countries donated those points (no juries in those days).
Yip, UK snd Ireland
Stevie, Stevie, Stevie...
The Poles gaining much of the popular vote had as much to do with the Polish diaspora as booing Russia had to do with the Ukraine situation (ie virtually nothing).
It was all about what Graham Norton called "carry on up the Eurovision", or to put it more bluntly, Polish boobs:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BQp7z8yYZUIPlease stay safe in the sun and learn the A-E of melanoma: A = asymmetry, B = irregular borders, C= different colours, D= diameter, larger than 6mm, E = evolving, is your mole changing? Most moles are not cancerous, any doubts, please check next time you visit your GP.
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Interesting stuff Lydia, I didn't know any of that!
Viva, if there's one thing true of Eurovision, it completely messes up your sleeping pattern! I'm feeling so tired this morning, it's beyond belief, and haven't been able to get a decent nights sleep yet!
I'm popping into the office, to be nice but miserable, speak to you guys later!💙💛 💔0 -
Just checked back. The last time Poland were in the final was 2008 they only scored 14 points, a gold star for anyone who can guess which two countries donated those points (no juries in those days).
Yip, UK snd Ireland
Wasn't it only juries in those days? I thought the telephone voting, in the UK at least, was a very recent thing for Eurovision?0 -
Dangerously on topic...
Just watching breakfast news re wealth and its staggering. Hope some one does a thread on it.. Almost as much wealth is stuff like cars as isas. ( though think stuff includes antiques etc which could, I suppose, be considered investments, but a lot of 'stuff' is depreciating asset. 0 -
lostinrates wrote: »Dangerously on topic...
Just watching breakfast news re wealth and its staggering. Hope some one does a thread on it.. Almost as much wealth is stuff like cars as isas. ( though think stuff includes antiques etc which could, I suppose, be considered investments, but a lot of 'stuff' is depreciating asset.
Why don't you do a thread on it? We might manage a page of decent debate before it descends into people calling Graham_Devon stupid.0 -
lostinrates wrote: »Dangerously on topic...
Just watching breakfast news re wealth and its staggering. Hope some one does a thread on it.. Almost as much wealth is stuff like cars as isas. ( though think stuff includes antiques etc which could, I suppose, be considered investments, but a lot of 'stuff' is depreciating asset.
You can't compare cars to ISAs. Many people have to own a car to get to their low paid job, ISAs are luxuries.
I've always had a car, I've only had ISAs since I sold my house... and I am cashing them in next month to pay for a house, so I'll be back to owning a car and no savings/ISAs.0
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