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Nice People Thread Number 11 - A Treasury of Nice People
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PasturesNew wrote: »Ah .... I see...
Nobody'd do that would they ....
Whatever makes them think they would. I guess it's all about creating an air of Londonism around themselves, encouraging local posh people to believe they're buying from the same place the smart set buy at regularly.
I'll have to remember that if I ever start a business.... create a page dedicated only to giving precise directions for posh people to come and buy.... or instructions purely aimed at posh people .... who will never come/buy, but it might create the idea that they do. Noted.
Quite a few locals work in London or live there part of the week. So, they don my need to go there at all. I have to admit I have been in only a handful of times, to buy veg which in season IS dirt cheap and lovely) and to show other people. I also got a beautiful bunch of flowers there, the kind you'd pay a lot for, for one pound fifty, in the summer.
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The hardest thing at the moment is people trying to jolly me out of it. I've got bloody cancer, it's horrible and it's painful and quite frankly the people that are telling me that I should pull myself together are the ones that kvetch on a Monday morning about how difficult life is.
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I have people who tell me that I will "just have to" do xyz, when I know I have tried loads of times and am not able to do it, and other people who tell me I should cut myself some slack and stop beating myself up, when in fact things are genuinely not OK. The helpful ones are the ones that actually listen, and may make suggestions of things I might find helpful, but don't tell me what to do.The Hertfordshire dream is over.
Writing this week off!
Oh no. Sorry to hear that. Another dodgy hug from an older woman: :grouphug:lostinrates wrote: »I had already forwarded this to DH who said it looked great but he didn't know how he would fit it in. I think he's being foolish.
Send him a hug from me. :grouphug:Do you know anyone who's bereaved? Point them to https://www.AtaLoss.org which does for bereavement support what MSE does for financial services, providing links to support organisations relevant to the circumstances of the loss & the local area. (Link permitted by forum team)
Tyre performance in the wet deteriorates rapidly below about 3mm tread - change yours when they get dangerous, not just when they are nearly illegal (1.6mm).
Oh, and wear your seatbelt. My kids are only alive because they were wearing theirs when somebody else was driving in wet weather with worn tyres.0 -
I have to say Viva, I'm really glad you posted the link to the Ariely course. I'm missing it already!vivatifosi wrote: »Hope you don't mind me posting... not aimed at anyone in particular, but looks very good.
I don't think this stress one is for me. I've 2 courseera courses I'm watching at the moment, but haven't started 1 of them, as it is likely to coincide with the move.
Do please post any other interesting ones!:)It's getting harder & harder to keep the government in the manner to which they have become accustomed.0 -
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I have people who tell me that I will "just have to" do xyz, when I know I have tried loads of times and am not able to do it, and other people who tell me I should cut myself some slack and stop beating myself up, when in fact things are genuinely not OK. The helpful ones are the ones that actually listen, and may make suggestions of things I might find helpful, but don't tell me what to do.
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Trying to explain frustrations of a broken brain is similar. Lack of concentration foR medical reasons for example makes things that are well within intellectual grasp ( like hiring a car) difficult in a way people find hard to conceive. Juggling information does cut work in the way my mind expects it to.
Hearing switching in and out and processing issues plus concentrations make phone calls at times very difficult. ATM concentration levels are very low and I cannot really process what I hear very well, when I am talking face to face with a person its ok, or in writing easier, but RP cannot understand why I cannot phone and book a car. ( have decided that I will probably just drive jalopy and park in the road and take a stick and get a grip with directions, I know the way so just have to not frazzle). Even that's odd, I used to love accidental wrong turns as you found knew things or bits where roads joined up you didn't know,....now its hard.
Reflexes still work, i catch things:rotfl:
Its very difficult to explain things that aren't physical obstructions people can see, and the mind is a complex thing. I have the phrase ' just accept when I say I cannot that I cannot and the reasons to explain might be personal and embarrassing to me and offensive to you' when saying no to a persistent parent. ( my parents are not up to date with diagnoses ) I have said I might have a surgery as a result of this round.0 -
lemonjelly wrote: »I have to say Viva, I'm really glad you posted the link to the Ariely course. I'm missing it already!
I don't think this stress one is for me. I've 2 courseera courses I'm watching at the moment, but haven't started 1 of them, as it is likely to coincide with the move.
Do please post any other interesting ones!:)
You may also like this one jelly, as may zag and a few others...
https://www.coursera.org/course/historyofrock1
starts tomorrow...
I've signed up to start, but I'm also having a blast with the Analyzing Global Trends for Business and Society, which so far (week 1) is very interesting. A bit of politics, a bit of economics. Have studied both before so not a challenge, but I'm looking forward to the week on the GFC, and its great having an update as globalisation has moved on a lot since I studied it.Please stay safe in the sun and learn the A-E of melanoma: A = asymmetry, B = irregular borders, C= different colours, D= diameter, larger than 6mm, E = evolving, is your mole changing? Most moles are not cancerous, any doubts, please check next time you visit your GP.
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That does look interesting!
It's just the timing:(
Looks fun though:)It's getting harder & harder to keep the government in the manner to which they have become accustomed.0 -
Kiwi is over the moon his best friends are in the back garden this afternoon. They are non plussed but came to have an apple so I could take their picture.
I cut that grass at the weekend.
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That's a little over 2x the size of mine .... I've never owned a lawnmower before and I learnt something ..... there's the lawn and the edges. Cut the edges first.....lostinrates wrote: »I cut that grass at the weekend.
What I did was mowed the lawn and put the mower away.... then, the next day, went out with the shears and cut the edges. If I'd cut the edges first then all the edge cuttings would have been hoovered up by the mower ....
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PasturesNew wrote: »I'm not sure what words to use for my last 3 years.... I'm still stunned/numbed, I've used the phrase PTSD before.... indeed I had to go away for a week close to the end and drive 250 miles - I sat there like a dummy at the wheel completely traumatised and unable to function .... and, overall, I'm not yet out of wherever I was during that initial year that lead to this one.
I think committing to buying a house is my first new step.... everything I've done since then to this point has been "motion indicating movement", but has in fact been just life avoidance.
PN you express all that so brilliantly. I want to borrow "I am not yet out of wherever I was" please, and also "life avoidance". V useful for describing where I am and what I spend a lot of time doing.
I am hoping for both of us, and other NP who need it, that things will be on the up from here - maybe not fast, and maybe with ups and downs mixed in together, but taking more steps forwards than backwards. (Mixed metaphor for up/down and forwards/backwards - sorry).lostinrates wrote: »Trying to explain frustrations of a broken brain is similar. Lack of concentration foR medical reasons for example makes things that are well within intellectual grasp ( like hiring a car) difficult in a way people find hard to conceive. Juggling information does cut work in the way my mind expects it to.... RP cannot understand why I cannot ...
Its very difficult to explain things that aren't physical obstructions people can see, and the mind is a complex thing. I have the phrase ' just accept when I say I cannot that I cannot and the reasons to explain might be personal and embarrassing to me and offensive to you' when saying no to a persistent parent. ( my parents are not up to date with diagnoses ) I have said I might have a surgery as a result of this round.
That makes sense to me, even though my experience has been different. The frustration is also similar when people don't get why your kid cannot do or cope with what kids that age are supposed to be able to do or cope with. I have great "oh yes, I get that" conversations with friends who've adopted kids who consequently have some attachment disorders. Their difficulties are quite different from what happened to my kids with their bereavement, but the departure from normal expectations gave us parents a feeling of understanding each other.
I imagine Sue has been feeling much the same about the school not getting that Youngest can't cope with what other 16-year-olds take in their stride.
At least DS's dyslexia is met with a lot more comprehension than it would have received when I was a kid. Maybe we are en route to becoming a society that's more understanding of those whose path through life is non-standard.Do you know anyone who's bereaved? Point them to https://www.AtaLoss.org which does for bereavement support what MSE does for financial services, providing links to support organisations relevant to the circumstances of the loss & the local area. (Link permitted by forum team)
Tyre performance in the wet deteriorates rapidly below about 3mm tread - change yours when they get dangerous, not just when they are nearly illegal (1.6mm).
Oh, and wear your seatbelt. My kids are only alive because they were wearing theirs when somebody else was driving in wet weather with worn tyres.0 -
Help yourselfPN you express all that so brilliantly. I want to borrow "I am not yet out of wherever I was" please, and also "life avoidance". V useful for describing where I am and what I spend a lot of time doing.
Super fast would suit me fineI am hoping for both of us, and other NP who need it, that things will be on the up from here - maybe not fast, and maybe with ups and downs mixed in together, but taking more steps forwards than backwards. (Mixed metaphor for up/down and forwards/backwards - sorry).
No bumps either.....0
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