Nice People Thread Number 11 - A Treasury of Nice People

PasturesNew

vivatifosi wrote: »

It's basically for people who have to deal with chronic stress

None in my life
Do nothing and you can't be stressed by anything.

I do think the word is over-used these days. I'm sometimes angry, upset, annoyed, disappointed, desperate, panicky, worried, slightly anxious, in an anticipatory state ...... but not stressed. Others use just the one word for all of that lot and I feel it's devalued the true meaning of the word.

lostinrates

vivatifosi wrote: »

I mentioned this in passing a day or so back, but for anyone who missed it. There's a new MOOC (online course) from a company called edX, called Becoming a Resilient Person, the Science of Stress Management.

It's for people who are dealing with high levels of stress or whose resilience levels are low, perhaps due to long-term chronic pressures. There's a description at the website below, but given what we've been discussing for several months now, it seemed quite timely:

https://www.edx.org/course/uwashingtonx/uwashingtonx-ecfs311x-becoming-resilient-1652?utm_source=edX+Course+Announcements+Mailing+List&utm_campaign=c2d1424d3e-Student_Newsletter_May_4_2014&utm_medium=email&utm_term=0_237694b56d-c2d1424d3e-61243421#.U2oRqygTdEN

It's basically for people who have to deal with chronic stress and to teach coping strategies to people who may not have benefitted from such teaching in the past.

Hope you don't mind me posting... not aimed at anyone in particular, but looks very good.

I had already forwarded this to DH who said it looked great but he didn't know how he would fit it in. I think he's being foolish.

lostinrates

I have a posh alert. Its so silly I roared out loud, someone visiting here for work purposes just asked me for the postcode of the local farmshop. I said I'd google it, and did.

On the website they have directions from London, including train routes. Laughed and laughed. Pretension creeping closer to home. The guy is a great sales person but doesn't understand the value of 'exclusivity' I think.

vivatifosi

Different reason lir, but the last time I laughed like that was when my local vicar received a survey asking how long his location had been in business.

It is a Norman church and the Dun and Bradstreet (I think from memory) survey only had something 200 years worth of boxes. He wanted to tick one that said since the 1100s. He felt he was being done out of 700 years of trade.

bugslet

PasturesNew wrote: »

I've been

. Nowhere else to go, didn't want to miss the boat sailing back,.

Many years ago I delivered to the Hydro Electric plant on Benbecula, plenty of time to get there and back to the ferry. Unfortunately the ferry was, shall we say, flexible when it came to its schedule and they were just pulling away from the quay when I returned. As it was Saturday afternoon, there were no sailings on the Sunday, so I and a border collie had a fine time until Monday, walking, reading, napping; even better it was the days before mobile phones.

PasturesNew wrote: »

I do think the word is over-used these days. I'm sometimes angry, upset, annoyed, disappointed, desperate, panicky, worried, slightly anxious, in an anticipatory state ...... but not stressed. Others use just the one word for all of that lot and I feel it's devalued the true meaning of the word.

Probably right. I don't mind temporary stress, it's long-term stress. After the last two to three years, it's slowly seeping out of me.

PasturesNew

I'll admit to not really understanding LIR's post... wasn't sure what to laugh at
Can somebody help me out ....

PasturesNew

bugslet wrote: »

After the last two to three years, it's slowly seeping out of me.

I'm not sure what words to use for my last 3 years.... I'm still stunned/numbed, I've used the phrase PTSD before.... indeed I had to go away for a week close to the end and drive 250 miles - I sat there like a dummy at the wheel completely traumatised and unable to function .... and, overall, I'm not yet out of wherever I was during that initial year that lead to this one.

I think committing to buying a house is my first new step.... everything I've done since then to this point has been "motion indicating movement", but has in fact been just life avoidance.

lostinrates

PasturesNew wrote: »

I'll admit to not really understanding LIR's post... wasn't sure what to laugh at
Can somebody help me out ....

Ok, pretentious farm shop thinks people are going to spend over a hundred quid to get on a train from London to come to local train station , get a taxi to them and spend a lot of money on stuff they can source in amoung the greatest food hallsin the world on their own city.


Farm shop is connected to a very rich man and a gastropub. The pub ood is alright, but we can eat at a range of amazing Restarants here, within a short drive for rural uk, and .....its not great food. Some of it, IMO, is actually not good at all.

However, they will cook your roast for you in their big ovens, some stuff IS good.


Edit: I was excited when I saw shop selling really lovely looking very rare roast beef. But one of my parents bought some and said it was not good, like chewing show leather. I don.'to like cold meat much, just a few exceptions, and really good, rare beef is one of them.

PasturesNew

lostinrates wrote: »

Ok, pretentious farm shop thinks people are going to spend over a hundred quid to get on a train from London to come to local train station , get a taxi to them and spend a lot of money on stuff they can source in amoung the greatest food hallsin the world on their own city.


Farm shop is connected to a very rich man and a gastropub. The pub ood is alright, but we can eat at a range of amazing Restarants here, within a short drive for rural uk, and .....its not great food. Some of it, IMO, is actually not good at all.

However, they will cook your roast for you in their big ovens, some stuff IS good.


Edit: I was excited when I saw shop selling really lovely looking very rare roast beef. But one of my parents bought some and said it was not good, like chewing show leather. I don.'to like cold meat much, just a few exceptions, and really good, rare beef is one of them.

Ah .... I see...
Nobody'd do that would they ....
Whatever makes them think they would. I guess it's all about creating an air of Londonism around themselves, encouraging local posh people to believe they're buying from the same place the smart set buy at regularly.

I'll have to remember that if I ever start a business.... create a page dedicated only to giving precise directions for posh people to come and buy.... or instructions purely aimed at posh people .... who will never come/buy, but it might create the idea that they do. Noted.

LydiaJ

michaels wrote: »

Thanks for your thoughts Lydia. However paragraph duly ignored as requested

I agree with you re Sue's experience. It almost feels like it is time to sue the school. We had to use the safeguarding word with DS teacher due to a troubled child who was attacking him regularly as well as other kids. DS is no longer being troubled but other kids still are.

I am very glad to hear that (a) the paragraph wasn't needed and (b) you took it in the spirit in which I meant it and have been happy to ignore it.

I agree with you about the usefulness of the "safeguarding" word.

SingleSue wrote: »

Spoke to the school this morning, the person I really needed to talk to is off today and the one I eventually spoke to kept going on about personal responsibility that a 16 year old should have and he will just have to make do without taking into account that we were talking about a 16 year old complex autistic who has the emotional development age of an 11/12 year old, who didn't go full time at school until he was 11!

He's come a long way in those few years but he is still way behind what most 16 year olds are capable of...blimey, he doesn't even go out on his own alone, let alone anything else the normal 16 year old is up to!

Hope you can talk to the other person tomorrow. Can you get that person from the council to do anything?

SingleSue wrote: »

Good news though, he is on a 1st at the moment! So proud of him and chuffed.

Well done James. :T:T:T