Nice People Thread Number 11 - A Treasury of Nice People

lostinrates

PasturesNew wrote: »

There's a lot to visit, but it all costs money - and, alone, you then wonder if it's worthwhile at all anyway.

I'll be visiting 'family' who I've never met, including one whose house I am not allowed to visit ... and one who rarely leaves their house. Cousin is agrophobic (when it suits for dramatic reasons) and she's told me (although she's a well-known drama queen and liar) that her brother would just refuse to meet me as he doesn't meet people. All bizarre. I'll be staying with a control freak aunty whose version of events/conversations/everything is created in her own head and therefore, by her thinking it, becomes reality.

Really ...... looking forward to it .... not.

There are some circumstances where spending money is wise even for the scroogiest. Stay in a B and B. The grottiest one sounds an improvement.

PasturesNew

lostinrates wrote: »

There are some circumstances where spending money is wise even for the scroogiest. Stay in a B and B. The grottiest one sounds an improvement.

That wouldn't be "allowed". I'll definitely be bullied into staying and it's pretty much compulsory .... although there are two places to stay and the other one's not a control freak, but it still means I have to stay at the controlling one too

Two sisters.... who don't get on - could stay at the domineering one's without the other minding; can't stay at the nice one's as the domineering one would make a fuss.

All comes under the heading of: it's better to bite the bullet for the short-term than suffer future fallout from not doing what they want.



One has a fabulous, striking, huge house and is a "lady of standing in the community" ...... that's the control freak. Nice one's got a shambles of a wrecked flat and I'd be on the sofa, but feel comfortable

lostinrates

You know you have too much stuff when......

...you are trying to remember whether or not there is a small chest freezer unused the barn that could be used for dog food over flow.

bugslet

michaels wrote: »

Niks I envy you your single life so much right now.

I'm single too - and it does have its plus points and plenty of minus points as well. Lydia said it so much better than I could, but to add, don't soldier on if it's becoming a long term issue.

PasturesNew wrote: »

I'll be visiting 'family' who I've never met, including one whose house I am not allowed to visit ... and one who rarely leaves their house. Cousin is agrophobic (when it suits for dramatic reasons) and she's told me (although she's a well-known drama queen and liar) that her brother would just refuse to meet me as he doesn't meet people. All bizarre. I'll be staying with a control freak aunty whose version of events/conversations/everything is created in her own head and therefore, by her thinking it, becomes reality.
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And all of a sudden having zero family is making me happy. I couldn't cope, I need straightforward. Illness I can accept, drama queens just wouldn't last 5 minutes.

The way I look at you accomodation is that you either upset them or you upset yourself. You have to live with yourself for longer than a few days. But then again I've never had a problem refusing to do things that I don't want to.

lostinrates wrote: »

No, but made nervous. .

That's not good. The more nervous they become, the less they go out, the more thier world shrinks and the more isolated they become.

Yes, you have to much stuff:rotfl:

lostinrates

Well, if I found freezer it will be coming in either to house or possibly the feed room and employed!

We have our stuff and all parents stuff and friends stuff stored here. My container garden actually belongs to friends of RP who rented a flat with a balcony then moved to one without one.....they want all their plants back one day......


Edit: RP has spotted the freezer and says its behind the biggest 'stuff mountain'. Well, that's ok. I want to sort out stuff mountain. We have a sofa out there I fancy having a go at reupholstering myself, so might bring that in. How bad can I get it? ( don't ask neverdespair boy)

The only reason I haven't started is because we cannot decide whether or not to paint the wooden bits, Not sure what they are,ms one sort of yellow wood, that I don't like, but painting still feels a bit step.

silvercar

Happy Birthday Nikks! We all get bad birth-days. I remember being pregnant on my 30th birthday and feeling good; my 40th sent me into a depression of feeling old. My 50th was a day of disbelief that I could be 50, because that is really old.

michaels wrote:

Niks I envy you your single life so much right now.

It gets easier, it really does. Working during the day and running round after the kids and keeping the family going is hard work. Trying to do it whilst restricting the budget at the same time is an extra strain.

PN wrote:

This is the trouble I mentioned earlier in the thread - if you date furreners, there comes a point when you have to decide on the country to live in and stay.

That is your specialness, PN. Feeling secure in your own comfort zone and wanting to protect that existence. For others the possibility of living in two countries is exciting and viewed positively. Always planes, trains and automobiles to travel.

silvercar

Sue wrote:

No time to prep him, no time to talk him around and calm him and it will probably turn out with me running between old and new builds for the next month and a very unsettled youngest trying to do well in his GCSEs.

Half the battle must be to keep him motivated.

silvercar

PasturesNew wrote: »

There's a lot to visit, but it all costs money - and, alone, you then wonder if it's worthwhile at all anyway.

I'll be visiting 'family' who I've never met, including one whose house I am not allowed to visit ... and one who rarely leaves their house. Cousin is agrophobic (when it suits for dramatic reasons) and she's told me (although she's a well-known drama queen and liar) that her brother would just refuse to meet me as he doesn't meet people. All bizarre. I'll be staying with a control freak aunty whose version of events/conversations/everything is created in her own head and therefore, by her thinking it, becomes reality.

Really ...... looking forward to it .... not.

Why are you going?

PasturesNew

silvercar wrote: »

For others the possibility of living in two countries is exciting and viewed positively. Always planes, trains and automobiles to travel.

While younger.... the older you get the more permanent the move is likely to have to be.... and then there's the balance of "who is going first" as that's got the potential for somebody to be left alone in a furren country.

Some people say I overthink things......

PasturesNew

silvercar wrote: »

Why are you going?

Many reasons.... too many/long to even start a post here about it.... to simplify it, put it down to some amount of deceased's parents wish and the constant expectation that one should go and visit those relatives as I've never been. I've never been as I've never had the money to go, even for a "free" holiday.